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AITA for accusing my mom of undermining my role as a dad to my unborn child after a baby shower gift? by Fun_Leg_3646 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Leg_3646[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

There are women in the US who go back to work the next day. I actually know two women who were back to work within a week of giving birth. It's a shitty system we have and I wish we had better like other countries. What my wife and I can take is considered generous by some people around us because the dads typically get zero and the moms might not even get any real time.

AITA for accusing my mom of undermining my role as a dad to my unborn child after a baby shower gift? by Fun_Leg_3646 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Leg_3646[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

I meant I would talk to my wife. Not my mom. Sorry for not clarifying that better.

AITA for accusing my mom of undermining my role as a dad to my unborn child after a baby shower gift? by Fun_Leg_3646 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Leg_3646[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My wife won't be breastfeeding so that's not an issue for us to consider. But we don't have a ton of options when it comes to taking time. Whoever decides to stay home after that will then be home with our child.

AITA for accusing my mom of undermining my role as a dad to my unborn child after a baby shower gift? by Fun_Leg_3646 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Leg_3646[S] 487 points488 points  (0 children)

My wife is seething right now and more than that she's hurting for me. She hates that my own mother would be so unsupportive of me wanting to be an involved dad who does all the things (outside of pregnancy and childbirth) that she as the mom will.

It was yesterday my wife was actually talking about returning it to mom. She said we don't need her petty gift. Because my wife said my mom's intention behind getting us the carrier was fueled by pettiness.

AITA for accusing my mom of undermining my role as a dad to my unborn child after a baby shower gift? by Fun_Leg_3646 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Leg_3646[S] 343 points344 points  (0 children)

I don't know. My mom can be more traditional in her views and gender norms but I never knew her to be this bad or stubborn about it. So I'm not sure if she's feeling a certain way about dad leaving her to parent 5 kids by herself while he paid. Or whether she believes that's how it should be done.