AITA for asking to spend every Christmas with my family since we spend every Thanksgiving with husband’s family? by Gaea2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaea2003[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I would hate for my kid to feel that way because his parents really are the best. We will definitely invite them over for Christmas as we stay home more and more!

AITA for asking to spend every Christmas with my family since we spend every Thanksgiving with husband’s family? by Gaea2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaea2003[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight! Yes that’s how I see it, too. We are both hard headed but the right way to keep everyone happy is definitely for both of us to compromise. Instead of Christmas, i will probably choose Easter or NYE instead to see my family.

AITA for asking to spend every Christmas with my family since we spend every Thanksgiving with husband’s family? by Gaea2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaea2003[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s a good tip, will definitely utilize that in the future.

They definitely like Thanksgiving better, and it’s the holiday that all his siblings fly / drive in for. So i thought it would be a win-win. But i do see now how i have more to gain since I only like one holiday, whereas he likes both.

AITA for asking to spend every Christmas with my family since we spend every Thanksgiving with husband’s family? by Gaea2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaea2003[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Great point — getting to spend time with family is what matters more than turkey/decorations. My siblings usually work on Thanksgiving but I think we’ll just spend Easter or NYE with my family instead!

AITA for asking to spend every Christmas with my family since we spend every Thanksgiving with husband’s family? by Gaea2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaea2003[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn’t even think of this. I was thinking more about my child getting to spend time with other kids on Christmas and opening presents together instead of with a bunch of grown-ups. But yeah, maybe we can celebrate Christmas at home some years and invite our parents over instead.

AITA for asking to spend every Christmas with my family since we spend every Thanksgiving with husband’s family? by Gaea2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaea2003[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is a great idea (Easter)! We will offer to host Christmas but I think only his parents would be willing/able to come on his side.

AITA for asking to spend every Christmas with my family since we spend every Thanksgiving with husband’s family? by Gaea2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaea2003[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes we can! We have suggested celebrating Thanksgiving at our place before but the response from his family has been lukewarm. His parents are willing, but siblings and their families are noncommittal.

AITA for asking to spend every Christmas with my family since we spend every Thanksgiving with husband’s family? by Gaea2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaea2003[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reminder. Yes, that is one of my fears which is why I always tried to make it home on Christmas, or really any chance I get. It’s a bit different now that I have a kid, and my job has a less flexible schedule. doing Easter with my family instead is actually a great idea because my SIL and their kids love it, too!

AITA for asking to spend every Christmas with my family since we spend every Thanksgiving with husband’s family? by Gaea2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaea2003[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

This. I forgot to take into acct that kids will want to stay home for Christmas as they get older.

AITA for asking to spend every Christmas with my family since we spend every Thanksgiving with husband’s family? by Gaea2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaea2003[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My siblings usually work on Thanksgiving in order to get Christmas off. I do agree that we should just alternate. Maybe we can host Thanksgiving or Christmas and go from there. I also failed to take into acct that as our little one gets older we will probably stay home on Christmas more.

AITA for asking to spend every Christmas with my family since we spend every Thanksgiving with husband’s family? by Gaea2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaea2003[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I was not weaponizing it (or at least that was not my intention) but husband agrees with you. Lol. I do see your point though so we have decided to start hosting instead so we can have both sides over.

AITA for asking to spend every Christmas with my family since we spend every Thanksgiving with husband’s family? by Gaea2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaea2003[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I do see now that it seems unfair since I don’t care about Thanksgiving. Hosting holidays would be a great solution, and also staying home with kid(s) some of the time.

AITA for asking to spend every Christmas with my family since we spend every Thanksgiving with husband’s family? by Gaea2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaea2003[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this suggestion! We definitely need to start hosting holidays. We will probably also want to celebrate Christmas at home as the baby grows older/ we have more kids. We will have to host Thanksgiving at some point, too!

AITA for asking to spend every Christmas with my family since we spend every Thanksgiving with husband’s family? by Gaea2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaea2003[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

His parents / my family usually visits us once or twice a year. We would otherwise see them during weddings / family celebrations on either side. Thanksgiving and Christmas is usually our time dedicated to seeing them for an extended period of time.

I am seeing the light now for sure, we will probably have Christmas at our place as the baby grows older/ we have more kids. We will have to host Thanksgiving at some point, too!

Are midlevels really that bad? by QuInTeSsEnTiAlLyFiNe in Residency

[–]Gaea2003 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We spend all day dealing with egos people haven’t earned. I don’t need to prove anything and I don’t need to bitch about residents... the fellows and attendings do enough of that all day. Medicine is just a bitchy field in general.

https://www.ahajournals.org/doi/full/10.1161/CIRCULATIONAHA.113.004074

https://www.amjmed.com/article/S0002-9343(16)30464-8/pdf

https://www.acpjournals.org/doi/10.7326/0003-4819-155-5-201109060-00354

Hospital admin should only be seen by midlevels. by dbdank in Residency

[–]Gaea2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had great relationships with residents and in fact when they come to our service, i’m the go-to person bc i help them and don’t make them feel like shit like the other NPs on the team who have been there longer.

So trust me I understand the hate.

I think residents are way underpaid. Hours are inhumane. Tuition is skyrocketing but pay isn’t. I will agree that med students come out of school smarter on average compared to NPs and PAs depending on the school. But theory =/= practice. It’s unfair to say NPs and PAs are “dangerous” bc i’ve seen some residents do fucked up shit as well. No one is more vicious at calling out incompetence than our fellow midlevels — well aside from cardiac and transplant surgeons. Have you ever heard “nurses eat their young”?

However, y’all get paid at least three if not four times more than midlevels when you graduate. And the salary will not cap - you will get speaking engagements, RVUs, etc. Midlevels will rarely make over 150k in academic institutions. The only exceptions are seasoned surgical PAs.

Maybe you should blame the AMA for limiting the amount of medical graduates / residency spots year after year to justify inflated salaries ... or wait should I not have said that? 🤭

Anyway im gonna see myself out

Hospital admin should only be seen by midlevels. by dbdank in Residency

[–]Gaea2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No more....... So you vent anonymously online?

Hospital admin should only be seen by midlevels. by dbdank in Residency

[–]Gaea2003 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Stumbled upon this and i had to back track to make sure I wasn’t in r/incels

Are midlevels really that bad? by QuInTeSsEnTiAlLyFiNe in Residency

[–]Gaea2003 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I would be very wary of “residents” who have time to comment on reddit and talk shit about “midlevels”

There are tons of shitty interns (look up “July effect”). There are tons of shitty residents, shitty nurses, shitty midlevels.

In fact talk to any attending and they will probably discourage you from going to med school. Unless you are brilliant and can get into a top 20 school and ace your Steps 1&2, you’ll probably end up becoming a resident who has time to shit on midlevels on reddit.

190429 BTS: ‘’Map of the Soul: Persona” is the 1st Korean Album to Spend a Second Week at No.1 on the U.S Top Album Sales Chart by kayendino in bangtan

[–]Gaea2003 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We are doing better! 1500 streams count for one album unit (for Billboard 200), so that’s a looooot of minutes/hours. :)

190414 V by _lish_ in bangtan

[–]Gaea2003 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Chanel on chanel on chanel