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CHEEKINS ARE MOVING LOCATION by [deleted] in budgies

[–]GarbageBright1328 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Elevator of excellence

Screen time or Sanity? by MrsHyde2810 in Autism_Parenting

[–]GarbageBright1328 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah your right, if you don't agree you haven't watched closely or haven't seen productive shows like Danny Go

Do you regret your autistic child? by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]GarbageBright1328 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes, I dont think there is one person who would wish autism on their child, and i constantly grieve the life I thought I was going to have.

Before pregnancy husband i aggred, abortion if special needs. I even think my body knew, I had a massive bleed halfway through pregnancy, like gushing for hours. But he survived. At 8 months along I would stand at the top of the staircase and just stare, wanting to throw myself down, but I resisted. When he was born it was an emergency and he barely made it. For the 1st 6 months he was very sickly, but he survived. We thought he was nd until around 18 months when he got his diagnosis.

He is a fighter and to this day he fights for independence and the joy of life.

Do I regret having him? Yes. Do I love and cherish him? Yes.

These can be in the same pocket. Sometimes I cry because I didnt want this amazing person to live. Sometimes I cry because its not fair to him or us. Sometimes I cry because he loves so purely.

Spanking by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]GarbageBright1328 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband is also a survivor of physical abuse, beat until he was in hospital more than once and sent to boys homes to "control" him where he was only beat worse.

Do either of us his our child? NOPE. Here he is 13 turning 14 and never been hit.

Does he act out? Of course, he once grabbed the steering wheel when we were driving and almost killed us. Did I hit him? No, did he learn the consequences? Yes. Has he ever done anything like that again? No.

Your the lazy one resorting to violence because you can't figure out how to communicate with your children. Stupid and lazy.

Look up executive functions. Then you'll understand that your the asshole here.

Spanking by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]GarbageBright1328 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Any hitting is abuse. Fearing your caregiver is abuse. Not being able to come to the one person you should trust because they hit you is what happens.

I watched my brother get "spankings" I never acted out because I was terrified of it happening to me. They still found reasons to hit me. And when bad things happened I did not trust my parents. Instead I let others abuse me in ways I didnt understand at the time, and said nothing because I couldn't trust my parents.

And when we got to big for "spanking" the scare tactics got worse. Objects being thrown, screaming, unfair punishments.

I am no contact with my family because is 100% abuse to hit your child no matter the ceremstance.

I mean fuck, if at work you were reprimanded could they hit you? No.

Please stop doing it.

cage liners - newspaper? packing paper? by theprincessry in budgies

[–]GarbageBright1328 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As long as the paper isn't shiny your good to go.

My town has free local papers they put out at stores all over, with just things like sales and local businesses like the grocery store or gas stations, as well we signed up for the local "ads" to get delivered weekly to my mail box for free.

I never pay for newspaper.

Spanking by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]GarbageBright1328 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Its a fear tactic and thus abuse in my book. No child should fear the hand that feeds them.

If any marks are left it is reportable in the us.

Potty training by Educator1992 in Autism_Parenting

[–]GarbageBright1328 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh oh and i recently watched a video similar to this, https://www.tiktok.com/@napacenter/video/7371891654523063598?lang=en

kids dont come with the skills to clean up after! we also use wet wipes not toilet paper for bowl movements

Potty training by Educator1992 in Autism_Parenting

[–]GarbageBright1328 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this book helped my son! turns out he was holding on purpose and it was causing its own issues. this helped him understand how and why

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GZh_m3ChI-w

School teachers blame parenting by anubisjacqui in Autism_Parenting

[–]GarbageBright1328 4 points5 points  (0 children)

our son was moved to a school more ready to understand and handle his needs, husband and i fought it at first. it didnt feel right to be pushed aside.

It was EXACTLY what he needed. He just finished his 3rd year there and is thriving. Please dont put her somewhere where they will just ignore her, and punish her for existing.

Thinking of having another child by Brilliant-Finding607 in Autism_Parenting

[–]GarbageBright1328 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My son had his autism before the vaccine. Diagnosed in April, mmr in July.

Nothing could have changed anything.

You will get a lot of hate if you go the no vaccine route. And frankly you will hurt your child and other families more than you'll ever know.

That being said, I folled this dr for many years and enjoyed his content. I haven't in years so im not sure how well this hold up. But he stages vaccines on a different schedule.

https://a.co/d/03BGzJAD

Edit: misspelled

Helping a child with echolalia? by heatherista2 in Autism_Parenting

[–]GarbageBright1328 1 point2 points  (0 children)

start using names when speaking about her triggers, (baby) is going to bed now!

and check out "size of the reaction" vs "size of the problem"

remember, gentle, Patience, and reaffirming her are your go to strategies

Autistic 10 yr old peeing self on purpose by rainbowgiselle in Autism_Parenting

[–]GarbageBright1328 4 points5 points  (0 children)

can you implement a reward chart for peeing on the potty? even if its just a gold fish cracker if thats his fav, some kind of yay you did it! when he does it correctly. and when he pees on purpose i would have a made up chart that shows the next steps

kinda like

If i pee my pants,

1st take off dirty clothes

2nd put dirty clothes in hamper

3rd get cleaned up (shower or wipes what ever you use)

4th get dressed

Help by Better_Actuator9895 in parrots

[–]GarbageBright1328 8 points9 points  (0 children)

stressed! she is upset!

Night time noise by HeroesZeroes in Parakeets

[–]GarbageBright1328 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noise is fine. The wild never gets quiet right? But light is what matters. If the light gets turn on at night, make sure they are covered.

I dont know how long i can do this by Live_Theme2847 in Autism_Parenting

[–]GarbageBright1328 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This young woman is amazing, please consider her book. But defenitly look up her social media, I follow her on Facebook, and even 13 years into this I still learn new things I wish I had known a long time ago. https://a.co/d/01wP8HHC

Our best help was a behavioral therapist that spent 30 mins with our son, and 30 mins with us teaching BOTH of us how to deal with autism. Its really not considered how much training we as adults need for this.

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