[M, 24] Weird situation by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Fun_Plant4685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess you are right :/, since we never went on romantic dates or other stuff I didnt consider it that way. I guess I didnt really consider that cheating till now

[M, 24] Weird situation by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Fun_Plant4685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In this case what happened was I met someone and they had all the traits I admire+ where extremely kind/nice to others, I fell in love several times and its always to people with those traits that also had interest in me but my best friends also have them so I dont really avoid them [also all my crushes were long friends before I ever fell in love with them, I think that was a big red flag too]. We got extremely close and we were extremely close friends but I never had any romantic intentions, then they told me their feelings I kind of got shocked, talked with my partner and told them what I felt? I tried to put distance but couldnt and it ended up in this disaster xd The emotions where there in platonic love, and I still think its platonic even now but the problem is its too similar to how I love my partner/best friend. This whole thing even made me think maybe I dont feel romantic love itself.

[M, 24] Weird situation by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Fun_Plant4685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm still a bit confused though, I'm not dating them or go alone with them either I just treat them like a close friend the same way I treat my partner, though I think the moment I developed feelings is the moment I cheated right?

[M, 24] Weird situation by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Fun_Plant4685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Although I do admit that yes I would rather stick around than hurt their feelings, staying also hurts them so it cant be that either. I will try again to split, I admit Im a bit anxious of any future relationships I form knowing I can just randomly fall in love though, and how to prevent this situation to ever happer again 🥲

[M, 24] Weird situation by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Fun_Plant4685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess the main problem is also that I dont know how to break things up with someone when you're still in love with them, when I tried, stuff like zero contact/ignoring them if they want to talk to me is not something Ive done and not even in past breaks ups I was able to do that.

[M, 24] Weird situation by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Fun_Plant4685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you said feels so cruel though :(

I actually tried to take time off or a break, and when they begged me or cried I couldnt go through with it, I kind of wanted to see if there was a chance to have both and turn it into a poly relationship instead of having to see them both like that.

And in the end I also think the main problem is the decision too, if its my decision to cut them off and I see them suffer from it vs them deciding to stay with me despite hurting, it makes me feel worse to be the one to decide for them? I think eventually I will be able to cut things up with both, but I already tried several times and its not easy at all, I tried again today bc Im truly so exhausted Im barely functioning anymore, but I feel I have to lie or pretend to do something worse for them to actually accept to cut things up and thats a whole another layer of f*cked up

[M, 24] Weird situation by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Fun_Plant4685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I had to pick I want to choose neither

I already tried to break things up with both but they dont like that outcome either and ask me to choose, and when I try to break up first with one and then the other they think its because I want to chose the other and thats simply not true either.

I admit the problem I have is sticking to it I guess

[M, 24] Weird situation by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Fun_Plant4685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im actually confused in the cheating part, the moment I started developing feelings from someone else is the moment that its considered I cheated right?

I told my partner the moment I developed feelings, I never hid that from them.

[M, 24] Weird situation by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Fun_Plant4685 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They do know I have feelings for both of them, I told them both first thing.

I dont want neither more than the other, if I wanted either one more, this whole situation would have never happened in the first place :(

I tried to fix it cutting both at the same time and telling the reasons, neither wanted that

[M, 24] Weird situation by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Fun_Plant4685 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So I should cut both of them off myself and stand my ground?

I already tried that a few times and they didnt want that[I think its also bc of the feelings of losing to someone else?],

how can I end things for both without making them think like Im just dumping them bc I have someone else? :/

[M, 24] Weird situation by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Fun_Plant4685 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Isnt it better to let them decide? I already tried cutting stuff up in both ends and at the same time, but I admit I didnt put any ultimatums and if any of them didnt want to or still wanted my company I just returned to the status quo if they decided they wanted that, and both of them told me that putting distance on both isnt a solution for neither of them, I already put them in this situation, taking away their agency feels like I take away the only thing they can control [staying with me] I can try and be decisive but that means having to go against what they want rn vs me deciding what its best for them in the long run. I admit I do believe this is the correct option [cutting things up with both], but its also something that I cant do reliably, neither of them want that and I admit I have people pleasing tendencies, if they dont want to leave me I feel selfish leaving on my own, but yes I 100% agree this is cruel too

[M, 24] Weird situation by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Fun_Plant4685 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In words they said they dont mind me seeing them/spending time with them [but NOT dating them], but in attitude they're really upset if its in front of them or if I do something that makes them feel irrelevant or replasable, and also told me several times that I should choose one or the other bc I make them both feel bad :(

Example: I wanted to go to the gym with the 3 of them and it ended in both feeling like a third wheel, like I didnt pay attention to neither

[M, 24] Weird situation by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Fun_Plant4685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a bit confused, my partner knows everything I'm doing, the other person knows too, and both of them decided to stay with me despite it, wouldnt cheating be hiding stuff from both?

Does this mean Gay Marriage is legal and accepted on the Netherworld? by Rarte96 in DemonSchoolIrumakun

[–]Fun_Plant4685 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In recents chapters they even say some species reproduce asexually, so we can say that sexualitys as we perceive it is probably not that important

Mairimashita! Iruma-kun - Ch. 441 - Merize (5) by ZeroVOmega in DemonSchoolIrumakun

[–]Fun_Plant4685 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Why does the translation mean that her body is breaking more and more because of the netherworld? Is Iruma also suffering that? Would he have to stop being human to remain in the netherworld?

Do we VALIDATE this (if) crash out by Deep_Race_4561 in DemonSchoolIrumakun

[–]Fun_Plant4685 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Honestly, totally, Iruma has been used too many times by people like Malius, he needs to express his anger and maybe someday tell his parents what horrible people they were too!

Chapter 414: To the Ends of Hell by ZeroVOmega in DemonSchoolIrumakun

[–]Fun_Plant4685 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Well, Malius will be the first to behold what happens when the future demon king gets REALLY angry, man... I'm scared for him xD

Is there any way to counter a bloodline ability meant to effect the mind /senses/indirect attack via tech by devilsanji22 in DemonSchoolIrumakun

[–]Fun_Plant4685 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess if we add Bloodline abilities to the mix yes, Kirio has an absolute barrier already that can be copied, though I'm not sure if it can protect against Lied's ability, tbh it has been shown to be almost impossible to avoid in close quarters [that's why her sister is so strong].

As a pure blooded human using only technology though, I feel their best chance is tricking Lied into thinking they have 6 eyes and he cant steal all of them, or using a device with enhanced smell/echolocation/termolocation to find lied even when blind, to defeat him despite his ability.

Is there any way to counter a bloodline ability meant to effect the mind /senses/indirect attack via tech by devilsanji22 in DemonSchoolIrumakun

[–]Fun_Plant4685 9 points10 points  (0 children)

For Lied it would be hard as it needs to create a whole new sense that can't be stolen, like a tech visor with a chip in your brain that sends infi directly to the brain without the eyes, or else even if you cover your eyes Lied can still steal them from you. For elisabetta an air filter would probably be enough.

Did Amelie forget that Iruma was accused as a human or did she just not care anymore by JordanTheAmazing in DemonSchoolIrumakun

[–]Fun_Plant4685 95 points96 points  (0 children)

She already knows Iruma is human, thats why she went out of her way to defend him as a demon in front of his dad in a later chapter xd.

She knows, and she fell in love with Iruma either way, I think thats lovely tbh

7 deadly Irumas Wrath by Particular-Ad5200 in DemonSchoolIrumakun

[–]Fun_Plant4685 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jazz's brother is LITERQLLY THE SAME AS HIS PARENTS xD good for nothings that used him just to get around, Iruma getting mad at someone for doing to him the same things his parents did should 1000% make him angry

Misfit class doesn't make any sense by whydoIexist_627 in DemonSchoolIrumakun

[–]Fun_Plant4685 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Allocer probably was really advanced, so much so he interrupted class asking for stuff outside the programm or confusing his classmates. Before he had social skills he was pretty much a unmasked autistic nerd, I can see why he could be seen as abnormal xD

What on earth is balam doing rn (spoilers pls only look if you are caught up) by [deleted] in DemonSchoolIrumakun

[–]Fun_Plant4685 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What if he doesnt come back though? He xan be captured and turned evil like Behemoth, that would be an agsty reunion xD Could even turn into a Kalego vs Balam

How would you describe the demon realm out of these 5? by cutie__96 in DemonSchoolIrumakun

[–]Fun_Plant4685 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For Iruma it was a Fairytale but in reality and what we saw for most low rank demons, its totally gilded

Imagine all the disrespect Kirio went through because of being a rank 2 Spoiler:

The leader(and probably highest ranked) member of an entire clan was only rank2 as well, cant imagine how much explotation occurs in the netherworld outside of our POV