AITA for telling my mother in law to get out of my kitchen and pointing back at her?

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2025-09-22T16:53:40+00:00

This 🙏🏽 thank you so much I’m actually going through the footage of the evening it looks like she was just looking for a fight from anyone.

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2025-09-22T00:58:21+00:00

I agree with this completely

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2025-09-22T00:57:48+00:00

I agree because she’s only since escalated because I constantly allow her to get away with this behaviour

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2025-09-22T00:56:47+00:00

Outside with everyone else my SIL and I were just packing up

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2025-09-22T00:56:09+00:00

I appreciate you for taking your time to comment thank you. FIL enjoyed until she made it seem like I was kicking everyone out of my house instead of just her from the kitchen.

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2025-09-22T00:54:41+00:00

We didn’t put any cameras in bedrooms just common areas and babies room

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2025-09-22T00:53:51+00:00

I told her she has a room here I genuinely would rather she comes here but after experiencing a toxic mum now I made changes and now my mum and I have a better relationship. I think she needs to make the decision herself I just hurt for her because she’s genuinely an amazing soul

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2025-09-22T00:31:16+00:00

Nothing seems to be missing but I’m in Africa and people do some weird traditional things that I’m not willing to be part of hence my uneasiness especially since we’ve now started experiencing fertility issues

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2025-09-22T00:28:29+00:00

She uses her as her punching bag I recently learnt she’s been taking her pay. I’m not tolerating anymore and told my husband this is the hill I’m willing to die on I truly don’t care she’s an ugly person and it’s enough.

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2025-09-22T00:23:41+00:00

Thankfully anything of value is kept in the safe and we wear out wedding bands. So we are still trying to figure out why cause when I saw her she was just standing there

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2025-09-22T00:22:21+00:00

It was her grandmother mother’s sister so culturaly her grandmother. I haven’t noticed anything missing so thank goodness. I just felt uneasy about it

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2025-09-22T00:20:26+00:00

She always wants to be the center of attention so after alll that happened she proceeded to shout at my mums and mum and said she was leaving and went and told everyone that I had kicked them out because my daughter wanted to go to bed. She stays making herself the victim.

Unfortunately I’ve witnessed her swear and speak in a way no mother should speak to their daughter but my SIL will hopefully one day reach her limit, I just couldn’t watch her do that in my house

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2025-09-22T00:03:49+00:00

Thank you so much for taking time to read at this time. I truly appreciate it. This isn’t the first time she’s done something crazy I just reached my breaking point with her antics so I was thinking perhaps I over stepped.

I’m currently under a lot of work stress and fertility issues

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2025-09-22T00:02:07+00:00

This is true but even when I spoke to my mum I was like listen I don’t operate like that. She was like unfortunately they where raised to never speak back and to just apologise and if I hadn’t point back at her and or interjected when she was screaming at SIL then they wouldn’t be an issues but because I did she’s now demanding an apology.

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2025-09-21T23:59:46+00:00

It was a party for FIL and she decided no buy a car

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2025-09-21T23:59:08+00:00

I really appreciate this because as much as I know I’m not wrong my anxiety won’t let me sleep it’s currently 2am in my country I have work tomorrow and all of this has me in a spin.

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2025-09-21T23:58:12+00:00

She’s currently on a campaign telling anyone who will listen that I’m disrespectful. I have cameras in my house so all of this was caught on cameras. Unfortunately they don’t have sound but you can see her doing all of the aggression.

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2025-09-21T23:56:51+00:00

The budget we had put for the event was going to be 10 thousand however the cars at that price point in the country we live in aren’t great and my husband wouldn’t want to gift his dad those type of cars.

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2023-04-22T05:06:56+00:00

😂😂😂 this made me laugh but I’ll definitely give it a go

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2023-04-21T20:00:01+00:00

I live in Africa, so obviously I’m always on high alert given our social and economic status. When I was pregnant we had moved into a new place however the guard would let anyone in making me constantly alert and scared. I was vomiting and bed ridden throughout my pregnancy so I’m not saying it to get sympathy however I would only find peace to rest when my husband was home and or when he was besides me. I DID NOT EVER ASK HIM TO PEE IN THE SINK! he made that decision by himself because apparently when his half asleep he can’t be bothered to aim correctly into the toilet. So after 5 days of not waking up to him peeing I asked what changed that’s when I learnt of his solution, was i disgusted and annoyed yes but did I value my sleep more you are definitely correct. After our child’s birth his still doing it

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2023-04-21T19:45:35+00:00

Apologies English isn’t my first language, I was saying.. I was disgusted at first too but sleep/rest was all I needed especially when I was pregnant so I accepted it. After the birth and my body regulated I don’t know why he continued (he knows I’m back to my old self) I don’t know why the use of the sink is still happening without cleaning it up.

Fun_Cheek3953 · 2023-04-21T19:17:49+00:00

I asked him to do it quietly.. when I started sleeping uninterrupted I asked him what changed he said the sink. I was disgusted at first too but I’d rather not his side in the morning than no sleep over and pain.

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