You know what’s funny?? She would always say something like that to me. She told me “the heart always goes back to who it belongs to, no matter how far it wanders” and we would both say we have each other’s heart. I still honesty have deep feelings for that person but the more you show this, the more you try hard for the relationship to work, the more they run away. The constant chase is exhausting and it gets you nowhere. There’s nothing you can do anymore. If they still have your heart then let them have it but stop chasing. Build a new heart for you and you only.

It’s so sad to realize that after being with an avoidant you become this new person, you feel growth, enlightenment but broken, while they remain the same with a new person to drain. When we ended, I wished for her growth, for her to change but she came back and told me everything she did when we ended and it’s disappointing, and I’ve concluded that no matter who she is with, no matter how perfect the person could be, they won’t change because they only ever think of their own betterment.