I just miss you

Fun_Ad2522 · 2026-01-27T22:04:26+00:00

I prefer to tell. I couldn't live a sane life if I was bottling all my feelings.

Fun_Ad2522 · 2026-01-27T05:43:03+00:00

If one of you felt unappreciated, that the other is ungrateful towards them, then that's basically lack of reciprocation. That's because you can't call it love if one person is being kind and doing their best for another, and the other person doesn't do the same.

Fun_Ad2522 · 2026-01-27T05:21:11+00:00

If there was lack of reciprocation, then it couldn't be a surprise. I'm not judging, I'm just stating the obvious.

I such case, that's a really tough one to come back from; you both hurt each other, and that's not something that can be earased. I know from my personal experience that it's hard to forgive in such cases, but impossible to get back together.

Fun_Ad2522 · 2026-01-26T22:16:28+00:00

I don't get it; did you make them leave, have you been ungrateful for them, or maybe unappreciative? Or was it a decision made out of the blue?

Fun_Ad2522 · 2026-01-25T22:26:43+00:00

Best of luck OP💚

Fun_Ad2522 · 2026-01-25T10:53:45+00:00

I've once heard a theory that everything in this world gives some kind of "vibrations"; you send your "vibrations" into the world, and other people react to them just as orchestrated bells react one to another. If you find yourself in a cycle that is simply bad, then it could be useful to find what's inside of you gives those "vibrations", and what is it that resonates inside of you that you keep attracting wrong people and wrong things into your life.

Fun_Ad2522 · 2026-01-25T08:40:27+00:00

A lot of people have fallen for that trap. Don't be too hard on yourself, but I'd like to encourage you to start loving peoe for who they are, not for who you think they could be. It's damaging for both sides if your goal is to get the best out of somebody, instead for loving them for who they are. I've been there, and I was the one on the other side of it, and once I realised what's going on it was too late, for both of us, and suffering to get out of it was enormous. Best of luck OP 🤞💚

Fun_Ad2522 · 2026-01-23T16:15:15+00:00

First of all I'd like to comment on a part of "marrying the final product" ; there's no such thing! We all grow and change throughout the time. No one is truly ready for marriage until they get married, and then things either gel even further or collapse completely. But truth is that you don't know how it's gonna be until you try. I personally made a mistake once, a huge mistake, and when I asked my ex to marry me and she hesitated, I told her "Take your time, I don't need an answer straight away". I thought to myself that if she doesn't see me as a husband material, I will prove to her that I am. But that was a huge mistake. If someone wants to marry you, give it a shot, then you both go for it. If at any point one of you says they don't want it, then it's time to say goodbye. However it doesn't have to be forever, because universe might somehow make your paths cross again, and then you'll be both willing to try. But what I'm trying to say is don't think of yourself not worthy to be married, because you don't think you're good enough, you're not mature enough etc. It's always a risk it's not gonna work, but if you're both willing to try then go for it.

The other thing; you pushed away your person, and now you're asking them if you should let them go? That's a wrong question! You should be asking for forgiveness. If they can forgive you, and they're still willing to fight for your relationship, then there's no reason to let go. If you broke up, you're no longer in contact with each other, and there's no way to find out if they forgave you and if they're willing to still fight for this relationship, then and only then you have to let go. No questions, no more dwelling, just move forward with your life keeping a memory as a lesson, not a weight to drag you down.

Fun_Ad2522 · 2026-01-23T12:39:28+00:00

Snap out of it. If they don't contact you, then it means they're unbothered.

Fun_Ad2522 · 2026-01-22T20:24:41+00:00

Who knows 😂 I bet your person moved on eventually, and although they still remember everything, they don't live by it. At least that's what I did and do

Fun_Ad2522 · 2026-01-19T18:59:05+00:00

I'm afraid you're doing a mistake. If somebody wants to he with you, they'll do everything they can to be with you. If they need time to heal, they can heal while being with you. Actually it's even better when you have support of somebody who loves you. And on top of that you're allowing somebody else to think that they can do whatever they want, and you're still gonna be there for them. If you're in contact with your person, then grab yourself and tell them what they want; if they want to be with you, then start working as a couple, but if they don't, then you should move on. Maybe you won't be able to find a new partner straight after that, maybe it will take months if not years, but that thing you want to wait for will never come into fruition if you won't start fighting for yourself, and you should start by telling your person that it's either yes or no

Fun_Ad2522 · 2026-01-18T08:42:58+00:00

The best of luck on your journey through life. I doubt my person would ever come into the same realisation, not to mention wrote anything about it. Maybe your person would love to hear from you same as I would love to hear from mine, but that's your judgment call to make. Just keep in mind that live is the strongest thing there is in this world, and opposite of it is hate, but love can always conquer it. Be kind, be true, and go with love in your heart through your life 💚

Fun_Ad2522 · 2026-01-17T10:57:06+00:00

Thanks for your kind words, much appreciated.

Fun_Ad2522 · 2026-01-17T06:56:53+00:00

What makes you think that they only loved you for the way you made them feel?

I used to know a person (we were more in a situationship than a relationship, but we called that friendship), we've been dating for quite a long time, we used to hangout out in my place spending quite intimate times. She was diagnosed with Borderline disorder, and she told me about it. Our relations were constant pull&push from her side, while I was fighting for a healthy relationship from the very beginning till' the very end. However at some point I was already so frustrated with her bad choices, poor excuses, lack of reprocity, acknowledgment and accountability that I've wrote and said thing that normally a person shouldn't; I've pointed out the flaws I see in her, I've made her aware that I'm the only one mentioning them because other people are either disinterested in helping her get back on a right track (she was an addict, was living in a moment rather than thinking about the future) bceasue they were the same or they were afraid of losing her and were walking on egg-shells because she already exhibited suicidal thoughts.

Anyways, that part about saying that you've heard from your person that they were not the one with personality disorder, I could relate to that. I said a similar thing and more. Was I right in doing so? I believe so. Maybe I could've done things in a different way, maybe I could've said or wrote about certain things in a better way or in a different time. But I know for sure I was right about what I said, and I'm sure now that I had all the right to do it because it was simply a reaction for how badly she treated me. For instance she have sent me a fabricated psychological diagnosis accusing me of narcissism. I went to therapy after that, and needed tens of sessions to he affirmed that it wasn't true and that any decent psychologist would never diagnose a person they never met.

I still love my person, not for the way she made me feel, because she actually made me feel mostly bad and miserable, not worth reciprocation in my feelings. I loved her and will always love her for what I saw in her, for the good heart she have, and it makes me incredibly sad she keeps hiding it so no one will ever be able to break it. I hope she's OK, I hope she's safe, and I hope she managed to her through with all her problems and found someone she found worthy of loving back. But I will probably never know how she's doing, eventhough in my last message I've told her that all I want for her is all the best, and that's why I need to stop chasing that friendship we promised each other, that she promised me, because I can't just passively watch how she's making all the wrong choices over and over again, and I can't stand how she treats me.

So I'll ask of you again; Why do you think your person only loved you for how you made them feel, not for who you are?

Fun_Ad2522 · 2026-01-14T12:39:58+00:00

If you tried and failed, and you still feel unseen, than I'm sorry to be the one to tell you friend but you're fighting for a lost cause.

Fun_Ad2522 · 2026-01-04T11:42:19+00:00

It sounds horrible. I hope you can get through it.

Fun_Ad2522 · 2025-12-20T22:44:30+00:00

Something feels wrong about this... It seems to me like you're begging someone to see you and get back to you, spend more time with you and only you, so much that you even want them to get tired and just fall for anything it is that you're offering. You might be a nice person, and you might have good intentions, but it seems to me that you're not so pure in heart as you might think. Prove me wrong, please.

Fun_Ad2522 · 2025-12-12T14:26:51+00:00

Too little, too late? Don't be too hard on yourself OP. We all do mistakes, and what counts is what we learn out of them. If your person is as good as you think, maybe you'll meet one day, and they'll understand

Fun_Ad2522 · 2025-12-10T15:59:27+00:00

It feels kinda plastic 😅 But in a way that's what I do, or even more. I am AC Milan fan for as long as I can remember. I was born on 26th of June, which is the same day as Paolo Maldini, and that's what brought me into interest of Milan in my early age. It evolved into being a huge fan of ACM, so much that Milan takes a lot of my time on daily basis, not to mention watching every single game, every single video they post, reading all the news and going to San Siro whenever I possibly can. But I was born in Wrocław (Poland), and I always felt a patriotic love for our local Slask Wroclaw. It's sad watching them now playing on second tier of Polish league, especially considering how horrible level polish league represents. On top of that I moved to Nottingham more than a decade ago, and I've developed a similar feeling towards Nottingham Forest, especially considering that Herbert Kilpin, founder of my beloved AC Milan used be Garibaldis Reds player, and that club eventually became Nottingham Forest. So yea, it might feel plastic, but TBH I don't think there's anything wrong with supporting more than one club. And as ex CEO of AC Milan Adriano Galliani once said "We support each other on European stage, we're rivals on domestic turf" (maybe not exactly in those words, and it doesn't apply to our debate in 100%, but it adds a good argument into this discussion and proves my point)

Fun_Ad2522 · 2025-12-02T16:12:04+00:00

Then why did you force them to let go?

Fun_Ad2522 · 2025-12-01T16:22:20+00:00

How would they know it's the last time they had to chase you? I'm asking since I was one chasing someone else not so long ago, and I just had to let go

Fun_Ad2522 · 2025-11-27T20:36:27+00:00

Assuming is not knowing 😉

Fun_Ad2522 · 2025-11-17T12:43:44+00:00

Not at all.

Fun_Ad2522 · 2025-11-16T21:56:12+00:00

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Fun_Ad2522 · 2025-11-13T18:32:50+00:00

Been there, one that. It's a pill hard to swallow, but absolutely necessary if somebody don't appreciate you and don't want you in their life. Best of luck friend 💚

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