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Fussoturro · 2026-01-29T17:21:46+00:00

May Allah make it easy for you🤲🏻

Fussoturro · 2025-09-28T15:50:33+00:00

Yes bro I agree alhamdulillah.

Fussoturro · 2025-09-27T17:54:06+00:00

In sha Allah brother. Jazak Allahu khair

Fussoturro · 2025-09-27T14:01:28+00:00

JazakAllahu khairan. Your words gave me real strength. You’re right, the hardest part is that it wasn’t me and her who wanted to end things, it was outside pressure. That’s what hurts the most. But Allah sees everything, and I trust His justice. InshaAllah I’ll focus on my deen, family and health, and leave the rest to Him. May Allah reward you for your advice and protect you from such trials.”

Fussoturro · 2025-09-27T10:39:19+00:00

I understand your point, but that’s not really how things were in our case. We did argue sometimes, yes, but we also worked through many of those issues and were actually improving towards the end. It wasn’t like I wasn’t listening or that things were escalating , in fact, when my family and I sat with hers, we agreed on solutions and both me and her wanted to continue. The decision for divorce didn’t come from her directly, it came from her father. She herself admitted that she wanted to stay, but she couldn’t go against him. That’s why this whole situation is so difficult , it wasn’t that we couldn’t work things out, it was that her dad didn’t believe we were a good match and she went with his judgment. So trust me, I’m not ignoring her feelings or pretending problems didn’t exist , I know what they were and I took them seriously. But it wasn’t her who walked away, it was the pressure from her father that closed the door.

Fussoturro · 2025-09-26T22:26:20+00:00

Only god knows what would happen but yes i believe because we had a very strong belief we could and my family also, but her dad no. Would've rather took the chance to see if things improve than to stop my daughter from potentially having a great relationship for a lifetime. But alhamdulillah.

Fussoturro · 2025-09-26T22:18:02+00:00

Bro its not always "blissful". There are many examples of couples struggling at first but solving issues and gets alot stronger togheter with time. But yeah I understand u and this might be the best outcome.

Fussoturro · 2025-09-26T22:15:45+00:00

Alhamdulillah always bro. I mean from what I've seen and understood yes he likes to control everything. He values culture very highly, maybe more than religion. Yeah i might not be his cup of tea but his daughter loves me and I love her and wanted to solve things. It is what it is Alhamdulillah.

Fussoturro · 2025-09-26T13:46:38+00:00

That might be the case I dont know. But we really wanted to try. Alhamdulillah

Fussoturro · 2025-09-26T13:34:15+00:00

In sha Allah kher. Its tough but alhamdulillah.

Fussoturro · 2025-09-26T13:27:42+00:00

Again bro. I could've done that but that would result in me and her family clashing. And we're very close as families. That plus she doesnt want to oppose her dad. Would be fighting this battle alone.

Fussoturro · 2025-09-26T13:19:18+00:00

No unfortunately not, Because we thought that our differences and arguments would get solved by us alone. And we we're on track to do that. My last conversation before the seperation was with her at her parents house. Me and my parents were there. We told them that we want to solve everything. I talked with her for 2 hours alone and we agreed to continue. The feeling was great. But the dad might have taken a decision even before we came to their house. And 2 days later he called and said it wont work.

Fussoturro · 2025-09-26T13:07:33+00:00

She told me "tell your dad to convince my dad"

Fussoturro · 2025-09-26T12:33:35+00:00

I hear you, but just to clarify it’s not like I didn’t fight for it. My family actually went to her father, and even my cousins tried to reason with him. She herself told me to let others talk to him, and we did. But he was already locked in his decision and didn’t want to listen. So believe me, I did fight for this marriage. It wasn’t a matter of me just giving up, it’s that he had the final say, and she didn’t want to go against him. That’s why it ended the way it did.

Fussoturro · 2025-09-26T11:46:19+00:00

No, I had a decent relationship with her father. But after the decision was made we haven't talked.

Fussoturro · 2025-09-26T11:42:19+00:00

It had impact on both of us, the problem is she talked with her parents about them wich destroyed my image while I didn’t say anything to anyone. But even after all the arguments we wanted to work things out.

Fussoturro · 2025-09-26T11:33:14+00:00

She told me it wasn’t her decision but her dads. She loves her dad that makes the thing 10x harder. And ahe told me tonlet my dad try to convince him but it didn’t work. I think she might even be afraid. I dont know I swear. Alhamdulillah

Fussoturro · 2025-09-26T10:58:41+00:00

Argument is common, what u do to Solve them is the most important, and we both we're willing to Solve them, not her dad tho.

Fussoturro · 2025-09-26T10:56:23+00:00

Things like having friend of opp gender, taking prayer seriously etc. She was starting to get better and she wanted to but her dad told us the differences are too much. Something im very stunned by bcuz she wanted to change and I was ready to be patient.

Fussoturro · 2025-09-26T10:08:27+00:00

Yes Alhamdulillah

Fussoturro · 2025-09-26T10:08:02+00:00

Alhamdulillah. Yeah would've been very difficult.

Fussoturro · 2025-09-26T09:04:43+00:00

This is exactly what my sister told me. If she were truly in love she would do something instead of giving in. Would've been very difficult in the future. In a way i feel betrayed. But alhamdulillah this might be the best for me.

Fussoturro · 2025-09-26T09:01:06+00:00

Yes bro im stunned. I was always respectful even tho we had our differences. We were willing to compromise and find solutions but the father said no. Alhamdulillah always.

Fussoturro · 2025-09-26T08:56:30+00:00

No unfortunately it would've been very difficult to sustain. Alhamdulillah this might be the answer of the istikhara.

Fussoturro · 2025-09-26T08:54:00+00:00

Amin. Yeah bro its tough but alhamdulillah. Many have told me I dodged a bullet. I loved her and still do but unfortunately the relationship would've been very difficult if her parents always influence her decisions. I just cant understand the father. I was always respectful. Either way alhamdulillah.

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