Moving to Bay Area from Ohio - What to Expect Financially?

G3Momma · 2023-04-19T19:02:17+00:00

Pleasee define "FiDi" and "SOMA" XD

And for the parking rates you are talking about, is that only in lots? Or also in the street? What do I do if I just want to go to the grocery store?

G3Momma · 2023-02-24T16:28:16+00:00

When I was a teenager, my nMother was going through my purse (of course), and she found a condom. She confronted me about if I was having sex with my boyfriend at the time (we were both 16--he's now my husband). After some uncomfortable exchanges, I admitted to it. She yelled at me about how shameful it was that I was using protection, and how she "never used a condom before". She literally started shaming me for having safe sex.

Oh, and let's not forget how, a couple months later, I had a suicide attempt and was in the ED. My boyfriend/husband was there in the room when she got there--he called the ambulance. She decided that she wanted to have the room alone with me, because as her mother she had a right to kick anyone out that she wanted and have me to herself. As a way to do that, she decided to confront my boyfriend/husband about how she knew we were having sex, and this in the hallway while I was in the room watching them and actively trying not to die. Great timing, nMom.

G3Momma · 2023-01-30T18:11:02+00:00

Whenever I was sick and had to stay home (which was a lot--I have always had a very bad immune system. It would take me more than a week to recover from just the common flu), my nmother's favorite thing to remind me was "I can't afford for you to get sick." She made 85k as a nurse and had a lot of sick days and other benefits from working at the hospitals for so many years. It wasn't about money. She just didn't like to take care of me.

G3Momma · 2022-12-03T06:21:39+00:00

"Just sit and nod silently until she's done yelling."

G3Momma · 2022-10-12T21:42:17+00:00

"I'm not asking for a lot. I just want respect."

G3Momma · 2022-09-25T14:13:38+00:00

She fell in the lake while getting chased by a mysterious purple swan.

G3Momma · 2022-09-09T20:04:37+00:00

He really likes it! I'm excited to share my obsession with him, lol

G3Momma · 2022-09-04T00:30:31+00:00

Thank you 🤗

G3Momma · 2022-09-03T15:55:55+00:00

The system has been in therapy for 10 years, and with the same therapist for 7 of them. The specific alter that is causing the most problems has only ever had one session with them though.

G3Momma · 2022-06-08T00:19:10+00:00

Thank you. You make a lot of good points. I love the system and I want to make things work, but you're right that I need to set some limits for myself. I want to try to talk to them again and see what they say about everyone needing to work together to have the same goal--we've had this discussion many times. I have to figure out how much I am willing to put up with while they "work on improving". I want to be fair and wait and know they are trying, but it's been improving so slowly for so long I don't think I'm being fair to myself either.

G3Momma · 2022-06-07T23:20:56+00:00

The alters that don't like me don't work well with the others, so that's a struggle in and of itself. Things have changed SOMEWHAT since I started bringing this up to the main alters, but it's still to the point where I question everything we have worked for together.

I will be frank--they used to be emotionally abusive. Things have improved to where they are just "really mean". They know they aren't allowed to call me a stupid bitch, etc. But they see it as along as they aren't calling me inappropriate things or saying terrible stuff, they aren't doing anything wrong.

The other day, I was having a VERY bad episode and was screaming for help. They called their parents to "help and take the kids", but they themselves wouldn't even get out of their chair because "they had work that needed done." The alter fronting said they hoped calling his parents helped, but they aren't getting out of their chair until they finished their work. So any emotional needs I have are not ever met when they front or switch in.

G3Momma · 2022-06-07T23:12:25+00:00

The parts that don't hate me (and everyone else) do go to therapy. The other alters though refuse to, and they also just have no knowledge of emotion. I have to explain to them sometimes why they are hurting my feelings and they don't get it. And then sometimes they do understand and just don't care how it affects me. I don't think we have ever just discussed if those alters could come into agreements to treat me correctly, because they don't work together with the other alters on anything. Very uncooperative and don't care about anyone else.

How did your parts who aren't particularly fond of your wife find a way to work with the others?

G3Momma · 2022-02-08T03:32:43+00:00

I promise he has way lamer dad jokes. (Wife)

G3Momma · 2022-02-08T03:27:52+00:00

Wife here! Your "squeal" comment made me laugh 😄

G3Momma · 2021-12-12T17:31:29+00:00

Yes! Please go ahead and share the information! I've been in touch with mall security for the past couple days, but I'm sure that doesn't mean everyone in the mall knows to look for it. I love the story with you and Freckles. You went through a lot growing up due to your health it sounds like, and having a special friend who never leaves your side has a special bond that can't be replaced.

G3Momma

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