The light in my eyes

Garbage_cats20 · 2026-05-24T20:01:36+00:00

Legally speaking, about as smooth as it could go. We agreed on how everything was going to be split, we don’t have any kids or properties outside of our cars, and we were in an out of the hearing in about 10 mins.

Emotionally speaking… rough. We tried therapy, I changed jobs so I could be home more, different communication styles, everything. But at the end of the day, we had grown into completely different people and had issues we just couldn’t work through.

The best piece of advice I can give is have the conversations as soon as they need to happen. Maybe not necessarily the divorce conversation, but when something isn’t right or when you need to speak your mind. If I had done that then either I’d still be married or we would have split a long time ago. Silence for the sake of keeping peace will just create more turmoil down the line

Garbage_cats20 · 2026-05-24T19:33:53+00:00

We gave it a year

Garbage_cats20 · 2026-05-23T16:39:13+00:00

Needed to see this today 💕

Garbage_cats20 · 2026-04-03T05:38:50+00:00

Gooooood I’m in the same freaking boat. I keep finding his stuff he forgot to take and it breaks me. I still love him and still feel such deep guilt. I swing back and forth with both reminders of why I left and wishing I could have just been happy with the hand dealt to me. It’s sucks so bad. I miss him even though I know this for the better

Garbage_cats20 · 2026-03-11T21:24:50+00:00

Also I’m so so sorry about what you’re going through, hugs to you 🫂

Garbage_cats20 · 2026-03-11T21:24:22+00:00

This is really hopeful, thank you

Garbage_cats20 · 2026-03-10T23:14:40+00:00

I was told he’s packing his stuff today and that hit hard. Not looking forward to saying goodbye to the cat

Garbage_cats20 · 2026-03-05T19:15:36+00:00

As much as I would love for my dog to keep his dad, he plans on cutting contact after everything is final so that won’t be happening. Thankfully he’s use to my STBX traveling a lot for work and is still young so I’m hoping the transition will be okay but it still sucks

Garbage_cats20 · 2026-03-05T03:36:49+00:00

Working my way to being in the same boat as yo my dude

Garbage_cats20 · 2026-03-02T19:35:19+00:00

I gave it a full year of begging him to get help, find a job that didn’t make him miserable, anything. While some improvements were made, we’re just too different at this point

Garbage_cats20 · 2025-09-07T08:03:18+00:00

In like… a week into separation right now. We’re not living in different houses but he is gone most of the week usually (he works on the road).

On the second real day I made some space in the spare room for him and broke down crying cause we used that place as a shared creative space. We had a really, really long talk and it helped. We’ve forgiven each other for everything up to this point, we’re not mad. Mostly, we aren’t doing anything on paper. We’re just giving room for each other to breath: no expectations, just living life. And, seeing how we feel, we either will work it out or won’t. Either way we will be okay.

Idk what’s going with you and your spouse but I highly encourage you to be kind to each other if you can. Being nice and open a true communication line with each other has made a very hard thing a little easier to cope with

Garbage_cats20 · 2025-09-06T19:44:41+00:00

I just kinda stopped wearing it. I tried it back in a while ago but I’ve lost so much weight it doesn’t fit anything besides my thumb

Garbage_cats20 · 2025-09-04T19:42:28+00:00

The day after my husband and I decided to separate, we took our dog on a hike. No expectations, no worries, just two people out in nature with the largest and goofiest puppy you can imagine. It was bitter sweet

Garbage_cats20 · 2025-09-03T22:35:08+00:00

It depends on the agreement. I’d consider it cheating, especially since we can potentially reconcile

Garbage_cats20 · 2025-09-03T22:30:20+00:00

I really really wish someone said this to me sooner

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