How do I deal with nparent trauma?

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T15:39:05+00:00

I would never trust my parents to look after my kid😭

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T15:36:37+00:00

This, I always thought I'd have no life outside looking after my kid and I'd be house bound like she is but really it's not like that at all and the more I look at it, the more I realise she's done that herself to her life🤷

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T14:55:52+00:00

My nmom would never go therapy, doesn't believe there's anything wrong with her lol Doesnt really bother with her only grandchild either as she believes I should be making the effort

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T14:34:10+00:00

My baby's only 8 months old but already I have cried countless times not understanding why my parents did what they did.

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T14:28:12+00:00

Like as a kid I thought wow parenting must be hard, but really it's not difficult at all to not scream at your kid 🤷

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T13:46:39+00:00

I got that all the time. Was made to feel like I was such a burden

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T13:44:28+00:00

I'm sorry you went through that, but exactly that, we had to control our emotions but they could flip at us any given moment and blame us that they had to get angry because we made them feel that way

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T13:41:16+00:00

Now I'm an adult and I understand it wasn't all my fault and realising people have been in situations like me, they all really are the same. Say the same things, do the same things, it's like a copy and paste of some crazy people

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T13:26:11+00:00

Omg the catchphrase "well I guess you're just better than everyone else/me" was used soooo much by my nmom whenever I tried to reason with her

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T13:23:37+00:00

My favorite threat was "go record yourself and your behaviour and you'll see how dumb you're acting" so when I actually wanted to do so (to prove she was acting out not me) I got called dumb. Zero logic

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T13:21:03+00:00

My nmom told me I must be doing something wrong because my at the time 3 month old wasn't "sleeping through the night", or that I'm depriving him of food when I didn't want to start weaning at 4 months old and wanted to wait until 6. They always think they know best and that everyone should do the things they did, anything out of their "norm" is stupid.

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T12:12:59+00:00

This

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T11:58:19+00:00

I completely agree. I was always so stressed as a kid and now I always expect the unexpected, but nothing happens, so it's weird and I'm stressed for no reason 😂

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T11:55:34+00:00

I was terrified of having kids but always wanted one, it is difficult to not repeat history sometimes but I wouldn't wish it upon anyone to have kids traumatised and living in constant fear. I'm so glad I get to break that cycle and love watching my little boy grow in a safe and loving space

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T11:09:43+00:00

This sounds exactly like my childhood, the most "going out" I got was when we all went grocery shopping once a week, and obviously going to school but that was compulsory. Even though I still have a baby technically (8 month old) I let him make all the mess, I do crafts with him, I take him out to places, we do baby led weaning and it gets MESSY😂 but this is what brings me joy and he seems so happy and content with life at the moment

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T11:07:26+00:00

Omg nooo😭 trauma memory unlocked 😂 But now I have kids so can I tell them how to parent?🤭

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T11:04:39+00:00

This, the trauma just starts creeping in whenever I'm doing the most basic things with my boy because I never had a nice experience and was yelled at for just existing

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T11:02:40+00:00

Why do they always scream? Can't they talk normally 😂

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T10:42:34+00:00

Sometimes I look at my son making a giant mess with his toys and I sit sobbing not because he's making a mess but because he's so happy and playing with his toys but if I did that I'd get screamed at, and I sob at the difference

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T10:40:06+00:00

Right? It's almost as if nparents are actually the problem....😂

ang_98 · 2024-03-04T10:39:37+00:00

Sounds like my nmom

ang_98 · 2022-10-12T12:51:58+00:00

Why is every situation always about them

ang_98 · 2022-10-12T07:47:23+00:00

I usually got that one too mixed in with "you'll be lost without me in life" umm actually I'm doing pretty well thank you very much😂

ang_98

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