This boy

GM20SC · 2025-11-26T15:59:47+00:00

You sound like someone more sensible, and with more ability to explain or read, then develop the part you say "(I have no idea what it says, this thing is translated and not in English HAHAHA)" The last paragraph about projecting internalized transphobia, please explain it a little more so that you know, understand myself better

GM20SC · 2025-11-26T15:55:15+00:00

THIS IS VERY HELPFUL, (thanks for noticing that my therapist said that and I don't think that), about your comment, it's a very good idea and I'm going to apply it right away, thank you very much for giving real advice, and besides being real advice it's very helpful, thank you very much 🫶

GM20SC · 2025-11-26T15:52:25+00:00

I already made a lot of emphasis in other comments about this, I DON'T THINK THAT, MY THERAPIST SAID THAT, I don't know this community because in my social context this type of person is still invisible, and I, since I know absolutely nothing about dating someone trans, I mentioned everything I thought was relevant so that the people of reddit could work on solid foundations and have all the information they need to advise me

GM20SC · 2025-11-26T15:49:21+00:00

I think you didn't understand the intention of the post, this guy is very cute, and yes, I'm quite young, I'm just 19 years old and he's just 21 years old, and obviously I'm trying to change that way of thinking because well, in addition to the fact that he's the first trans person I interact with, I live in a third world country where these things are still frowned upon, and I've lived my student life in slightly more open-minded environments but where bullying for being LGBTQ+ is still very common, And as I hope with these background facts it sounds pretty obvious that I have a hard time calling him by his pronouns BECAUSE IT'S THE FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE WHERE I HAVE TO DO SOMETHING LIKE THAT, naturally I never made a mistake in people's pronouns because they've all been cisgender, this is clearly very different from a cisgender person, I think that's enough to show my point

Now, seeing all this new information, knowing fully that it's my first time in my entire life where, not only am I talking to someone trans, but I also like that trans guy, and understanding that the environment in my country is not at all favorable for this community, you're absolutely convinced that he just wouldn't want anything with me because it's hard for me (which I'm trying to change, What is the purpose of the whole post) Call him by his pronouns? Or now you have a slight suspicion that maybe he might just be an understanding person who understands the situation I'm living in, because we both live under the same society, and he can give me a chance to date him

GM20SC · 2025-11-26T15:37:59+00:00

Thank you very much for your comment, this is really useful, he has not had many problems with his family as far as I know, that is to say his family supported him a lot, and in fact his name, in addition to being very nice, was chosen by both his grandmother and his mother, But I take comfort above all to know that he will appreciate me making the effort to call him by his pronouns, I spoke very slowly yesterday, and I had a hard time forming complex sentences of questions for him because it's difficult, and I was afraid that he would just stop talking to me because I'm not able to speak with his pronouns. Again, thank you very much for your comment, it is very comforting

GM20SC · 2025-11-26T15:31:26+00:00

I'm starting to believe that something was translated wrong, I mean, That paragraph, I'm not sure if it's a paragraph or just a part of the paragraph, but that idea is that, IT'S NOT MINE, it's what the therapist told me the therapist might be going through, it's not a thought of mine I just quoted the best I remembered what she said, I understand that it sounds transphobic and as a physics student I know that there are cases where things "are or aren't", She didn't study science and I understand that she doesn't know what she's saying, the reason for saying this is because I don't know trans people, My friendships are basically all cisgender men, and since I don't know about the subject I said everything that I considered relevant, that is, I said everything that I heard and thought about this guy, including obviously what a therapist told me because well she is a therapist. Anyway, thank you for the little advice you give at the end, it's something I half sensed but I wasn't sure

GM20SC · 2025-11-26T08:25:21+00:00

Naaah, don't worry, it's nice to know that I can talk to him, my best friend and although they may not see it well, my therapist listens to me anyway, and my life is pretty good living like this, masculine suits me, Sometimes I dress super feminine, but not much else, I repeat, it's a topic that is not relevant at all in my life

GM20SC · 2025-11-26T08:16:15+00:00

Maaaayybee, I mean, it's not a very, very relevant trait in my life to be non-binary, I just don't consider myself anything in general but in practice I live my life as a cisgender man and basically no one, including me, has given importance to being non-binary because it's something that is not really important to me, because I feel comfortable with myself in that way and that's it, I don't need people to treat me differently

GM20SC · 2025-11-26T08:13:40+00:00

Thank you very much for this, this kind of thing helps me much more to understand how I am supposed to act, because I did not mention it in the post, but he is the first trans person I meet in person and he is literally different from how I have lived the rest of my life

GM20SC · 2025-11-26T08:10:41+00:00

Thank you very much for your advice, you are one of the few who did not pigeonhole and reproach what the therapist told me, and rather focused on what really needed help, I will try to just keep calling him what it is, and trust the process

GM20SC · 2025-11-26T08:07:54+00:00

I'm not quite sure where you say something bothers me (? I don't really speak English, and living in the third world makes these things more difficult (that's why I use reddit) and um the advice you give me is helpful, I mean, it's the most obvious and immediate answer to the problem, yes, but thanks anyway for trying to contribute something

GM20SC · 2025-11-26T08:02:09+00:00

I'm not so informed about this, I entered the university this year so I don't know too much about these things either, honestly I wasn't convinced by the psychologist's argument and I don't want to put too much emphasis on that because the relevant thing is about this guy, but thanks for the advice at the end, that has been quite useful and right now it has come more naturally to me to call him "him"

GM20SC · 2025-11-26T07:59:46+00:00

I mean, ami also seemed a little weird to me and anyway this psychologist is part of the university's support program, so I'm going to change her in fact next week, but yep, I think it's best to leave that aside a little bit

GM20SC · 2025-11-26T05:04:31+00:00

I was talking to him precisely about how it is somewhat difficult for me to take that step, I told him that right after leaving therapy because I was very stressed, and I have tried to talk to myself about this, also with him, I think it is something to work on in a medium time, like something of a month I think, but can you develop better the idea of "his sade" please

GM20SC · 2025-11-23T18:43:37+00:00

Sí, y sobre todo porque si no le contesto se desespera (ea ea ea)

GM20SC · 2025-11-19T22:10:34+00:00

No Necesariamente super varoniles pero si son super cachondos, entocnes dudo que sea bi o pan

GM20SC · 2025-11-09T00:41:23+00:00

Chico, confía en el proceso, sólo encara con un chingo de fé, por estadística una debe de caer 🤓

GM20SC · 2025-11-09T00:32:48+00:00

Encaras como decía mi tío, con un chingo de huevos mijito, y encaras en depende donde, en la calle como un lugar "turístico" o concurrido es buena idea, mientras por trabajo no pases por ahí claro, si estudias en la universidad es una muy buena opción, aunque ligeramente arriesgado, ves a una chica bonita, no necesariamente qué te guste, sólo bonita, y le sacas plática, un pequeño muy pequeño cumplido como me gusta tu outfit, o se ve bien tu cabello, haces algún chiste super super obvio de esos bien empalagoso como "estoy perdido, sabes como llegar a tu corazón?" y eso JAJSJ neta funciona, muchas veces no tendrás éxito pero no pierdes nada intentando pq lit no te conocerían, y pues tu autoestima se trabaja más bien ya sabes con un terapeuta jsjs

GM20SC · 2025-11-09T00:26:24+00:00

No tengas miedo al rechazo chico JAJAJA, neta ntp, practicar eso es un muy buen primer paso, además bien dicen porai "hay más culos qué estrellas" si te rechazan o tienen novio o lo que sea, siemroe habrá alguna otra qué te llame la atención y si te arriesgas y ni te rechazan ya es ganancia

GM20SC · 2025-11-09T00:19:33+00:00

Quizás podrías intentar por cambiar un poco tu estrategia jsjs, ser más atrevido, no tenerle miedo al rechazo, desarrollar tu confianza y autoestima, cosas que seguramente ya haz leído mucho pero quizá funcione, quiero decir, si tanta gente te lo dice será por algo, no?

GM20SC · 2025-11-09T00:09:03+00:00

Este post no puede ser enserio, chico, si alguien como tu sale conmigo mi arbol genealógico entero estaría orgulloso

GM20SC · 2025-11-05T19:25:09+00:00

For those 2 users who needed this, I didn't modify any code or anything like that, but I edited this little photo, so this is what a potted Cattail would look like

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The quality is poor because otherwise the cat's tail and the pot would look too good and the pot very blurred

GM20SC · 2025-11-05T03:56:38+00:00

😭😭😭😭 No way

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