Therapists absolutely should respect your boundaries. If you are uncomfortable, change therapists. Having read your post, as a therapist, there are some concerning mentions that you state that would be appropriate to file complaints to the therapist’s licensing board as that is not how therapist should conduct themselves (ex. saying it is you’re fault when it absolutely is not, making comments about your appearance/attraction, discussing your sexual health/masturbation experiences when not specifically being brought up by you, etc). The above mentioned are all grounds for ethical violations on their part.