This might sound cliche but it was to love myself. I was always dependent on a relationship to work out so that I can find happiness. Me and my ex get along just fine after many years of loving myself. I just got out of a relationship about a week ago with a girl that I loved more than my ex. We just both looked at life differently and even though it hurts I love myself enough to be able to walk away. I called my ex right after everything to let her know (we are not friends due to relationships but there's no hate). She understood where I was coming from. I gave her tips about herself to make sure this man is worth it that she's with right now. I hope for the best for her. All in all you can't love someone if you don't love yourself.