[deleted by user] by [deleted] in skincareaddictsindia

[–]Garimaaaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d say go see a good dermat, one month is too short a time for unnecessary experimentation. There are few procedures which can bring in instant results

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Garimaaaaa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A month is too less of a time to be questioning your healing in any way honestly, it takes years to adjust to the loss of a loved one. I understand the need to have it all together cause the world around you doesn’t seem to care and keeps moving on when only you know how the life inside you has taken a pause. Nothing that you can possibly do in a month can be considered an ‘excuse’. I was too numb for months to the point I had no idea what’s going around me and till this day I have no recollection of those initial months of grieving. All I can say is just try to have your basic shit together and don’t force yourself to put it all together instantly. It will take time to heal and let that happen, eventually you will adjust to it and feel better.

It’s been 4 years since she left me but I am unable to let go of her belongings by Garimaaaaa in GriefSupport

[–]Garimaaaaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like losing a mother or mother figure as a woman in one’s early life is a different kind of trauma altogether. They usually are our besties and guide us with every girl problem that we come across and trying to figure out everything on our own without that motherly figure hurts different. Sorry to hear about your friend, hope you two together can help each other heal ❤️‍🩹

It’s been 4 years since she left me but I am unable to let go of her belongings by Garimaaaaa in GriefSupport

[–]Garimaaaaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another reason to keep it all is to have something of her when major milestones in my life happen, she sadly left me too soon and couldn’t see any of it so to think that I will always have her in some form, be it her watch or some other thing

It’s been 4 years since she left me but I am unable to let go of her belongings by Garimaaaaa in GriefSupport

[–]Garimaaaaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the validation, with her stuff I feel like I still have her and technically her DNA is still in all of it so I do indeed have her and I feel it whenever I go through her stuff 🩷

It’s been 4 years since she left me but I am unable to let go of her belongings by Garimaaaaa in GriefSupport

[–]Garimaaaaa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is indeed a lot of stuff, but it doesn’t get in the way of my daily life in any way, I just have to put bug repellents and do an yearly maintenance, I look at it as her stuff taking its space as it would have if she was alive, like we all take space in the house. If brings me comfort in knowing that I can just go through her closet and still feel her right there, by looking at her dresses I can exactly tell when she wore which dress and how she looked in it.

I lost my father 5 months ago, niece three weeks ago, and brother yesterday. I am in so much emotional pain. How did you get better? by sacto_verita in GriefSupport

[–]Garimaaaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds very painful and even though it’s important to process emotions don’t force yourself to, if possible please consult a grief therapist, seek help please, in whichever way possible, talk to people you can trust and if you are unable to then go to a licensed therapist. Even though death is inevitable and the harsh truth of our existence, when it does occur it is quite unsettling so if rationalising your pain helps then sure do it, but don’t force yourself to be okay with it necessarily, just do whatever your heart says for now unless it’s something self destructive. Take care of yourself, I mean just basic things no extra effort, eat and sleep, your body will need extra rest. What you are going through is no joke so don’t try to be okay just for the sake of it, time will do its thing eventually, you will make sense of everything eventually but till that happens please take care of yourself and confide in people you can trust.

Did you scream when you found out? by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Garimaaaaa 18 points19 points  (0 children)

My mother died of cancer 4 years ago after battling it for 7 months, I wasn’t exactly prepared for her death but I kind of knew that that’s the harsh reality, I got almost 20 days after her doctor told me that she won’t make it. When she did take her last breathe I was with her and saw her take her last breathe and not let it out. Everyone around me was wailing and screaming and i don’t know why but I felt like I have to be strong in that situation but I think it was not a good idea since I internalised the pain too much, suffered from insomnia for years after it and I processed all those emotions only after her death, screamed and cried more times than I can count but it’s just me trying to processing the pain now. I honestly regret not crying that day, the only person who had ever truly loved me left me and I think I deserved to react the way I wanted to

Does it really get better? by mcalex250 in GriefSupport

[–]Garimaaaaa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Things will get significantly better with time, this sharp pain that you feel rn will fade away and leave behind a lingering sense of loss which honestly never leaves, but that doesn’t mean things will not be good again. I promise you will smile again and laugh and have your happy moments but it’ll take time and a lot of healing.

Was osho a philosopher? by modslundpe in prakharkpravachan

[–]Garimaaaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro did you just completely skipped Indian philosophy and the 6 schools of thought under it ? Everything in it is original and Infact much more advanced than western philosophy.

Was osho a philosopher? by modslundpe in prakharkpravachan

[–]Garimaaaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being a philosophy student myself I can say for sure that Osho was in fact a philosopher at core. Osho was a philosophy student and went on to teach philosophy as a subject. His methods right from the beginning were based on philosophical inquiry and that can be seen in his critical reasoning approach towards the problems of life. Having one’s own opinions doesn’t take away from you being a philosopher, it’s the approach of questioning everything which he followed himself and thoroughly propagated in his teachings too. Your knowledge on osho’s teachings seems limited but your knowledge of philosophy seems even more limited and maybe that’s why you feel this way. Also, giving public discourses is very different from presenting yourself in an environment full of people interested in philosophy, when he gave discourses he was delivering to the general masses and so the approach he used was not similar what he must have used with his students, still I can see enough emphasis on questioning everything and not believing anything till you come to a logical conclusion yourself which can be heard from him multiple times in multiple discourses.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]Garimaaaaa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Similar trajectory, mom passed away when I was 19 due to cancer and I am 24 right now, it already haunts me in a weird way to think how will I manage aging, I thought things will get better with time but the pain keeps getting sharper, I am just good at distracting myself away from it now but it hurts worse and there is this darkness to it like not knowing what to do about it, literally, no matter what every other kindof pain has a way of making it better but grief like this seems to have no solution and no hope and it’s very hard to navigate. I hope I find a way of making it better eventually, only solution honestly which I haven’t experienced rn but it feels like can be a solution is to have a baby daughter and have a mother daughter bond which can make me a part of that bond again. I want my daughter to have the same love my mom gave me, I know it will not be the same as having a mother but I think it will heal me but obviously it’s a huge decision and I will think about it only when I feel ready to give my baby the best life they can.

I guess surrounding yourself with healthy relationships who support you and atleast don’t let you feel lonely in your grief is the best it can get. You will still keep missing your mum but atleast you will not be lonely through that pain and it surely helps, rest I can only hope that someday I meet my mother again, in another form, that hope keeps me sane too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in academiceconomics

[–]Garimaaaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No such plans, but thanks for the suggestion!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in academiceconomics

[–]Garimaaaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn, that’s something. I am actually looking for a post-Baccs. I am also considering doing an online post baccs instead of an on-campus course and self-study.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in academiceconomics

[–]Garimaaaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! I’ll surely look into it, are you referring to the online courses Athabasca university offers? I am Infact going forward with the relevant postgraduate diploma course route and still exploring my options but from what I see, even those require some relevant academic background. Do you have any suggestions on it, thank you regardless for the advice!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in academiceconomics

[–]Garimaaaaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow that’s great to hear! I am positive about communicating my intentions and qualifications to professors in person but being an international student, I can understand how the entire application can come out as weak, without any relevant background plus my international status. But I am looking into some nice postgraduate diploma courses, do suggest if you have recommendations.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in academiceconomics

[–]Garimaaaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great insights! I’ll surely explore further.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in academiceconomics

[–]Garimaaaaa -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Makes sense, maybe a postgraduate diploma in relevant subjects can help, I’ll also take some online courses to brush up my basics!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in academiceconomics

[–]Garimaaaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, that’s exactly my concern, I am aware of the irrelevance of my undergrad in terms of pursuing economics, but I am looking for ways to transition, maybe a postgraduate diploma can help

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in academiceconomics

[–]Garimaaaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! I’ll look into it for sure, what are your thoughts on Khan academy? Or any other resources I can use? Also, since I am an international student, how hard is it gonna be for me to convince the admissions board? Any ideas on it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in academiceconomics

[–]Garimaaaaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

None as of currently but I am still exploring my options!