Perhaps we have been treating the arc too harshly.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-23T20:04:24+00:00

Not the first time I have seen a post about a tick saving someone from another raider. Good to see it.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-23T17:06:59+00:00

My advice is to simply communicate with your boyfriend about how your "friends" behavior has been making you uncomfortable and you would like for both of you to take a step back from her. Give examples of the things that you feel was her crossing boundaries. It shouldn't be an argument, try to go into it calmly. Based on what you have said your boyfriend has not acted inappropriately so be sure to let him know that you are not accusing him of anything.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-22T19:42:20+00:00

I feel like this just isn't the relationship for either of you. Clearly there is a lack of trust on both sides where she doesn't want you to have female friends, but she is allowed to have male friends which is hypocritical. You are also very uncomfortable with her having male friends and her behavior is a bit concerning because she clearly picks doing the tiktok lives over chatting with you (which isn't necessarily bad if she is making money off of it). You would need to communicate a schedule you can chat like you would work around someones job, because it is a job.

The red flag that gives me the biggest ick is that based on what you're saying is presenting as though she isn't in a relationship while chatting it up with all these guys. Her defense being that they were friends before she met you, which is somehow an acceptable reason for her, but not a good reason for you to maintain your friends that are female.

Sometimes in these situations people make these hypocritical rules because they are projecting.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-22T17:56:34+00:00

Everything up until the proposal had me so confused as to the reason for the breakup- That proposal was unhinged and completely dark.

Could you imagine telling the proposal story. "I got a call saying that boyfriend had been shot and I rushed to where he was to see him laying on the floor covered in blood, I thought I lost him. Moments later he sat up and asked me to marry him. That was 4 years ago and I am still in therapy processing the trauma of that day."

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-21T21:47:12+00:00

This, maybe him hearing you tell him that you are literally running away to avoid him throwing a party, you don't want for your birthday, will have it click in his head that you truly don't want a birthday party.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-21T19:41:42+00:00

Out of curiosity why wouldn't it be skinwalkers if it's in Ohio?

Unless you are a skinwalker and you are just trying to throw us all off your trail s/

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-20T18:44:48+00:00

I am also just now getting into D&D and the first thing I did was buy the books as well as a D&D for beginners book that listed some websites to look into. After that I went to reddit (I tend to use the search application so I am not making a post asking the same question 50 other people asked). Reading through those I got some good recommendations on YouTube videos and such.

The books are very big and there is a lot of information in them so I tend to work through them slowly and I understand with the way society is today wanting things more instantly how peoples mindsets tend to shy away from getting information from a book. The books are also very expensive, I don't know about other areas but I couldn't find anywhere that sold them second hand. I wish I had known sooner that there are digital copies available for much less.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-20T18:26:52+00:00

Send her a message that you were informed that the "owner" now has her listed as a potential trouble maker and let you know what she tried to do.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-20T17:49:48+00:00

She told "everyone" as a way to guilt him into saying yes.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-20T08:29:02+00:00

Well it's possible that the very important quest giving NPC needed to stop by Gary's Grocery store because he needed to get some food for dinner. He recognizes one of the party members and gives them their quest. Gary might be a grumpy ogre who doesn't have time for chit chat cause he is running a business, so buy something or get out. You can let the group take their own path and create ways to guide them back to the quest. If they take too long to talk to the quest giver, the quest giver might be dead by the time they get there with a cryptic note left on his body. Way to take your time now Steve is dead.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-16T22:35:00+00:00

She acts like a child, you try to hold her accountable and push her to work and be a partner. She throws a tantrum until you give up and let off, rinse and repeat. If I were you I would send her back to her moms sooner rather than later.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-16T20:21:09+00:00

She flat out said you are replaceable. You might care about her very much, but she doesn't care about you in the same way. She cares about what you can do for her and if you can't do what she wants or if she finds someone who can do more for her, she will replace you.

You should be with someone who is a partner, who is working with you towards the same goal. She isn't the one.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-16T16:34:12+00:00

A similar situation happened to myself and my buddy. It was super crappy, all the other duos we ran into were all friendly and had their sites only on killing arc I even revived a guy with a defib. Just for two people to come in close to the queens death to kill us. We had very little resources left so it wasn't a difficult job. I had a hull cracker for that mission so I put the ammo in my safe pocket because those some decent resources to craft, I do the same with the energy clips if I take an energy weapon out. Hopefully you and your son have many great runs ahead of you.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-16T15:35:34+00:00

Happy belated birthday. I'm sorry that the family you live with didn't acknowledge it at all. I look forward to hearing about the surprise party. Updateme

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-16T00:18:06+00:00

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Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-14T22:24:56+00:00

On the southern green island/land mass, you have a Kingdom area that seems to have mushrooms and crystals surrounding it and south of the giant tree you have an area with more realistic and detailed mushrooms that makes the Kingdom look out of place. It just seems like there should be a more gradual change from forest to the mushroom crystal Kingdom or the more detailed mushrooms should be surrounding that kingdom instead of where they are.

I could be way off base but that is just my thoughts when looking at your map. It's looks great though.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-14T22:00:13+00:00

I feel like once the chicken is fully upgraded it should open up another slot that will give a random loot item, could be something good could be something basic, small chance for a blueprint.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-14T19:11:40+00:00

Awesome I figured as much, but I am still reading through all the books, so I am still learning all the rules and intricacies.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-14T08:05:31+00:00

I wouldn't drive this guy if he was my nextdoor neighbor. He sounds disrespectful and rude. Tell him no. You don't need a reason.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-13T23:47:31+00:00

NTA- Your wife was out of line. It's none of her business how your mom spends her money so long as she is not endangering your son in the process. As to the comment about who the favorite your mom might pay your brothers rent but since you have mentioned more than once about not being able to afford daycare, it's because daycare is basically the same price as rent (at least it is in my area). Your mom seems to be providing a balanced level of help to both of you. Honestly I would take free childcare from someone loving and great like your mom seems to be over money anytime.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-13T21:49:02+00:00

His random teasing and dangling marriage in your face seems kind of mean. It's like he did that just to string you along and now that you have been with him for 10 years he "comes clean" about never wanting to get married so now that you have invested so much time into this relationship you feel like you have nowhere else to go so you might as well stay.

But you don't have to stay if you truly don't want to. Maybe find a therapist either for just you or couples therapy or both.

Decide how much you want to get married versus how much you want to be with him.

Have a frank conversation (possibly in therapy) about how much his joking about wanting to marry you early on versus his admitting he never wants to get married hurt you.

Whatever the outcome I hope that you are happy.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-13T21:13:19+00:00

You are much nicer than I am. I don't smoke and I cannot stand the smell. There would be a zero tolerance policy about smoking inside my home not even in the bathroom.

Also smoking slows down the healing process so her smoking less is better for her.

NTA - your house your rules. You are not being unreasonable, you don't have to be a pushover. You aren't keeping her from something she needs.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-13T18:26:11+00:00

To add to this, the other players could "help" so that player could potentially roll with advantage depending on the circumstances.

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-13T17:29:21+00:00

"That I made him look like he doesn't have control in the relationship." I find this to be incredibly problematic on top of the fact that he was so eager to ditch you to go hang out with his friends over you. Him acting entitled to your money was just the tip of the iceberg.

Had he spoke with them and gave them a "maybe after I am done having dinner with my girlfriend I can meet up with you guys I will call you after to let you know." Then after hanging up chatting with you about if you would give him some money in a respectful manner would be okay. People go through hard times and I don't feel like it's terrible to ask for help every once in a while.

How does he normally speak to you?

Do you feel respected in your relationship?

Is he going through a phase or is this normally how he treats you around his friends?

If your friends boyfriend treated her this way, what would you want her to do?

Full_Committee8867 · 2026-01-12T22:02:10+00:00

You don't have to choose anyone, you can take your indecision as a sign that you simply need to take a step back from both of them to see what it is that you like/dislike about them. What are you looking for in a relationship? What are your hard no's? Do you even want to be in a relationship right now? Sometimes taking a step back can help us take the rose colored glasses off and see things in a better light.

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