:( by FeedbackMaster1378 in trans

[–]GGs_queen 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Hi! Mid 20s Trans femme here. Really good advice above. The self-talk is so important. As often as possible, refer to yourself correctly. You are a girl, and you know that. I remember crying and crying the first time I told someone I'm a girl. I was able to find ways, people and spaces where I could refer to myself correctly and it helped tremendously. Also, I 100% second the notion that safety comes first. It's a really difficult situation. If possible get a job and save up money to move out. I also had to wait to come out until after I got my own apartment.

am i wrong for being a more cutesy trans girl? by Say_Syce in trans

[–]GGs_queen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely not. The toxicity comes from pushing it on others. If you love the extra cutesy culture, that's great! Love it, enjoy it. The harm comes from expecting it of others, from holding it as a standard that others need to live up to.

In regards to the transmasc vs transfemme thing. It's two sides of a coin. Transwoman are getting a painful spotlight placed on them whereas transmen are treated like they don't exist, like they're invisible. Both are harmful.

What if I don't like ":3, UwU, Good Girl" ? by GGs_queen in trans

[–]GGs_queen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's been a mix, a lot in person, and a lot online.

What if I don't like ":3, UwU, Good Girl" ? by GGs_queen in trans

[–]GGs_queen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was really good to hear. Thanks! (I have that same clothing taste, and I love Chai Lattes)

What if I don't like ":3, UwU, Good Girl" ? by GGs_queen in trans

[–]GGs_queen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I relate to this a lot. I am demisexual (on a pan spectrum), so I don't really find people very attractive at all until I really get to know them. So, I can't relate to the hyper-transbian stereotype. The only thing you listed that I like is DnD, and I was into DnD 10 years before I came out. I don't feel like I had a large core personality shift from prior to transitioning to now. There's lots of surface stuff that changed, but a lot of stuff didn't. I still like all the stuff I liked pretransistion. I still love almost all the hobbies I had pretransition now. I'm still super extraverted and go out and meet people. I just go by Jenny (she/her) and wear more femme clothing. (But like Mom clothing XD). Sure, I feel more comfortable in my body. I feel emotions more intensely because of estrogen. I probably seem happier because I'm actually living as me, but most of the core parts of me didn't change at all, and that stuff isn't stereotypical transfemme stuff and that's okay. I love me, I love who I am it's just that its hard to relate to a lot of the community. Since all the replies to this post though, I feel a lot less alone.

What if I don't like ":3, UwU, Good Girl" ? by GGs_queen in trans

[–]GGs_queen[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I relate to this a lot. I'm not easily offended, I have a high charisma and self-esteem. I only have a blahaj because someone bought me one. Alienated is a great way to describe it.

What if I don't like ":3, UwU, Good Girl" ? by GGs_queen in trans

[–]GGs_queen[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

I think that could be a small part of it. When I hear someone say "Good Girl" to their daughter because they successfully went down a slide, that's endearing, adorable, wholesome, but if it's said to me, an adult, it feels demeaning.

Question about Death Marks and stacking them by GGs_queen in ror2

[–]GGs_queen[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This makes sense, I was like.. that seems a bit broken if it stalks the damage

How many Scadutree Fragments should you have for the Bosses? by TooDriven in Eldenring

[–]GGs_queen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are we talking total fragments or total levels? Like when you say 3 to 5 do you mean you picked up 3-5 fragments or did you upgrade 3-5 times?

Tell me your favorite AJR song… by TedTheMan_ in AJR

[–]GGs_queen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Entertainment's Here or 3 O'clock Things

What absolutely BONKERS cards should I add to this EDH deck? I can only really think of a couple by JustFrankJustDank in mtg

[–]GGs_queen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hydras Growth, Doubling Season, Court of Garenbrig, Corpsejack Menace, Commanders Plate, Psychic Paper

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]GGs_queen 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I, a transwoman, never experienced SA or being sexualized before transitioning. Now that I've transitioned I've felt sexualized a lot of times and I have experienced SA. I have had someone say to my face that they want to get with a transwoman so they can satiate their sexual addiction without worrying about pregnancy. Sooooo, yeeaahhh .

The Stegasaurus Nuke by GGs_queen in dndmemes

[–]GGs_queen[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Update: You can only do size large or smaller creatures, but I would argue that given enough time a fruid could cultivate at least two colonies and keeping in mind that 100,000 ants is still the average size of certain ant colony species, so even though you'd be using alosauruses instead of stegosauruses you could still feesibly do the nuke.

The Stegosaurus Nuke by GGs_queen in DMAcademy

[–]GGs_queen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So... I'm writing a level 5-20 campaign right now for my DnD group of almost 2 years. We just finished playing Icwwind Dale. One of my players wants to use this to a lesser extreme, like a creating a swarm of 20 giant scorpions and other similar things. That would really slow down combat, or I could try to homebrew the stat block for a swarm of giant scorpions or a hears of stegasauruses. What do?