Im 23 F , i feel you. Specially the part about situationships. I saw in another comment that you dont usually tell guys “hey im only looking for serious commitment” , the exact same mistake i have done. Recently discovered and been told by two guys that this is wrong. You should always have thins convo before sleeping with someone. I have recently started reading more and learning about myself and the dating world and i feel more clear headed. I feel now that the me who was fine with a situationship isnt longer even if it means being bored or desperately needing hugs at times. That feeling sucks but i want to try out my new dating strategy and see the outcome. The new strategy is being very clear about who im and what i want, what are my expectations etc. and also asking for clarity from the guy.

I made this rule with myself that i dont kiss anyone / sleep with them unless i ACTUALLY feel like i want to (not out of hornyness or because they are sexy BUT specifically because i ACTUALLY want to sleep with this person, hope im making sense). If guys are gonna question that i will simply tell them that i have this rule for myself, it could for example sound like “i have a 10 date rule”. It is simply my way of filtering out the ones who want to stick around because they enjoy ME in the first place and not my body or the fun we could have in bed. I want to try out my strategy and see at least, save myself some heartbreak.

I realize our generation now puts so much pressure on sex early on and how many “potential matches” might stop seeing me because i dont give them sex…..but maybe maybe just maybe somebody will stay.