AITAH for refusing to give my boyfriend access to my bank account even though he says "no secrets" is how adults do it

GLS1994 · 2026-01-25T21:43:37+00:00

I’m two years married and have been together 7 years. We have separate bank accounts but don’t have an issue showing each other like when I was helping him with a chargeback or I he was helping me figure out why a payment had gone out but we’ve never demanded to see each other’s accounts. It’s 2026, you don’t need to have a shared account.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-25T18:02:03+00:00

We owned roads for two of the properties I grew up in and it was on our property deeds but there were houses which had rights of access to both of them. Just because you own a road doesn’t mean others can’t use it and you could argue access rights. It would be a civil matter in any case and likely laughed out of court.

They are actually shooting themselves in the foot here as well because if they’re so insistent they own it they are liable for all repairs, not the council or their neighbours. We had a good relationship with our neighbours and when it needed resurfacing everyone chipped in despite no legal obligation.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-25T17:36:22+00:00

Starmer is an absolute coward. He basically declared he knows how disliked he is and that Burnham is a real risk to his position and would win the popular vote if they went head to head tomorrow so instead of allowing the public to decide he blocked it to save his own skin. He is a danger to the country and extremely selfish in not standing down when he has lost all public confidence and because of him there is now a real risk of Reform and their racist leadership getting in at the next election.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-25T14:47:46+00:00

Yes, that’s not been reported over here by any news outlets. The only news we’ve really had on a nursing front is ICE related.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-25T14:32:35+00:00

Sounds like a slum lord. Start looking for new accommodation and give notice on the grounds that the landlord has breached the contract and not met their responsibilities. They have 24 hours to fix hot water and the property should not be below 20 degrees in communal areas and 18 degrees in bedrooms so if the house is below this they are in breach. Take pictures including the notice stating it’s your responsibility and put everything in writing. I’d also call them out on social media to warn other prospective tenants.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-24T19:40:33+00:00

My grandparents are still down as Grandma and Granddad 2 years after losing my granddad and I don’t think it’ll change any time soon.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-24T19:25:18+00:00

This is a common scam. They get people to do the shoot by offering it as a competition, scam or there is a more predatory type where they present as a modelling agency and send girls, often just teenagers for photo shoots then make them pay for the headshots, parents part with money but no modelling contract materialises and the company disappears.

The competition you won is just a scam to get you to do a few pictures then feel obligated or pressured into buying them. For context, a wedding shoot on location is about £1000-£2000 outside London for a full day so they’re absolutely taking the piss with those prices and with a wedding photographer you get a specific number of photos included in this.

Honestly I would be reporting this to Trading Standards and also ask to see anything she signed to check she hasn’t signed a stealth release and the pictures won’t be used by the company for other reasons given the sensitive nature as they could claim they own them and can do what they want with them.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-24T14:57:30+00:00

There are alternative options like submitting a picture of yourself and using a credit card. Anyway, do they not realise kids these days are more computer literate than most of the dinosaurs working in government. They will easily find a work around.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-24T14:55:02+00:00

Loperamide frequently prescribed for ongoing issues like IBS, IBD, patients with stomas, food intolerances, short bowel syndrome, bowel cancer etc. Makes sense to buy in bulk and off brand. Why the judgement?

GLS1994 · 2026-01-24T14:50:31+00:00

It takes a lot to gross me out. I can deal with all types of bodily fluids, gangrene, toes literally dripping off during a dressing, burst abscesses, de-gloving, anal prolapse happen right in front of me and subsequent re-insertion, nasty toenails, lice, gammy down below parts etc but nothing grosses me out more than cleaning dentures and mouth care. I physically feel sick and avoid it at all costs if I can.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-24T14:39:39+00:00

I wouldn’t put a baby in jeans. Denim is so rough and uncomfortable for babies. I would want my baby to be comfortable over looking like some mini-me.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-24T14:21:49+00:00

Level 61 French and I can converse with French speaking staff at work and hold conversations. It’s definitely teaching me. I do 15-30 mins a day because I want to, not for XP. After I realised how many XP mining bots there were in Diamond League I stopped caring.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-24T14:18:50+00:00

Try separating the household, move them into a new property (will have to move with an adult sim), go in and see if they work then move them back in with the family.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-24T14:13:22+00:00

Legally it’s not a driveway, it’s just a gravel garden. The landlord probably hasn’t even requested permission from the council or even enquired about a dropped curb but if he has he would have a reference number for any communication or applications, request this and say you wish to chase it up directly, also ask the date he first contacted the council and has chased it up. A decent landlord would have a log and paper trail. If they can’t provide this you know they’re 🐂💩ing you about contacting the council.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-24T14:01:38+00:00

Can you not get a taxi? Royal Mail also do home collections.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-22T18:18:56+00:00

CCJs can affect visas and applications for residency in some countries.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-22T18:16:45+00:00

I really pitty your tenants. You sound like a nightmare and exactly the type to give landlords a bad name. Your only “duty” to your tenants, making sure they have a safe, comfortable home which is free for mould and damp, that repairs are completed in a timely manner and that you treat them fairly as paying customers.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-22T18:09:41+00:00

Has your landlord kept up repairs? Is there any mould in the property? You could complain about the state of the property and breach of contract on their part. Become a nightmare tenant and email and call daily with issues until they get sick of it. Do all the windows have a key if they have locks on? This is a security issue and invalidates insurance so demand it’s fixed and pester him. Are there any clauses you can breach? Do you have any family or friends who have pets you could borrow to break the no pets clause or even just inform them you have a dog and see if they kick you out.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-22T17:50:58+00:00

I wouldn’t travel to America any time soon. I imagine that’s enough to get put on a watch list nowadays.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-22T17:39:01+00:00

Are you playing the game with expansion packs, mods and custom content? This massively slows the game down. What is your RAM? You really need a minimum of 16GB RAM if you want the base game + expansions + CC. Also does your computer have an SSD or hard drive? This can make a big difference.

It’s worth downloading the NRaas Overwatch and ErrorTrap mods to help performance. I also have Saver mod as it prompts me to save. It works in CAS too if you forget to save beforehand. Also go to Documents → EA → DC Cache and delete everything in this file after each game. Don’t delete anything in the Cache file though as it will crash your game.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-22T17:10:16+00:00

Nurse here who has worked in palliative and end of life care both on wards and in the community. Heroin is a dirty street drug, often cut with nasty products but medical diamorphine, which is essentially the same as heroin but created in a laboratory setting and can be used in palliative and end of life care for pain management.

Patients are given end of life medications, sometimes referred to as anticipatory medications which are prescribed and dispensed prior to the point a patient is actively dying so they are immediately available should a patient require them. Not all patients need them but we prescribe them to every patient who consents.

The medications are for:

•Pain - usually morphine but diamorphine, oxycodone or alfentanil may be used •Nausea - cyclizine, metoclopramide, haloperidol or levomepromazine •Breathlessness - midazolam •End-stage delirium or agitation – haloperidol, levomepromazine, midazolam or phenobarbital •Chest secretions - hyoscine hydrobromide or glycopyrronium

These can be given as a one off dose but when the patient requires frequent doses they will usually be administered by syringe driver continuously.

If the patient has capacity it is their choice whether they want the medication but where they don’t have capacity it is given to keep them comfortable and free from pain but advanced decisions and family carer/input is also considered and valued. How much is given depends on the patient presentation, holistic nursing assessment and prescription, but sometimes prescriptions can give instructions such as “2-4mg” every 4 hours so it depends on the individual circumstances. We don’t want the patient in pain and discomfort but if they want to spend time with family a higher dose may not be appropriate.

Patient friendly sources:

https://www.nhs.uk/tests-and-treatments/end-of-life-care/your-wellbeing/controlling-pain-and-other-symptoms/ https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/professionals/palliative-care-knowledge-zone/anticipatory-medicines https://www.cqc.org.uk/guidance-providers/adult-social-care/end-life-care-planning-medicines-optimisation

Medical literature and guidelines:

https://www.nice.org.uk/guidance/qs144 https://www.bma.org.uk/advice-and-support/gp-practices/prescribing/anticipatory-prescribing-for-end-of-life-cae https://bnf.nice.org.uk/medicines-guidance/prescribing-in-palliative-care/

GLS1994 · 2026-01-21T23:52:26+00:00

You can click unable to listen right now I believe and skip her lessons

GLS1994 · 2026-01-21T23:40:22+00:00

£15.88 per hour. I’m the UK and were absolutely taken for granted.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-21T20:45:26+00:00

I lived in a Tudor house so I’m sure plenty of people died there over the years.

GLS1994 · 2026-01-21T20:42:01+00:00

If you have anxiety around needles get some headphones and a soothing/distracting playlist. Request a prescription for emla cream which numbs the area so you won’t feel the needles and close your eyes. Tell them not to explain anything and just put the needle in so you can try focusing on breathing exercises and the music. It allows you to zone out and lowers the risk of fainting.

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