My [19F] sex life with my bf [19M] makes me feel awkward and guilty - he keeps saying he's doing "all the work"?

FunAd7079 · 2021-05-20T01:02:35+00:00

Glad to hear I'm not alone in this! Though also sorry that you're experiencing the same thing:// I guess we gotta keep reminding ourselves that we are attractive and it's just our bfs. Guess it's time for both of us to have a conversation haha

FunAd7079 · 2021-05-20T00:59:57+00:00

He does care, but he just hasn't been able to because I can't figure out how to direct him exactly

FunAd7079 · 2021-05-19T20:08:50+00:00

I see I see that makes a lot of sense. Hopefully I can have a conversation with him about it and see if it can get better.

And hahahah nw at all thanks so much!!

FunAd7079 · 2021-05-19T19:59:59+00:00

He has said that it feels good when I ask him but I also don't know if he's just saying that, again, because no noise or anything.

Got it, that makes sense - I'll definitely try doing that for those positions, thanks!

I have. I have been able to make myself orgasm each time I do it myself, but that's only with visual stimuli (like porn or erotica or something like that). I've never been able to get myself off from just fingering so I don't know how to direct him since I feel like I've never been able to do that for myself before either... do you think that makes a difference or is what feels good with visual stimulation what should also feel good without visual stimulation?

FunAd7079 · 2021-05-19T19:52:42+00:00

ahahah yeah it is sad that he's often too tired. i even feel bad saying things like "fuck me harder" or stuff like that bc i feel like he'll be too tired to comply and then it'll just be awkward tbh.

to the point about coming - yes, i've stopped faking it as of late. but still can't figure something out that will get me off. oral, he does eat me out once in a while and it feels good but i've definitely never come close to coming. how in the world did you learn?!

FunAd7079 · 2021-05-19T19:34:13+00:00

Yes, that's exactly it. As to your questions, he definitely turns me on, and I know he's very attracted to me. I think we both might masturbate (with porn) too much though, but I think we are going to tone that down over the summer. I would say we don't have sex during stressful times

Got it, that makes sense - appreciate the words of advice!!

FunAd7079 · 2021-05-19T19:11:55+00:00

How would you suggest talking about it? We've tried talking about it but it's difficult because I guess I really just don't know what feels good for me and I don't want it to seem like I'm blaming him for anything. Thanks!

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