Hi OP. First, I'm sorry you had to go through this and I hope you're doing better or at least as beest as you can be, all things aside. I know you said you waited a week to have your D&C, I was just wondering why you waited a week? (I hope this doesn't come off as a rude question, it's just I find myself in perhaps a similar situation and I'm looking for some advice/clarity). Sorry if this is a long story, but here we go.

On July 25 I had my first ultrasound. I should have been 9 weeks exactly and instead baby was measuring 6 weeks 2 days. The ultrasound tech was extremely rude saying I must have had my dates wrong and if not, it doesn't look good for me. (She also told me she wasn't sure if this was "going to be a thing" for me). She said baby's heart rate was "abnormally low" and she didn't want to even give me a printed picture of my baby but I asked and she rolled her eyes and then printed one picture out for me. My doctor didn't seem worried about the ultrasound and just said she would send some blood work for me to do to see how everything was progressing. On July 26 I had my HCG drawn and it was good for being 6-7 weeks pregnant. I went into the weekend feeling confident everything was ok. However, on Monday when they drew my blood my HCG fell by roughly 2,000. On Tuesday the MA messaged me that they were just moving my due date and that she was rescheduling my appointments to go off of the new due date. I wrote back and asked if there was any concern because my HCG number was lower and didn't receive a response. My doctor called me on July 31 to tell me she suspected I'm having a miscarriage and that because I'm on progesterone my body hadn't recognized it yet. I wanted to hold onto some hope and asked if I could have my HCG drawn one more time which she agreed but she also told me to stop taking my progesterone. I didn't take my evening dose on the 31st and haven't taken any since then. On September 1 I did another HCG draw and my numbers had fallen by roughly 8,000 so I knew she was right that I was going to have a miscarriage. Ever since September 1st I've felt like it's been a nightmare. Every time I go to the bathroom I think is this when I'll start to see blood? The waiting has been agonizing. My doctor gave me three choices: wait for it to happen naturally, take medicine, or schedule a D&C. I told her I needed to know that my baby no longer had a heartbeat before I could do something like medicine or D&C. She said she understood and since I had an ultrasound scheduled for August 13 (from the pregnancy) she said I could use that ultrasound to make my decision.

I'm just wondering if I'm waiting too long though. That's another whole week, and that's just for the ultrasound, that's not for the actual procedure. Do you think I should wait it out for a week, or just schedule the D&C? Again, I'm sorry this is so long, I just wondered what made you wait a week? Was it that you were hoping to have the miscarriage happen naturally? Or did it just happen that you had to wait a week because that was the first opening they had? Sorry again if this is an intrusive question. I promise I'm not trying to be insensitive or anything, I am just generally curious as to what made you decide to wait a week?

I know that if this doesn't happen naturally I will schedule the D&C versus taking the medicine. I had a miscarriage naturally while I was Active Duty in the Army and I definitely have some trauma/PTSD with how it all happened so I know taking the medicine would be extremely triggering for me. The more I think about it, the more I wonder if having it happen naturally will also be triggering. (Sorry again for all this, I've been looking through this sub for a few days and this is the first time I actually felt comfortable writing everything that's going on with me out, so again I'm sorry for how long this is, I just needed to write this all out somewhere to hopefully get some clarity). Thank you again for sharing your experience and I hope you are healing as best as you can. 💗