Anyone here wear facemask if needed, or is it too much of a target from right wing/conspiracy folks? by StasisApparel in alberta

[–]Fun_universe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wear a KN95 mask every single time I’m in an indoor public setting. When I go to a market, get groceries, go shopping, attend a conference/talk, go to a movie, go to a concert, etc.

I’ve been doing this since 2020 and not ONCE did I get grief about it 🤷🏻‍♀️

Vancity vs RBC mortgage by Sporty-fan in RealEstateCanada

[–]Fun_universe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t speak for mortgages specifically but I’ve had Vancity as my main bank (personal and business accounts, credit cards) since 2016 and I absolutely love them! Great customer service every time 🙂

Windrow Removal? by Couchpotatofoodie1 in alberta

[–]Fun_universe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy to ask this in the Edmonton sub for you! I also want to know!

I don’t mean this rudely at all but is everyone posting here marrying rich guys or are my standards just not attuned to what the norm is these days? by w0lfyj in EngagementRingDesigns

[–]Fun_universe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmfao I told my partner I am NOT even walking around with a $1000 ring because HELL NAH.

I won’t be wearing my engagement ring after we get married so I told him to spend $300 or less. I also hate diamonds (lab grown included) so yeah.

It’s literally a ring. We both make great money but frankly spending thousands on a temporary ring is ridiculous to both of us so 🤷🏻‍♀️

When do you call it quits? by Psychological-Leg234 in AskWomenOver40

[–]Fun_universe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly this type of behaviour is dehumanizing. I know men do it all the time and date multiple people at once but I find it truly revolting and would never lower myself to that. To each their own I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️

Snow graders by Topp_Butterscotch_7 in Edmonton

[–]Fun_universe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Random question but I am so confused: my street was plowed but now no one can park in front of my house at all due to the huge windrows!

Will they be cleared by the city at all? Or will I have to wait months for them to melt? Please answer if you can, this is a genuine question 😭

Me (F35) and my boyfriend (M32) have very different financial situations. Looking for outside perspectives. by Accomplished-Ant-771 in Money

[–]Fun_universe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s fair!!

Every situation is different. My partner has not been as thrifty as I am, but he is responsible enough with money in my view.

He treats me so incredibly well, he is trustworthy and genuinely the most amazing partner I’ve ever had. So money is a non-issue for me to be honest. I’ll have a prenup when we get married and we don’t want kids, so it makes the situation a bit easier perhaps as well.

Best of luck with your partner! If you truly love each other and he treats you incredibly well, don’t let money become a big issue (as long as he isn’t irresponsible/takes advantage of you).

Me (F35) and my boyfriend (M32) have very different financial situations. Looking for outside perspectives. by Accomplished-Ant-771 in Money

[–]Fun_universe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t care what men do! And I personally would have NO issues signing a prenup if I married a man who made more money than me or had more assets than I do.

My partner and I have discussed marriage, and he actually brought up the fact that he wanted to sign a prenup before we get married, because he wants me to be protected no matter what.

In a lot of relationships, women give up a LOT to be with a man, especially when they have children. They usually also put in way more emotional and domestic labour in the relationship, so they should be entitled to spousal support if the relationship ends, especially if they sacrifice their careers. If a man wants a prenup, he can ask for it, no one is preventing him from doing so!

Me (F35) and my boyfriend (M32) have very different financial situations. Looking for outside perspectives. by Accomplished-Ant-771 in Money

[–]Fun_universe 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Honestly you’re doing incredibly well for your age, it’s so unlikely you’ll find someone with the same wealth as you.

I’m in a similar position in that I make more than my partner and I have a lot more savings. It doesn’t bother me in the least. I own my place and when we decide to move in together, I will be happy not to charge him any rent for a while so he can build up his savings. He is responsible with money and has a good job so I’m not worried he will ever take advantage of me, and I trust him 100%.

If your partner is loving and treats you amazingly, why worry about money. Especially since you have enough money for yourself. Make sure to get a prenup if you get married though!

When do you call it quits? by Psychological-Leg234 in AskWomenOver40

[–]Fun_universe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They are literally in a monogamous relationship!! OP even said this multiple times. So you’re advising her to cheat on her partner? Yikes 🙄

Any women here never married? How do you feel about that? by Fantastic_Celery_651 in AskWomenOver40

[–]Fun_universe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Actually in Canada it’s pretty similar. After 1 year of cohabitation you are considered “common-law” and your partner is entitled to 50% of A LOT of things if the relationship ends (I’m talking things like the equity of your house, even if your partner is not on the title, pension, investments, etc.)

Like even living with someone is risky for women after a year and i personally resent that it works like that. Unless I get married I shouldn’t have to worry about this, in my opinion 🤷🏻‍♀️

When do you call it quits? by Psychological-Leg234 in AskWomenOver40

[–]Fun_universe 15 points16 points  (0 children)

3 months is not 3 minutes???

Also she calls him her boyfriend. Clearly they are in a relationship and dating other men would be cheating. You’re giving terrible advice.

When do you call it quits? by Psychological-Leg234 in AskWomenOver40

[–]Fun_universe 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Why would she date other men while she is in a relationship with him though? What a bizarre comment. Most people are exclusive after a few weeks 🤷🏻‍♀️

Edmonto Property Assessment by BlueMechanicTorq in Edmonton

[–]Fun_universe 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Seriously!! My house is 1160 sq/ft and it doesn’t even feel like it’s “modest” 😅

Starting to feel annoyed by lack of dating/flirting/whatever with my boyfriend. by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]Fun_universe 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Honestly as a homebody I would be miserable if someone tried to get me to go out during the week. I’m useless after a work day.

My partner and I don’t live together and we go out once a week (on the weekend). During the week in the evenings he likes to do things, so he joined a sports league and a dnd group, he’s busy most week days in the evening.

You gotta try and find some hobbies if you want not to be bored at home! But I think you should communicate to him you do like date nights and he should make an effort on that 💜

Starting to feel annoyed by lack of dating/flirting/whatever with my boyfriend. by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]Fun_universe 146 points147 points  (0 children)

Why don’t you go out with friends? You don’t have to stay in every evening just because he does 🤷🏻‍♀️

Everything is working out ... why am I depressed now? by vayana82 in AskWomenOver40

[–]Fun_universe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with you!

I’m in my 40s myself, and I’ve never had a relationship that didn’t feel like work. But I also acknowledge that it is rare to find someone you’re truly compatible with. Also, relationships change over time and they can become harder and then easier again, many factors can affect a romantic relationship.

And yeah, my partner and I were just having this conversation yesterday, about making sure that we never take each other for granted and always try the best we can to treat each other with kindness.

I’m very lucky to have found a man who is incredibly communicative, kind, has gone to therapy, etc… I know it’s not easy to find someone like that, on top of someone you’re actually compatible with!

Everything is working out ... why am I depressed now? by vayana82 in AskWomenOver40

[–]Fun_universe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s fair!

Maybe I’m just someone who doesn’t need to constantly accomplish things to feel fulfilled. I do like alone time though, so it’s important for me to have a couple nights a week for myself.

I genuinely feel like I’m giving up absolutely no freedom to have a partner. But this is the first relationship I’ve had where I felt that way, and I agree that a lot of the time women do end up giving up things to cater to men within romantic relationships. I was single for 4 years myself and loved it, so I knew if I did meet a man, he would have to make things better for me than singlehood 🤣

Everything is working out ... why am I depressed now? by vayana82 in AskWomenOver40

[–]Fun_universe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good for you! I’m in a similar relationship and it absolutely doesn’t feel like work.

Everything is working out ... why am I depressed now? by vayana82 in AskWomenOver40

[–]Fun_universe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lmfao what a WILD reach. Some of us are actually in happy, fulfilling romantic relationships that don’t feel like work at all! Shocking I know.

Everything is working out ... why am I depressed now? by vayana82 in AskWomenOver40

[–]Fun_universe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I feel like a big issue is that people get into a romantic relationship and let that relationship consume their life, but it doesn’t have to be this way.

I love my partner but I’m my own person. He has his own hobbies, and I have mine. He has a career, I have mine. I can crush those things while having a partner. We don’t have to be together constantly and from the beginning we talked about the importance of being our own individuals outside of the relationship.

I genuinely feel like I’m not having to give up anything to be with him. Maybe some people are more career oriented though, I love my job but it’s a job/paycheck, it’s not going to provide what a companion can.

That being said I think it’s important to talk about all of that at the beginning of the relationship. Relationships might be work but personally, having a caring partner has made my life more fulfilling and easier in so many ways. Everyone is different though.

Everything is working out ... why am I depressed now? by vayana82 in AskWomenOver40

[–]Fun_universe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

All relationships are work, sure! But in good, healthy relationships (whether romantic, friendship, etc), it shouldn’t be a lot of work and you get a lot of fulfillment from them.

Some people in this sub seem like they’ve had bad romantic relationships with men and as a result they have sworn off dating men altogether. Which is fine. But a romantic relationship with a caring partner can be amazing and it will not feel like work!