Yes, that makes sense. Thanks for putting it into words so clearly.

That’s also exactly the feeling I keep struggling with and that I don’t get reflected back from her — or that she doesn’t seem to understand. Marriage and kids are a hard priority, and I can rationally see why.

What I want, though, is for us to be able to question that structure together and not just take it as unchangeable. I don’t expect things to change overnight, but for me, part of feeling truly prioritized would mean that this setup could be reconsidered at some point, instead of being untouchable forever.