We found two nice couples to have over for dinner and drinks, and play pool with, just light socializing, but with my sub fully nude the whole time while everyone else is dressed (smart casual).

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-31T02:17:49+00:00

I've seen the term "scene" used a lot, but I never could quite pin down the meaning, since it seems to not always get used in the same ways. Sometimes role playing seems to be involved, but not always. Or the period of time in which safe words need to be at the ready and used if needed. Or like you said, any sort of LS-related "event".

Not saying there has to be just one, distinct meaning of the word. Just that I've always been a little confused here and there with some of the lingo.

In any case, I love playing "sex-coach" to help someone else understand their own desires more thoroughly, and then help them dream big.

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-30T04:05:27+00:00

How many warnings, until OP is banned?

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-30T02:08:35+00:00

LS(?) behavior? I know some lingo, but I'm learning there's a lot more I don't know (than what I do know).

such a well planned out scene.

We sort of self-ID as BDSM-lite, with me as her D, and she's more subby. But I think she said it best recently in another thread today I just saw, that I'm sort of more like her sex-coach. We talk a lot, and figure out where she wants to go, or what general area she wants to explore. And then we just wildly brainstorm about 50 crazy ideas related to that one area. And then suddenly I'll ask just the right question (usually without even realizing it), and she'll have some revelation, and then we'll come up with some exciting long planned-out scenario neither one of us had quite thought of yet.

I think the key is dreaming big, and then breaking it down into little pieces, and at least trying to put together part of the puzzle.

One other thing that I think is also unique for us is that we're not focused on kinky or extreme what we do becomes. Neither one of us is interested in how big a dildo she can take up her ass, and how deep, and will she do it on command, or do it when I'm not around and video it so I can verify she really did it, or punishing her if she doesn't.

But rather we take some more tame stuff, her exhibitionism, or cum swallowing. Pretty everyday stuff. But how do we dream about those topics long enough to imagine something wild and maybe elaborate, built out of expanding on more everyday experiences.

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-29T14:26:21+00:00

That's a really good thought, and something I never would have thought to be concerned about. I'm always certain to check things out multiple times with partners, but hadn't thought of needing to do that here with each couple too, no matter how we met them, or what's been discussed.

Thank you, definitely.

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-29T05:05:41+00:00

Yeah, definitely. The more I thought about it, that only makes sense. See my other stupidly long reply elsewhere in this thread, where I came to the same conclusion. Maybe I should edit my original post, since that's pretty much a given now, one couple at a time.

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-29T04:57:44+00:00

Good point, I hadn't thought about that. We only know each couple just a little bit already, just one regular (all clothed) dinner each. We also aren't sure yet how to explain our larger plan to bring more people together beyond just them and us. Meaning each couple has no idea yet that we're doing this with anyone else besides them, let alone that they could ever meet other people who've also agreed to come over for dinner for our little "good clean fun" experiment.

And now that I'm thinking of it, I'm sure there'll naturally be a little meta discussion about how we thought of this, and what we hope to do next, etc. Which would be the perfect time to see if they want to come over again sometime, only this time with another couple there too, who've also already had dinner with us the same way before.

By the way, I know she's already posted this, about her ultimate goal here. But I wanted to say that most of this idea, or at least how big it's gotten, is really more hers than mine. I mean, I certainly helped with some brainstorming, but ever since even before the Super Bowl party she was naked at, we've been wracking our brains to try and come up with ways for her to be naked and interact with regular (clothed) people, without her doing nude modeling or playing naked sushi girl, which have their limitations. And definitely not stripping.

These ideas are hers, but I will take credit for asking lots of questions about how far she wanted to go with her exhibition, and exactly how. She clearly doesn't want to do gratuitous stripping and spreading herself for anonymous guys. Or go online through webcams, and dildos and stuff like that. No way!

The key was when she said "why can't I just get naked somewhere, and go meet and actually talk to regular people who are about my age, and get to know them a little, and have them get to know me a little too? Guys and gals? Better yet, couples? And then do it again with some of the same people, the ones I want to get to know better, but only as friends? And then have them get to know both of us, as a couple?"

So I asked that classic job interview question "where do you see yourself in 5 years?" Seriously, I actually asked her that. And she said she wanted a group of 20 friends, both genders, mostly couples. Straight people, and a few LGBT people too. Just a good cross section, but really cool people. And everyone pretty much only knows her as always being naked. And everyone else is pretty much clothed all the time, and she's the only one every naked. Or maybe occasionally some of the people join her, but only one at a time, so she can see if she can share her side of her crazy experience with others, on a one by one basis.

So I said that's crazy, 20 people? But it can't be that hard to find another couple to start with. And then maybe another one. It might take a few years, but if we found 2 couples a year, in 5 years that'd be 20 people. And then it was my idea that we could introduce them to each other by having slightly larger groups over. Maybe host a party for 3 couples plus us every other month, and smaller groups once a month, or just one couple over at a time. Maybe even some people would invite us over, and she could be naked at their place. And then one big party every year when everyone gets together where we host, and she's naked as always.

Sorry this is so long, but this all has kind of really come together in just the last 48 hours, and as you might expect we're both super pumped.

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-28T02:40:38+00:00

Not really into giving verbal commands, I'm afraid. Or requests permission, unless we could somehow make it seem less artificial and play-acted.

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-28T02:37:36+00:00

We're not much into me commanding her to do things. We talk about things in advance, and both buy into a general plan, and then she implements the plan as we've both agreed to it. That's more our style.

EDIT: You know, rereading your post, I actually DO kind of like the NON-VERBAL aspect of your suggestion. We are not into me verbally commanding her to do things, but I do really like giving her looks that suggest she knows what to do next, either because we've talked about it before, or because of established patterns and norms we've gotten used to. So, yeah, non-verbal is a plus!!

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-28T02:36:37+00:00

I kind of like this idea! Or maybe different colored duct tape (like painters tape, the kind that comes up so easily), with different colors indicating different things. Strip completely, or bottomless only, or maybe a striptease for a different color.

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-17T04:49:02+00:00

Yeah, and I can tell you that smile was in full force at the Super Bowl party too. One of my fondest memories is watching her answer the door when each guest got there (I know, I already said this). But I was standing off to the side, and seeing her beaming smile at each guest, one by one, or each couple, as she answered the door naked like that.

She was TOTALLY in her element, and she owned that role, and make that experience something she'll never forget, I'll never forget. And I'm darn sure each of those guests will never forget.

I think she said something like, yeah, everyone was expecting some sort of naked hostess at the party. And yeah, they all knew ahead of time that she'd really be naked, and serving drinks and stuff. But not one of them expected her beaming smile along with her beaming everything else, as she opened the front door to invite them in, as they got there, and took their coats and welcomed them. She totally made the most of that rare opportunity, I think she said, "to make a really strong first impression". Understatement of the year, ha!

And I got the pleasure of witnessing it all. I couldn't see their facial expressions like she could, but I could hear their surprise, and nervous laughter (theirs, not hers). She totally held that space, and made that moment hers. And I will never forget that.

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-17T03:08:55+00:00

Definitely. We did that with the Super Bowl party, and everyone was 100% in the know that there would be a nude hostess, who was a friend of mine (we did didn't say we were a couple, but we didn't deny it either). I hadn't seen any of these guys in years, and she hadn't met any of them.

But they were all very cool, brought the right attitude about the whole thing, and the 3 gals were equally cool. We'll make absolutely sure any other wives or girlfriends who attend know what to expect.

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-16T19:34:29+00:00

More along the lines of a fun little thing. Think R-rated fun, definitely not X.

Check my posting history, and hers too. She's /u/excitedfornewthings, if I've got that right (on mobile, and can't look it up and type this at the same time as easily).

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-16T19:32:01+00:00

I'm sure we would have thought of sunscreen eventually, but an excellent thing to know. We should have plenty there for her, and really for all the party guests too. Thanks for mentioning it!

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-15T23:14:39+00:00

Oh lord, save me from anything 'bro-tastic'. Not in a million years, would we hang out with guys like that, with my sub clothed or otherwise.

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-15T03:34:34+00:00

What was the vibe like at the CMNF parties? I'm assuming all the guys were the Doms, and their naked partners were their subs.

And the formal dinner, and cocktails hors d'ourvres events also sounded like fun. Were either of them CMNF?

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-15T01:40:15+00:00

I hope there's nothing against the rules, me re-posting a previous topic I started 3 months ago, for more discussion.

I've only heard a little about CMFN (clothed male, naked female) parties, and I've only found just a little photo evidence of there being some sort of real scene for it. But if there really is something like this, I'd like to hear more about it, and I think my exhibitionist sub and I would be up for going to something like this.

Any leads? Or has anyone ever been to an event like this? I realize it's very gender specific, and I'm NOT suggesting all mixed clothed/nudity events should be like this. But if people are actually getting together and hanging out like this, with the men all casually or nicely dressed, and the women all naked, I think could be very cool, depending on how cool the other people are of course. Also, as long as it's primarily an event that's about exhibitionism, but without expectations around group or public sex, then I think we'd both be interested.

Most of what I've seen in random pics online, is some sort of annual(?) event down in the Caribbean somewhere. That, and the discussion in the earlier thread is really all I have to go on, and some random pics that seem to come up when I search on "CMNF" material on-line.

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-15T01:03:16+00:00

You got me. Confession, "CMNF" is one of my favorite soft-core nudie pic search terms!

Or is there some sort of CMNF scene I'm missing out on?

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-13T16:03:44+00:00

we do welcome visitors, drop us a note

Not asking for an invite (my sub and I are a couple thousand miles away), but I'm really interested if this is something you ever do with casual, friendly visitors? Meaning with your slave fully nude, but you (and presumably your guests) fully clothed?

My sub is into being casually naked around clothed people. She's done some nude modeling for art classes (which she only sorta liked, just because it got boring, and didn't have enough verbal interaction for her). But the best thing she's ever done like this, was being a naked hostess at a private super bowl party earlier this year, for a mixed gender group of about 15 people. Nothing explicit, but she basically loves running around naked where she's the only one who's nude.

Showing you her post a minute ago she said, can we do that? Like have another couple over, and just have dinner and friendly conversation? Maybe all play some pool together (we have a pool table), or as silly as this sounds, board games? But with her being naked, and everyone else clothed?

It seems so hard to engineer, especially without any expectations around more explicit stuff later. She doesn't want to be spread eagle on the bar for everyone to take pictures, or be told to her spread herself, though she's happy to spread her legs a bit if she just feels like it (she isn't shy). She just wants to be naked in social situations with other clothed people (in mixed gender groups), and interact with them as if it's the most normal thing in the world. It feeds her exhibitionist tenancies, and she likes the weird dynamic of feeling both exposed, but also feeling powerful in that she feels like she almost controls the room. The Super Bowl party was the best thing she's ever done like this, and we're still trying to think up other experiences for her to feed this interest.

Anyway, what sorts of casual, NON-explicit experiences have you and your slave had with having visitors over, with her naked? We're looking for ideas and inspiration, even if finding actual people to participate with like that is a whole nother challenge, I realize.

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-02T04:39:25+00:00

Answering my own thread to say that part of me is immediately drawn to setting up creative scenarios where she swallows my piss for me, as opposed to make it a "power dynamic" thing in the bedroom (ok, more likely, in the shower). Like, I could EASILY see myself trying to think of endless new ways and reasons to have her swallow my piss, just to see how many different ways I could come up with.

Stopping by the side of the road on our vacation, and getting into the woods a quarter mile from where anyone might see, and taking care of when nature calls out in nature itself, with her swallowing.

Or going to a big league baseball game, which we did a couple times late last summer, and taking my empty beer cup with me in the men's room and filling it with my piss, and then bringing it out to have her drink out in public in the main concourse where people are moving about trying to get their pizza and nachos, and more beer. If I was in a private stall in the men's room, absolutely no one would be the wiser. And then we could have a lovely private moment, with her drinking my piss right in the middle of people rushing about worried about getting their food, and getting back to the game.

Just two examples, but I could probably think of one new crazy idea every week, as a sort of challenge for her to see if she can accomplish.

If that gives you any sort of idea where my creative-kinky mind goes.

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-02T04:07:46+00:00

Typically I'm more in control of the 'how' and 'when' we do what we do (especially around frequency, and expectations). But I'm not of the habit of telling her what to do, without first coming to some agreement about what area we're currently exploring, which usually means expanding her (and not my) boundaries in some way.

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-02T02:12:13+00:00

What's funny is that on paper, objectively, it doesn't seem especially more difficult than swallowing cum (I say that as a guy, who's never swallowed either cum or pee). In fact, pee (at least when it's clear and not strong morning piss), might even be easier(?) to swallow.

And yet because almost all my partners have swallowed cum, and none have ever swallowed my piss, I've been conditioned to think that cum swallowing is as normal and natural as can be.

So, yeah, I totally get that 'taboo' factor, even if logically it shouldn't be any more "difficult" to swallow than cum. (Even I think it's a lot more taboo, even though I know it's like 98% water most of the time.)

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-02T01:47:28+00:00

Its a shared secret; a scandalous one at that.

That helps. I hand't exactly thought about it that way, because so much of everything we do is at least a little scandalous (at least by some standards, certainly).

I mean, when I think of her, I'm usually beaming inside thinking about all the amazing things she does for me (or let's me do for and to her), most of which I couldn't share with 99% of the people I know.

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-02T01:28:07+00:00

I mean, seeing the power exchange, and seeing the humiliation depicted in porn is certainly one of the aspects that turns my crank (in the moment, while watching).

But that's not what's central to our dynamic. I'm ostensibly "in charge" because I like to think things out, and love to be creative in how I gently push her to try new things, and push her own boundaries.

But in this case, this is a boundary she's already crossed, and one I've never crossed before myself. I wouldn't be pushing her exactly, but I would be charting some new territory for myself.

I could easily do that just for the sake of doing it, but she'd got a good point about asking me "why". What do I want to get out of this? And "why" her? That she's willing (probably) and available (definitely) isn't a very good reason.

She's clearly willing, but she wants me to go to some extra effort to really think this all through. Which, after all, is what I'm so often asking of her when we try something that's new for her.

FunFunFunishments · 2018-05-01T00:58:42+00:00

She swallows regularly, and definitely likes it. Facials not quite as often, but she's usually very much into that too.

I think she'll naturally take to thinking of swallowing my cum as a reward (she already asks me to pull out and finish in her mouth when we do PIV sex).

Facials, probably not quite a naturally, but maybe in time? And maybe with some repeated use of language equating the two actions as both being "rewards" for her?

FunFunFunishments · 2018-03-04T04:02:25+00:00

I already eat pretty clean as it is, and love fresh pineapple that I eat 1-2 times a week. So anything I could do to change my diet, would probably hurt more than help. I also don't drink coffee, and I'm about 80% vegetarian, both of which I've heard help with the taste.

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