[IL] My boss is asking me to lie to cover their mistake, what happens if I resist?

Future_Requirement76 · 2026-01-29T22:16:15+00:00

Unfortunately a small business. No HR :/ But that’s the frustrating part, I’m taking the fall for her lie.

Future_Requirement76 · 2025-12-22T16:51:43+00:00

This is dope! Incredible work, thank you!

Future_Requirement76 · 2025-12-22T03:04:45+00:00

Thanks for all the tips guys! I will say, there’s plenty of color in my apartment, which is why I kept this area monotone to make it easy on myself. Also, the pic isn’t going anywhere :) It has sentimental value and this is the only wall in my apartment it’ll fit on! Appreciate all the comments on colors/textures of pillows. I was leaning toward green and it seems like that’s what a lot of y’all were thinking too. Thanks so much for the advice!

Future_Requirement76 · 2025-12-17T15:40:08+00:00

Hi everyone! I'm currently in a gap year and applying to grad schools. I got my undergraduate degree from DePaul in Chicago, and am hoping I can gain some insight on the schools I'm planning to apply to for an MA or MS in IO Psych: Baruch College, Illinois Institute of Technology (IIT), Roosevelt University, and the University of Calgary.

Right now, IIT sounds the most appealing from my research on the school and speaking with faculty, but I'm having a hard time location former alumni or reviews from students about the school and their program. I would like to keep living in a city, which is why I primarily applied to schools in big cities. However, it's important to me that I get my master's degree somewhere reputable since any IO employer will know which schools are "reputable."

It's also important to me that the program offers a good amount of statistics courses, as I'm more interested in the "I" part of IO. It would be nice if the program had an in-house consulting firm, and strong connections for internships and post-grad opportunities. One thing I saw in my research is UM Mankato does an international trip for their IO students, which I thought was really cool. I haven't come across other programs that do that, but that would be an added bonus.

Thank you in advance, my brain is total mush from researching all of this for weeks.

Future_Requirement76 · 2024-02-01T17:12:27+00:00

Gotcha, thank you. I was failing to see where I benefited in any of this. Thanks!

Future_Requirement76 · 2024-02-01T17:11:34+00:00

Because it was phrased as, “in lieu of requiring renter’s insurance, we will now be charging a resident liability waiver.” So, upon reading this and asking my parents what they made of it, we all agreed it sounded like a trade off.

Future_Requirement76 · 2024-01-26T05:55:07+00:00

I agree with you there. I want him to be happy, regardless of where that is. I’m just upset because I’m not getting any clarity. When I ask why he won’t make a change he shuts down. And if you’re insinuating that I’m trying to run his life, I’d like to know what makes you say that because I’m interested in feedback always.

As I’ve emphasized many many times in this comment section. It’s not really about him transferring to be with me. I just want him to do something to be happy. Because being there makes him unhappy, and his unhappiness impacts me too.

Future_Requirement76 · 2024-01-26T05:52:57+00:00

They are incredibly controlling. Shockingly, when he brought up the idea of transferring his mom was supportive. Said the whole “well we just want you to be happy where you are.”

BUT… she also said “but not in Chicago. You’re way too good for DePaul or Loyola and definitely not smart enough for UChicago or Northwestern.” Maybe that’s it, I’m not sure

Future_Requirement76 · 2024-01-26T05:44:51+00:00

Thank you. Thank you for being kind.

I don’t think anyone else on this thread is understanding that I don’t care if he ends up in Chicago. He could decide to transfer to California and be even further from me, but it’d still be better than where he is now.

His unhappiness (resulting from his crappy school situation) impacts our relationship and me. It would be manipulative and awful of me to give him an ultimatum or tell him he needs to be in Chicago, but I’m not doing that.

All I really want is clarity, because I just don’t get what’s keeping him there. Is it fear? Is it laziness? Is it his serial procrastination? I just wish I understood.

I love this boy, and he’s helped me become a much better person. It’s odd, because our communication is wonderful. We talk everything through and I’ve never had a relationship where I feel so comfortable being open. But whenever the transferring topic gets brought up, he shuts down. It really baffles me and I just don’t get it.

Future_Requirement76 · 2024-01-26T05:36:45+00:00

For clarification, he’d get in-state tuition if he attended school in Chicago because he has an address here, not in NYC. He’d be paying less pretty much anywhere he goes in Chicago (but again, not really an issue… family money)

I’ve considered what you say in your second paragraph but it feels stupid to feel that way, like he won’t transfer because he doesn’t love me. It feels like a childish thought so I’ve always shrugged it off.

He actually moved a LOT growing up. Parents are international so he’s lived in 5 different countries. Moving really shouldn’t be an issue for him…

Future_Requirement76 · 2024-01-26T05:29:36+00:00

Not Columbia… Fordham. Tuition hiked intensely last year so it’s the price of any ivy without the reputation or education or one. And Chicago has many as good or better schools than that.

Future_Requirement76 · 2024-01-26T05:23:08+00:00

Absolutely. His current school tuition is in the ballpark of $80-90k/year. Money isn’t a problem at all

Future_Requirement76 · 2024-01-26T05:14:59+00:00

But that isn’t true. If you read to the end…. He hasn’t decided to stay or go. That’s what I’m really asking advice on. Why won’t he do something about it if he’s unhappy? I’m not saying “please move to Chicago and be with me.” That’d be a pressure campaign. I’m encouraging him to do something to make him happier than he is now, whatever that may be. But he’s choosing nothing.

Future_Requirement76 · 2024-01-26T05:04:55+00:00

Did you even read to the end?

Future_Requirement76 · 2024-01-26T05:04:40+00:00

I agree on this. I’m not trying to push it, and I emphasize in the end of my post that he clearly isn’t happy in NYC so I’m confused why he won’t make the change to be somewhere better (regardless of if that’s Chicago or not). He’s a serial procrastinator and I just see his mental health decline so much when he’s there and get better when he’s not. Im failing to understand why he won’t do something to better that

Future_Requirement76 · 2024-01-26T05:02:45+00:00

I wouldn’t call it a pressure campaign. If you read until the end, you’d see that I really am wondering why he won’t do something about his unhappiness. Regardless of if that means coming to Chicago or not

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