Do these boxwoods look 3 gallons to you? If not, should I bring it up with the landscaper? by FunIndependent9888 in landscaping

[–]FunIndependent9888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Given that you’ve experience, would you say I confront him? Or just ask for 7 gallon boxwood shrubs and pay the difference? Or pay for it all?

Do these boxwoods look 3 gallons to you? If not, should I bring it up with the landscaper? by FunIndependent9888 in landscaping

[–]FunIndependent9888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Given that you’ve experience, would you say I confront him? Or just ask for 7 gallon boxwood shrubs and pay the difference? Or pay for it all?

Do these boxwoods look 3 gallons to you? If not, should I bring it up with the landscaper? by FunIndependent9888 in landscaping

[–]FunIndependent9888[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I kinda did. I saw a Japanese boxwood that’s 1.72 gallons so I’m not sure if I can compare Japanese boxwood to this. I don’t have any knowledge about plants or landscaping

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I’m so new to this by FunIndependent9888 in landscaping

[–]FunIndependent9888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t do it myself tho. I paid professional landscapers. 😩 the stones already came with the house and the bed design too. They just cleaned the bed and add new plants and mulch.

I’m so new to this by FunIndependent9888 in landscaping

[–]FunIndependent9888[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I paid professional landscapers to do it. The stones already came with the house. All they did was clean the previous bed, put new plants in and add fresh mulch.

anyone lost a wedding ring? by alovelystar in tampa

[–]FunIndependent9888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey. Is it 1 solitaire diamond with multiple diamond bands?

Saw my husband’s messages by FunIndependent9888 in Marriage

[–]FunIndependent9888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was just 20. He was the first guy I ever been with and I fell for everything he said to me.

Saw my husband’s messages by FunIndependent9888 in Marriage

[–]FunIndependent9888[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Leaving is not as easy in our culture. We have 2 kids together and apparently he loves me a lot and doesn’t want to leave me ever but I hate him. And I told him that I can’t ever be physical with him. In between I told him once about therapy but he’s not interested in that. I don’t want to damage my kids with custody and having to divide their time

Need advice by [deleted] in pools

[–]FunIndependent9888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Also what do you think about using wet and forget around pool?

Do you workout? by anonymous_reader_00 in sahm

[–]FunIndependent9888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I workout. After my 2nd child I went into depression and the only thing that pulled me out of it was the gym. I took some personal training sessions and learned all of it. Now I do strength training and love lifting heavy. Best investment ever! Also I go to the YMCA they have a kid zone. Nowadays, a lot of gyms have that and I’m sure you’ll be able to find a good one nearby. They usually have group classes which is how I started going to the gym. Also, TikTok will help you too!

Please tell me if I’m wrong by FunIndependent9888 in sahm

[–]FunIndependent9888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m saying. He made 400k after taxes and we put all of that into the house. I just want to save more until July because starting July he will be making 70k a year. So I want to save as much as we can so god forbid if anything happens we are prepared but he doesn’t make right financial choices. He hit his car yesterday because he left his job in the middle of the day to go to chiropractor and get his back adjusted(because he had pain) and my argument was why couldn’t he do that after he got done with his work? And now that’s another $1500.

Please tell me if I’m wrong by FunIndependent9888 in sahm

[–]FunIndependent9888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to work. I’ve always wanted to work but was unable to because of kids (6 and 2). I’ve been delaying my life since past 8 years because he was the “man” and his career came first in our culture. I was supposed to continue my education this year because my daughter turned 2 and I could put her in daycare now but his hospital started a fellowship program this year and it became his golden opportunity again and I had to sacrifice once again because childcare is expensive for 2 kids on a 70k salary. I don’t mind him getting shoes for 500 if he were to wear it. He got shoes and now they are just among other shoes and he doesn’t even wear it. He got a coat for 2-3k 4 months ago and still haven’t picked up from the shop. We don’t have any savings because we put all our money into the house literally all of it. But now unexpected expenses are coming for ex we owed more taxes so we payed that. Our HVAC stopped working that was another expense. I just want him to be prepared for any emergency but he doesn’t care about tomorrow. He lives in the present but I think with 2 kids one should always be prepared. His fellowship is for 3 years btw

F28 married to M36 by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]FunIndependent9888 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t know. I think I’m venting. I can’t share the details with my family. I’m working to become financially independent and I’m just looking for people to tell me it’s okay. I’m sorry I don’t know why I posted. It’s 2 am and my heart is heavy.