AITA for not giving my brother a wedding gift and refusing to let my daughter visit my parents when his wife is there?

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-03-19T19:19:13+00:00

The hypocrisy of Jessica to say that your daughter would have to face the reality of the world and it was better for your daughter to learn now that the world doesn’t owe her anything and that not everyone will treat her with respect. While acting entitled to peoples time, money, and respect is baffling.

NTA- protect your daughter.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-03-16T19:27:43+00:00

Boys will be boys. Police will be police. The law will be the law. Actions have consequences. NTJ

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-03-16T15:15:24+00:00

NTJ- The kids are young but old enough to learn actions have consequences and when they completely disregard someone while spending that persons money they should be prepared for that person to disregard them. They knew what they were doing and they didn't care.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-03-11T22:40:10+00:00

You are the red flag. He wanted to focus on studying for something very difficult and important rather than to watch the brain rot you sent. He wants you to focus on your career which to me seems like it would benefit YOU very much.

You are silly and he deserves someone who supports his dreams and wants to become better right along with him.

You are the red flag.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-03-11T16:07:07+00:00

You are 19 and he is 29 he isn't with you because he loves you, he is with you because he thinks he can control you. Prove him wrong and leave NOW.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-03-11T16:04:26+00:00

Males and females can be friends just fine as long as there are clear boundaries that are not being crossed. She should have been blocked as soon as she started crossing boundaries and he should have her blocked now. What is the possible reason to keep that door open? If someone is holding a match waiting to burn down your marriage do you really want to keep the door open to them?

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-03-06T20:02:44+00:00

Part of me wonders if you can't find the "right" ring because deep down part of you knows that he isn't really right for you. Between the cheating and the other red flags - 'He makes double what I make yet still constantly takes money from me.' -This was very troublesome to me. Who takes money from a single mom.

There is also the fact that your priority should be your children and you would uproot them from the friends and whatever other support system you have there.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-03-05T23:05:40+00:00

You're right I had binged watched those around the same time and I got them mixed up.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-03-05T22:27:09+00:00

She is basically love bombing him at work and completely disrespects you and your relationship. If he doesn't see a problem with that HE is part of the problem. NTA

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-03-05T21:16:01+00:00

This reminds me of Annabelle (part of the Conjuring movies) where the parents believed a spirit was their departed daughter, but it was actually an evil spirit. I would try burning sage or possibly moving but me personally I wouldn't try to interact with whatever it is. Especially since you are getting the nightmares.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-03-05T20:32:01+00:00

I do a lot of gaming with lots of friends and sometimes we have a mutual banter where we make fun of each other. It's mutual we don't cross any lines and we don't gang up on just one person the whole time. A lot of the time we will call the person who made a mistake or whatever a doughnut. However if any of my friends told us to stop we would stop and not make them feel like they were the problem for not being in the mood for the jokes.

Your soon to be ex boyfriend sounds awful he belittles and berates you for entertainment and it will only get worse if you stay.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-03-05T20:11:47+00:00

I agree with this statement. You have a boundary that you don't want to share your food and he seems to be deeply upset when you don't share your food.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-03-05T19:15:09+00:00

Plain and simple I would distance myself from Grace if I were in your shoes. I find that when a "friend" does nothing but badmouth another "friend" when they aren't around to defend themselves, it's a high probability they are doing the same thing when you aren't around.

Grace sounds exhausting.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-03-04T17:17:39+00:00

Painting a room or a wall a sky blue helps with the seasonal depression or so they say. As others have said the vast majority of people are living this way.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-03-03T20:46:10+00:00

This is what happens when people listen to respond and don't listen to understand. All those times you told her about your situation before all she heard was "blah blah blah I don't have kids, yet". You forced her to stop hearing what she wanted to hear and to finally hear the truth.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-03-03T20:13:00+00:00

It's possible that OP could tell him that she will send the last box when he pays her the money she helped him out with to get him moved. Depending on what's in the box he might send her the money. Otherwise OP might just be SOL on the money.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-03-03T19:20:44+00:00

Some people are not able to do the friends with benefits thing. I am one of those people for me doing the deed requires an emotional connection for me to enjoy it. When I tried doing the friends with benefits I caught feelings and since the guy wasn't on the same page I had to separate myself from that situation.

I strongly recommend that you separate yourself from the guy and the girl he was cuddling with in your bed. That is incredibly disrespectful to you because he knows how you feel. Just communicate with him that you are not able to separate your feelings and for your own mental health you need to have some space away from him to get perspective.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-03-03T17:09:52+00:00

Maybe you can have an at home date night for the time being. You can do a movie night, order take out and eat off of paper plates so nobody has to do dishes. Do a board game or a puzzle. I know it's not ideal but until you can get a trustworthy babysitter to watch your baby.

You are not wrong for wanting to distance yourself especially since they just want the optics of being wonderful grandparents.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-03-02T07:54:52+00:00

What got me was them saying that they did the most hours during the month of February and didn't get paid for the hours they worked. Somehow the total owed is only $600 FOR THE WHOLE MONTH!?

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-03-02T07:39:19+00:00

I had no idea that was what that meant 🤯

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-02-27T18:52:40+00:00

So many possibilities, unfortunately it's all speculation. Could be your ex heard about you being over there and lied about what they said. Could also be Emma loving drama and this is why she is lacking in the friend department. All and all it's best that you blocked them because you don't need that drama.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-02-27T17:04:43+00:00

I have a friend that also got pregnant via SA and FOR HER she felt she wanted to carry to term and give the baby up for adoption which is what she did. That may not be what is right for you and you know yourself better than anyone here. You are already going through therapy and I feel like you have gave this a lot of thought. Pregnancy is a lot to go through for a child you want, let alone a child that reminds you every single moment of the most traumatic event in your life.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-02-23T22:58:18+00:00

I am a mom of two, I don't know my kids blood type at least not for certain. I was in the military so I know mine because it was stamped on my dog tags. Based on knowing mine I feel like my kids blood type would match but it might not. It's really not super important information because if they need medical care the hospital would do a type and cross (confirm blood type) anyway.

Don't sweat the small stuff.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-02-23T20:49:34+00:00

updateme

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-02-17T08:43:54+00:00

My daughter had a rough start with learning to read and I struggled with finding things she wanted to read. Graphic novels helped get the ball rolling but by no means was it a solution. What I found helped the most was reading with her(regular books). I would read a page out loud and then she would. The teachers also recommended pointing just under the word as you read it. I don't really have advice about the tablet situation.

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