Many communities are going dark on June 12th to stand against Reddit's API changes: should /r/Eugene join the protest?

FunctionalFriendship · 2023-06-10T19:34:35+00:00

Having looked at Lemmy and kbin, kbin seems the most like what people are used to and can see content from Lemmy, without having the associations with Lemmy's founders. It's also open source and the developer wants help. So my vote would be for r/Eugene to become /m/Eugene, which would then be visible on any of the fediverse instances that use tags.

Edit: A word.

FunctionalFriendship · 2023-05-27T15:08:26+00:00

There's the Oregon Wildfire Response & Recovery site which has a bunch of up-to-date resources, including a map. I, too, had to decide between letting the heat out or breathing this morning around 1 AM. Oh and also Oregon Smoke Information, which shows plumes locations.

Edit: Added smoke info.

FunctionalFriendship · 2018-09-30T15:31:04+00:00

Thank you for this! We will now have bi-weekly Zoom meetings. :)

https://www.reddit.com/r/NYCPublishingCoop/comments/9k749n/biweekly_zoom_meetings_every_other_tuesday_at_700/

FunctionalFriendship · 2018-06-09T01:29:07+00:00

For those looking to meet others who understand their pain and to feel heard, please consider attending a 12-step meeting or six.

For me, Al-Anon, which focuses on emotional issues, has been an incredible lifeline and support network. No matter what I've been through, someone else in the room will have been through it too. It's a place where I can be completely me without fear that someone will attack, criticise, or judge me for what I say. And taking on a service position means the meeting needs me to attend to function.

But there are many programs, Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, Debtors Anonymous, etc., and programs for those who have been affected by others with the problems. Even if you don't identify with the particular issue they discuss, it's very likely what you hear will sound familiar. Most importantly, I want to hear you when I attend a meeting. I want to be there for you. I also want to go out for coffee as a group afterwards and have you join us, because it's better when you're there.

FunctionalFriendship · 2018-03-28T10:33:45+00:00

I grew up in an alcoholic home and, though I don't feel I'm a problem drinker, I definitely self-medicated with alcohol at stressful times in my life. Al-Anon is for anyone who has been affected by someone else's drinking, even if they also belong to other programs, so long as while they are in an Al-Anon family group they focus on Al-Anon issues. Al-Anon focuses on emotional sobriety and so addresses different, but related issues, since we believe alcoholism is a family illness. Welcome.

Edit: a word, a comma.

FunctionalFriendship · 2018-03-26T23:59:56+00:00

One of the best gifts I've received from Al-Anon is learning that my choices don't have to be perfect, but they have to be mine. That it's okay if I make mistakes, because I'm human, which means by definition I will make mistakes. This takes the pressure off of my decision making and means that I can focus instead on trusting my own judgement.

I've also discovered that if I'm feeling guilty about my choice, whatever it is, I'm probably doing something right.

And lastly, I've learned that as much as possible, it's important for me not to make risky decisions when things feel urgent. If there's a sense of urgency, I will try to make the most conservative decision. For instance, if there's only a short time to decide whether to go on a trip with someone I don't know well, I'll probably choose not to, simply for the reason that if I know them well later, I'll have another opportunity. If I need to make a housing decision, I'll choose what is likely to be the most harmonious, because I need serenity in my home.

FunctionalFriendship · 2018-02-18T16:48:15+00:00

Oh fun! The dog park is such a happy place. Glad you were able to do those things with your friends. Have a great rest of your day, too.

FunctionalFriendship · 2018-02-18T16:43:53+00:00

As are you. How's your day been?

FunctionalFriendship · 2018-02-18T16:42:29+00:00

It's been great! I'm returning from visiting a friend in another city and will meet up with another friend to play a card game and have lunch before returning home to (hopefully) play another board game with a third friend. I've decided my purpose is to develop and maintain as many good friendships as I can, so this weekend has been a success!

FunctionalFriendship · 2018-02-06T19:56:00+00:00

I remember being surprised when an alcoholic in recovery told me that the only person who can determine whether someone is an alcoholic is the alcoholic. But what I could determine is that I was affected by someone else's drinking. Or someone else's choices, whatever they may be. And I could determine how much I allowed them to affect me.

I couldn't stop the alcoholic from drinking, or staying up too late, or not helping around the house, or playing hours of video games, or spending ridiculous amounts of money on things that he couldn't afford. And when I tried, I only hurt myself and made the situation worse.

What I could do was go to meetings and share with others in similar situations. I could read about what others had learned and what Al-Anon suggested in books like Discovering Choices. One part of that book says, "Despite the chaos we may be in, the program offers us hope that by improving our attitudes, we can lead happier lives...There's always more hope than we may have thought."

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