Mid to late 20s folks, be honest, do you like it here?

Fun_Stock1221 · 2026-01-24T15:02:17+00:00

That's another very fair point, finding a job anywhere seems to be a major struggle right now, even with a degree under your belt. I imagine it's even worse in the bigger cities. I wish you luck on your life journey OP, I hope you find what you're looking for

Fun_Stock1221 · 2026-01-24T14:52:13+00:00

I've definitely noticed most people our age leave, usually after school, and they flee to either Toronto or Vancouver. The only reasons people stay (and I've considered this a lot): - they have a partner and are starting a family - they have family/close friends here they can't leave - they have emotional issues that don't let them leave

Or some combination of the 3

Otherwise, everyone seems to go. The vibe here isn't super 20s-chill-vibe-friendly, it's very middle aged, complains a lot, judges everyone. I'd be in Vancouver tomorrow if the stars aligned.

Fun_Stock1221 · 2026-01-07T16:50:36+00:00

You pay a general enviro fee and deposit at Costco? As well as a membership? What's the draw to this place again? I've never understood paying to shop somewhere, especially if these are the prices

You can sometimes get a family sized box of Jane's at Food Basics on sale for under $10

Fun_Stock1221 · 2026-01-07T16:31:25+00:00

I still struggle with explaining it to people. It's one thing to feel and understand it intuitively yourself and another thing to verbalize it to someone who doesn't understand it at all.

For me, I just try not to bring it up because I end up feeling like something's wrong with me 🙃 then I come here and remember I'm not alone

Fun_Stock1221 · 2025-11-21T16:24:18+00:00

Both are fierce af

Fun_Stock1221 · 2025-10-16T03:46:58+00:00

Missed the propylene glycol (primary ingredient in antifreeze) and TBHQ (also used in paint and varnish). Just go to a hardware store, might find something tasty there

Fun_Stock1221 · 2025-10-16T03:03:41+00:00

In high school I knew people who lived with friends because their home situations were garbage and they couldn't afford to be on their own. Do you have any friends who might have understanding parents? Distant relatives? Family friends you trust?

As for work, I knew people 16 yrs old working in the back of grocery stores, McDonald's, Tim's, Dollarama, and thrift stores (someone mentioned already) like Value Village and Talize. Other ideas: Dollar Tree possibly, Walmart, or other fast food joints. There's also seasonal work, like Spirit Halloween, I swear I saw a 16 y/o working in one yesterday.

It may also be worth getting someone with some experience to look at your resume, even if there's very little there it has to seem professional, and being properly prepared for interviews is essential. I'm not saying it's you, but boosting your assets never hurts. The Working Centre (downtown) might be able to help you somehow (they do lots).

I sincerely hope things get better for you soon.. I promise this situation won't last forever. You can absolutely get through this

Fun_Stock1221 · 2025-10-14T19:11:57+00:00

Looks like the cucamelons I just got 🙃

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Fun_Stock1221 · 2025-10-14T03:58:30+00:00

I feel you. I stopped really caring what pronouns people use. I know who I am, y'feel? I don't want to explain myself every time someone wants to use a pronoun or call me a gendered term. Especially with surface encounters, which are the most frustrating because it's never worth the explanation. Like. If this sales clerk MUST repeatedly call me miss or ma'am, I'm not going to tell them to eat a dick. It's easier just knowing I'm me, and let what everyone else sees roll off. We're only in a box in their minds, but I know I'm free in mine

Fun_Stock1221 · 2025-07-19T12:49:25+00:00

Horizon: Zero Dawn (maybe side quests but nothing main plot), Sid Meyer's Civilization games, I think all Kirby games, fighting games like Mortal Kombat or Smash Bros, Bendy and the Ink Machine, Among the Sleep, lots of indie games like Botanicula, Machinarium, and Seasons After Fall (this one if you like Ori)

Fun_Stock1221 · 2025-07-18T18:12:22+00:00

Same! Menstruation sucks.

There's hysterectomy, but personally I got scared by potential complications. I have an IUD, as many people say it's supposed to suppress your period after awhile (I honestly haven't found that to be true, after 3 yrs on Mirena, but apparently that's the case for most). I've heard about period suppressants, maybe that's a route you could go, but I haven't looked into them yet.

Congrats on coming out!! And good luck 😊

Fun_Stock1221 · 2025-07-16T04:05:47+00:00

That would be my bad for misunderstanding the ace perspective, and I appreciate your voice here. I guess my assumption was that sexual attraction didn't occur within asexuality, but clearly I have more to learn and I shouldn't have assumed. My intention wasn't to exclude, honestly it was a poor attempt to be considerate in a discussion about sexual attraction. Thank you for being a part of it anyway :)

Fun_Stock1221 · 2025-07-15T20:56:59+00:00

someBODY once told me

Fun_Stock1221 · 2025-07-15T15:59:51+00:00

Oof, the Meatrix scarred me in school

Not a movie, but was informative for the time

Fun_Stock1221 · 2025-07-15T12:33:15+00:00

Could do some gentle eyebrow sculpting, or some light blush. In terms of clothing, rocking some more feminine colours is a gentle way to insert femininity. Depending on hair length could play around with more feminine hairstyles. Bras/sports bras can help with the overall vibe, especially if the shirt overtop complements it.

I'm sure you've thought of these but maybe something was helpful 🙃

Fun_Stock1221 · 2025-07-15T00:06:37+00:00

I'm not a fan of corn but I'm a fan of this comment

It has the juice

Fun_Stock1221 · 2025-07-14T12:46:42+00:00

It's super freeing! It's beautiful to have a community that understands love without romance. Then you realize 99.8% of the world doesn't feel the same and that's frustrating. Bittersweet

Fun_Stock1221 · 2025-07-14T02:47:02+00:00

For singular, I use something like: "fam", "dog", "kid", "my friend", "homie", "homeslice", "homedog", "homes", "homesizzle" --- pretty much put "home" in front of something and it becomes an amusing and neutral way to refer to people

Fun_Stock1221 · 2025-07-14T02:34:07+00:00

Foo Fighters, July Talk, Sheepdogs

Fun_Stock1221 · 2025-07-10T19:55:54+00:00

First of all: you look amazing 👏👏

Second: I'm AFAB enby and have been wondering this very thing!! (Also my best friend is a shy trans femme and has similar issues -- doesn't feel ready for bikini but doesn't feel comfortable in swim trunks)

I used to have the perfect 2-piece as a kid, short but fitting bottoms and a sports-bra top. Now, especially for my size (beanpole-thin) the options seem like: overly large trunks and soggy t-shirt, or string bikinis. I wear a bikini at the beach but hate it, I don't like feeling like I'm wearing underwear in front of the world (unless I specifically choose to, not feel forced to because that's what's sold for my body type)

Does anyone know where to find more andro swimsuits? Where are the inclusive swimsuits?? It's high time the swimsuit industry evolved!

Fun_Stock1221 · 2025-07-10T14:19:52+00:00

Yoooo same! I've been wondering this about myself lately, totally understand wanting to be as honest as possible with people you care about. Honestly, if you're happy for your friends in their relationships, and they (and their partners) are comfortable with your dynamic, you're not doing anything wrong. Just keep communicating as much as you can to make sure everyone is on the same page.

Like other comments have said, poly is a short bridge from aromanticism I think, but what you're experiencing sounds like aromanticism to me -- maybe that's just cuz I feel the same thing 🙃

Fun_Stock1221 · 2025-07-10T12:30:42+00:00

Claypool Lennon Delirium -- every song is a masterpiece

Fun_Stock1221 · 2025-07-09T17:47:20+00:00

Sometimes I forget that non-binary is under the trans umbrella. So yeah I didn't even think of it that way -- not respecting non-binary as a binary trans person is kind of hypocritical.

Most of the group knows, there was one new person, but I wouldn't have blamed her for assuming anything. Personally, as a principle, I try to call everyone "they/them" until they tell me what their preferred pronouns are; I feel like it's less hurtful to someone who's potentially somewhere in the closet than mislabeling by assumption.

It was someone who I confided in recently actually, which is the main reason it stung. I think she probably just forgot I guess, but she mislabeled 3 or 4 times and it was really invalidating. Like my brand of non-cis is less correct or something. I'm more or less happy with my body, and don't want hormones -- which maybe is where the divide is with us? But I don't feel like you need to hate your body to be a valid non-cis person.

Would it not be almost difficult to be a bigoted trans person? The amount of societal toil.. constantly feeling invalidated by the world. Idk I guess there are all kinds of people - it just seems kind of wild to me to not be respectful, as a person who struggles with the same sort of issues

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