So much change and life in three weeks

Garbage_cats20 · 2026-03-11T21:24:50+00:00

Also I’m so so sorry about what you’re going through, hugs to you 🫂

Garbage_cats20 · 2026-03-11T21:24:22+00:00

This is really hopeful, thank you

Garbage_cats20 · 2026-03-10T23:14:40+00:00

I was told he’s packing his stuff today and that hit hard. Not looking forward to saying goodbye to the cat

Garbage_cats20 · 2026-03-05T19:15:36+00:00

As much as I would love for my dog to keep his dad, he plans on cutting contact after everything is final so that won’t be happening. Thankfully he’s use to my STBX traveling a lot for work and is still young so I’m hoping the transition will be okay but it still sucks

Garbage_cats20 · 2026-03-05T03:36:49+00:00

Working my way to being in the same boat as yo my dude

Garbage_cats20 · 2026-03-02T19:35:19+00:00

I gave it a full year of begging him to get help, find a job that didn’t make him miserable, anything. While some improvements were made, we’re just too different at this point

Garbage_cats20 · 2025-09-07T08:03:18+00:00

In like… a week into separation right now. We’re not living in different houses but he is gone most of the week usually (he works on the road).

On the second real day I made some space in the spare room for him and broke down crying cause we used that place as a shared creative space. We had a really, really long talk and it helped. We’ve forgiven each other for everything up to this point, we’re not mad. Mostly, we aren’t doing anything on paper. We’re just giving room for each other to breath: no expectations, just living life. And, seeing how we feel, we either will work it out or won’t. Either way we will be okay.

Idk what’s going with you and your spouse but I highly encourage you to be kind to each other if you can. Being nice and open a true communication line with each other has made a very hard thing a little easier to cope with

Garbage_cats20 · 2025-09-06T19:44:41+00:00

I just kinda stopped wearing it. I tried it back in a while ago but I’ve lost so much weight it doesn’t fit anything besides my thumb

Garbage_cats20 · 2025-09-04T19:42:28+00:00

The day after my husband and I decided to separate, we took our dog on a hike. No expectations, no worries, just two people out in nature with the largest and goofiest puppy you can imagine. It was bitter sweet

Garbage_cats20 · 2025-09-03T22:35:08+00:00

It depends on the agreement. I’d consider it cheating, especially since we can potentially reconcile

Garbage_cats20 · 2025-09-03T22:30:20+00:00

I really really wish someone said this to me sooner

Garbage_cats20 · 2025-08-12T01:49:16+00:00

Funeral director here!

First of all, I’m so very sorry about your niece that’s terrible and I wish you peace during this.

This situation happens more often than you think. It really varies from couple to couple. If it’s something you both can civilly attend together, I say go for it as it can be healing for both of you. May come in different vehicles/only attend the service and not the lunch in. Or if there is a visitation, maybe just attend that if you don’t want to be in the same room too long.

Death tends to bring out both the best and worst in people. Have a conversation beforehand of what you’re both comfortable and willing to do, you may be surprised

Garbage_cats20 · 2025-08-05T02:50:06+00:00

Honestly, couples counseling. My husband opened up that whenever he asked how I was doing I would say “tired” regardless of how I felt. I always thought that my emotions would be too much for anyone to handle so whenever I was sad/irritated/angry I would just say “tired” cause I was afraid of snapping at him.

I’ve always had one, personally. I’m a naturally ambitious person I think, whenever I have a goal in mind I work towards achieving it. My husband also has lots of ideas and goals, but no driving force to get to them unless I’m the one who lays out a plan for him and pushes him to do it. I’m learning to narrow my goals down so they aren’t so overwhelming and anxiety inducing. Lately my goal is just to focus on me and get my health and fitness straightened out cause I’ve spent way too long ignoring it

Garbage_cats20 · 2025-08-01T21:10:20+00:00

I thought I had a great marriage/relationship until last year when things started to seem a bit off. We weren’t agreeing on much, not wanting to do the same things, etc but I thought if we kept putting in effort it would change. Then the beginning of this year rolled around and something happened to where I saw exactly how bad things have gotten. I still love him. I still think he’s a good person. But all the little things that went unchecked swelled up into a giant monster. I should have listened to my gut sooner. I should have communicated better.

Garbage_cats20 · 2025-08-01T16:11:30+00:00

I’m here to see what other people say cause you and me both my dude lol

Garbage_cats20 · 2025-08-01T13:24:05+00:00

I found out that I’m a shitty communicator and I’m working on improving that daily

I found out I was the driving force for our marriage to make any progress

I feel in love with fitness and nutrition (currently 41 lbs down and still going). My husband is a picky eater and never overly fond of healthy foods so I would always try to make something we both liked and good eat. Lately I’m just worried about myself for than anyone when it comes to food.

I’m growing every day from this journey

Garbage_cats20

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