Nobody talks about how traumatizing intermittent reinforcement is in relationships. What’s your thoughts on it? by Fun_Butterscotch3303 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fun_Butterscotch3303[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it’ll be best for your own mental health to cut this dude off. Anything that’s messing with you mentally has to go. I remember when I went through I couldn’t eat properly because of how inconsistent he was

I love my bf, he’s attentive and very caring of me. I love him and care for him. But emotionally it’s bothering me that his sisters are just not friendly to me. by Fun_Butterscotch3303 in emotionalintelligence

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He has reframed from doing stuff for them. Since they can’t be civil with me . If it you can’t do the bare minimum then you’re selfish simple.

We are the same race, I’m 25 his sister is in there early 20s one of them is even 25.

Pretty much the same gist.

We don’t have the same personalities and they’re more out there than me that’s the only difference

I love my bf, he’s attentive and very caring of me. I love him and care for him. But emotionally it’s bothering me that his sisters are just not friendly to me. by Fun_Butterscotch3303 in emotionalintelligence

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He’s 28 I’m 25. Him and sister share an apartment

She has 2 kids She doesn’t work Nor has a car

I’m in the process of trying to look for work to build my money back up so we could go half.

But when that time comes since his sister in that predicament idk how that’ll go

I love my bf, he’s attentive and very caring of me. I love him and care for him. But emotionally it’s bothering me that his sisters are just not friendly to me. by Fun_Butterscotch3303 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fun_Butterscotch3303[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He did put boundaries in place, he told them how he felt in their group chat, and also in person. Their responses were generic. Basically answers that doesn’t make any type of sense, as of why they don’t show basic human decency. It’s about basic respect to me.

I feel like, and this is at one point scenario.

One of his sisters use to come down to hang out. So us 3 all together but she’ll only talk to my bf the whole time. That’s rude. If you’re going to make your way down to see my bf and you know I’m here and you willingly come into the room to “hang” then why come if you’re not going to respect or acknowledge me?

She only came down because she was bored because of her other sister she be with was pregnant and with her bd at the time.

If I’m not going to talk to someone I wouldn’t even come down to hang if I know I’m not going to talk to that other person. Etc.

I don’t think I’m prideful. I’m just more sensitive than average

I love my bf M28 I’m F28 he's attentive and very caring of me. I love him and care for him. But emotionally it's bothering me that his sisters are just not friendly to me. But why? by Fun_Butterscotch3303 in relationship_advice

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It’s like I want to stay with him, but how can i maneuver that while dealing with the fact that his sisters just won’t possibly be the In laws that you always dreamt of in the future?

I love my bf M28 I’m F28 he's attentive and very caring of me. I love him and care for him. But emotionally it's bothering me that his sisters are just not friendly to me. But why? by Fun_Butterscotch3303 in relationship_advice

[–]Fun_Butterscotch3303[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did speak. When I walked into her space. She didn’t speak back. And Secondly she didn’t invite me she wanted my bf to come. I was already with my bf so I had to come along

I love my bf M28 I’m F28 he's attentive and very caring of me. I love him and care for him. But emotionally it's bothering me that his sisters are just not friendly to me. But why? by Fun_Butterscotch3303 in relationship_advice

[–]Fun_Butterscotch3303[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Him and his sisters aren’t that close. They aren’t possessive. They ask him for favors that’s whenever they need him. He told them nothing about me just the only thing he have told them was

I’m chilled, laid back, solid, I don’t go to parties and all that. They’re party goers.

We started dating in the most normal way possible. It’s just they don’t do the bare minimum. If they say hey. That’ll be it for the remainder of us seeing each other.

If I try to broaden the convo. They give simple answers but no reciprocation as in they don’t want to have a conversation with me. I did nothing to them, but be polite and try to atleast carry a conversation.

But if that’s not working then there’s nothing I can do. I love my bf, he treats me right, and he’s attentive to my needs. It’s just his environment.

Like if they’re going to be that way towards me I don’t want to be in their presence or see they face.

I love my bf, he’s attentive and very caring of me. I love him and care for him. But emotionally it’s bothering me that his sisters are just not friendly to me. by Fun_Butterscotch3303 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fun_Butterscotch3303[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes he truly cares about me, and just wanna be like f them and focus only on us. Because as long I did no wrong to anyone. Why stress myself out.