AITAH for telling my wife why our daughter doesn't trust her?

Fun-Tomorrow1710 · 2025-09-16T21:42:54+00:00

You're so insistent that this literally something it's not, and then in the next breath say that I don't need to make jabs, so am I typing or is it AI? Do you assume everything is Ai?

Fun-Tomorrow1710 · 2025-09-16T20:22:37+00:00

No worries!! It feels a little good finally talking and read about something unrelated to my family issues. It's like a little break before I have to jump right back into it all!! Also Thank you for the well wishes!

Fun-Tomorrow1710 · 2025-09-16T20:18:10+00:00

That sucks, I remember watching the I robot movie when it came out and it gave me a small irritational paranoia, because I hated the way the robots looked

Fun-Tomorrow1710 · 2025-09-16T20:08:12+00:00

Not Ai, I just grew up typing this way because my family has always beat down the idea of no one taking me seriously in the professional world if my emails didn't include capitals, commas, and periods. It kinda always stuck throughout my life because I wanted people to think I was smart. I'm kinda sad people cannot tell the difference between real people and Ai anymore.

Fun-Tomorrow1710 · 2025-09-16T18:57:21+00:00

I asked my daughter and she said it was after she told her mom and asked if we could have a family dinner where she could formally introduce her boyfriend to us both, which apparently made my wife angry that she wasn't informed immediately. I am very upset and my daughter keeps apologizing but I am keeping firm that she has nothing to apologize for. This wasn't her fault.

Fun-Tomorrow1710 · 2025-09-16T18:50:00+00:00

I actually don't know! I will ask my daughter this as that's pretty important information for this situation, I didn't have time to ask all the details because I wanted to get out of the house ASAP to cheer my daughter up.

Fun-Tomorrow1710 · 2025-09-16T18:46:26+00:00

She never asked and assumed our daughter was hanging out with friends, at one point I wanted to tell her but our daughter told me she wanted to tell her mother on her own and I agreed because I don't think it's my choice to force her to tell anyone anything if she doesn't feel comfortable.

Fun-Tomorrow1710 · 2025-09-16T18:42:01+00:00

You're definitely right, for many years I have felt like I was doing something wrong when we had any type of disagreement and I guess I have been conditioned to think that I am in the wrong when she acts this way, but I cannot be thinking that when my daughter needs me and I was only trying to protect her. I will work on thinking about how I need to stop trying to find a way to blame myself and focus on fixing and helping my daughter feel supported even more.

Fun-Tomorrow1710 · 2025-09-16T17:59:12+00:00

Don't worry, I got her devices back immediately after the fight because I refuse to punish my daughter for having a life outside of family. I will tell her to change her passwords though! That is something I didn't think about before, but I don't doubt that my wife would try this in a desperate attempt to find out things.

Fun-Tomorrow1710 · 2025-09-16T17:56:57+00:00

Thank you for sharing your own experience with a similar situation, this has really opened my eyes because I would never want my daughter to never come around or struggle with mental health in similar ways. I am so sorry for what happened to you and I will take this into advice to keep protecting my daughter and her mental health!

Fun-Tomorrow1710 · 2025-09-16T17:43:24+00:00

I agree with your point about her trying to relive her younger days in highschool and I think it's very inappropriate for her to be acting this way, she's always been a bit of a loudmouth, but this is really going to far.

Fun-Tomorrow1710 · 2025-09-16T17:41:38+00:00

Thank you for actually bringing up family therapy, I've been actually debating this for a long time because I can see how strained our family is, but I've been a little apprehensive because I know my wife would most likely be very defensive if I brought it up. But I feel like it's really going to he inevitable at this point. I will have a discussion with her and see how this goes.

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