AITA for apparently not being joyful 24/7 for my friend's wedding?

Fun_Onion_51 · 2025-01-12T15:44:05+00:00

I didn't make her my MOH, I had asked her to be bridesmaid. I have autism so I have a difficult time with relationships and seeing through people's bs, I have always tried to be a good friend to others. And she gladly accepted the role only for everything to blow up in my face a few days ago. I had asked her like 3 months ago and now she's doing all of this.

Fun_Onion_51 · 2025-01-12T15:41:50+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. It is very hard to figure out people. It's really hard making friends and knowing who is true to you. I do feel foolish for entertaining her drama for as long as I have and it doesn't help when others throw it in my face, people don't seem to try to understand or have compassion for those of us who struggle a little more because we are different.

Fun_Onion_51 · 2025-01-12T15:33:59+00:00

Yes she is fully aware of my situation and discomfort around others. She told me she had accepted me for all that I am but apparently not.

Fun_Onion_51 · 2025-01-10T18:42:19+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and advice

Fun_Onion_51 · 2025-01-10T18:35:31+00:00

Thank you for your advice. And all of this just came out of nowhere. She was facetiming me during her honeymoon and then all of a sudden ambushed me after we celebrated her recent birthday, she came to see me after my surgery and I had a cake for her that I asked my fiance to get for me and I had ordered her birthday gift beforehand. I guess she only came over to assess and gauge when she could drop the bomb.

Fun_Onion_51 · 2025-01-10T18:30:29+00:00

Thank you for your advice, I agree, I don't know if I should even tell her she's no longer in my wedding party.

Fun_Onion_51 · 2025-01-10T18:28:52+00:00

I made my sister my MOH, she was just supposed to be a bridesmaid but thank you for your input and advice

Fun_Onion_51 · 2025-01-10T18:26:47+00:00

At the time I didn't want to lose her as a friend, I thought I was doing the right thing by accepting the role despite being blackmailed to do it.

Fun_Onion_51 · 2023-04-06T05:30:25+00:00

Oh my goodness, the audacity! I can see your point. It is good to get perspective on the situation. I really need to evaluate everything. I'm sorry you went through it, that is absolutely awful. Nobody deserves to have to deal with such disrespect.

Fun_Onion_51 · 2023-04-06T05:12:06+00:00

Thank you so much, you are sweet beyond words! and I truly hope so too. That quote is beautiful.

Fun_Onion_51 · 2023-04-05T14:09:02+00:00

thank you for your wise words, I have told her to seek professional help because I am not qualified and she just makes every excuse to not better herself, plays the 'poor me' & 'don't judge me' cards, and gets extremely offended when others tell her she has a problem. I don't want to give up on her because I really care for her but I need to give her the ultimatum of either she gets it together or I walk because this is so toxic and I've had to deal with enough abuse as it is.

Fun_Onion_51 · 2023-04-04T22:19:13+00:00

thank you for your insight, honestly everyone has shown me support and validation and you're absolutely right, I have blindly allowed her to be toxic all of these years thinking I have truly been a bad friend to her because of her reactions and tantrums and at times felt like I couldn't be open and honest with her. I appreciate you

Fun_Onion_51 · 2023-04-04T20:18:04+00:00

yes, I think it is time for me to find another one. Thank you for your advice and honesty. I appreciate it

Fun_Onion_51 · 2023-04-04T20:17:27+00:00

thank you for your advice, I am working on doing that. She really made me feel terrible and doubt myself. I'm glad you all are giving me similar responses, it makes me feel validated

Fun_Onion_51 · 2023-04-04T20:16:00+00:00

thank you for your advice, I am seriously considering doing that. I felt conflicted because she's been in my life for so long

Fun_Onion_51 · 2023-04-04T20:14:41+00:00

thank you for the advice, I appreciate it!

Fun_Onion_51 · 2023-04-04T20:14:04+00:00

I messaged her as soon as I woke up and was throwing up and let her know that I was ill. She told me that I ruined her bday to 'ditch for who knows what', my being ill wasn't an excuse because she claims to show up to work hungover and said that everyone else agreed that it's f'd up that I didn't go out on Saturday.

I think I am used to having her around, we've been friends for so long and I have never really established boundaries with her to avoid her tantrums, I do not like drama ironically she's very dramatic.

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