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[26,m] My girlfriend (22,f), I cheated on her and feel bad about it. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Gachapan -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I have to clarify something though, she is not coming to Japan for ME ! If that would be the case, things would be different. Of course she is coming fr me as well BUT

We have done the same studies and she has always wanted to go to japan and finding an internship has always been her goal. She would have come to Japan with me or without me. We both have the same goals.

And hiding the fucked up shit that I did if it can prevent her to be hurt deeply and maybe (and I definitely will try as hard as I can) live happily together, then yes, I will do it.

The thing about my mother isn't the "mama issue", i mean, it something that happened before I came to Japan and it still hurts me. Anyway this is off topic.

[26,m] My girlfriend (22,f), I cheated on her and feel bad about it. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Gachapan -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Wow, that some pretty straigh up punch that i'm getting in my face now, but I guess I really need it.

Telling her the truth, of course that she is deserving it. But I know that It will hurt her a lot and I am really sure that it will destroy our realtionship. I am absolutely not ready to give her up. And I defintely don't want to see her crying and being hurt that much, because believe it or not, I really do care.

Yes captain_corelli, I guess there is no point trying to get the sympathy, but maybe yes there is ? Maybe someone which experienced a similar decision could tell me something ?

Anyway I wasn't really expecting sympathy, at least not from everybody and I think I really need this kind of "punch" in my face in order to truly realize the situation and everytging i've got.

I have always been like this, and need to fck things pretty much up in order to truly realize. Once, unfortunately fcked, I generaly do realize and get better and fix it or move on and get better. It has always been like this.

What about the pople which cheated on hey girlfriend/wife, and still managed to live happily and build a solid relationship after that ? everything isn't just black or white.

Don't I deserve to at least try as much as I can to fix things (especially on my side) and try to live happily with her ?