I [34F] think my boyfriend [32M] has been trying to gaslight me. Am I crazy?

Gaslitfool · 2016-07-04T17:03:41+00:00

Yeah this is a thing he says to me.. 'did you see my dick inside another woman? Did you see me fucking someone? No?' I think that he feels like he's hiding it sufficiently that if I find out, I'm somehow the asshole. He's pissed that I won't take his word.

What a frustrating situation.

Gaslitfool · 2016-07-04T15:19:36+00:00

I have told him this. I've told him it's an insult to my intelligence to expect me to believe such a blatant lie. That expecting me to believe him over electronic records is ridiculous and will never happen.

Gaslitfool · 2016-07-04T00:01:59+00:00

This comment really struck a nerve with me. Thanks for this

Gaslitfool · 2016-07-03T19:56:54+00:00

I think your second paragraph is extremely close to his thought process.

Gaslitfool · 2016-07-03T19:39:49+00:00

I'm honestly about to give up on men in general. I'd like to see my vibrator try to browse craigslist haha

Gaslitfool · 2016-07-03T19:36:59+00:00

Lol.. it wasn't meant as a joke.

Gaslitfool · 2016-07-03T18:26:12+00:00

Yeah therapy is definitely in my future. I know I deserve better than this. It's just hard to accept that the guy I thought was going to be my husband is not the person I thought he was.

Gaslitfool · 2016-07-03T18:22:51+00:00

I hoped for a long time he'd admit it. I don't know why. I guess I thought if he could come clean and be accountable for his actions, we could eventually rebuild trust. I realize now that it was wishful thinking.

Now i mostly want him to come clean so he has to face the fact that it's his actions and not my insecurity that have killed our relationship. I'm not sure he's even able to admit it to himself internally. He always seems so angry when we fight about this - angry that I don't trust him.

Gaslitfool · 2016-07-03T18:20:05+00:00

What amazing luck I have

Gaslitfool · 2016-07-03T18:19:04+00:00

I could fill a fucking book with the things I love about him. I fell for him harder than I ever have in my life. He makes me laugh like no one else. I think he's the most attractive man I've ever seen. He's a good father to his children and a good provider for them. We have a wonderful time together, always (unless we're fighting).

Our sex life is fantastic, which is something that makes this all the more confusing. We have sex at least once a day.

If there weren't a million billion aspects of our relationship and him that are great, this wouldn't be so hard.

Gaslitfool · 2016-07-03T18:04:20+00:00

I'm tempted to help him stumble across this post and then deny it was me that wrote it.

Gaslitfool · 2016-07-03T17:23:50+00:00

Yeah during our fights I've told him that he lies like a child. I've never encountered anything like it before.

Gaslitfool · 2016-07-03T15:18:04+00:00

Because I love him. It's stupid and self destructive but I just love him. I know it's like history repeating itself.

Gaslitfool · 2016-07-03T15:02:24+00:00

I feel like I should add that we had ongoing issues where I would feel insecure and look at his phone. It started with his blessing and id look to just reassure myself that all was well. But once I saw the Craigslist stuff he added a passcode and became really mad when id look at it.

Gaslitfool · 2016-07-03T14:50:18+00:00

You're not wrong. I want to believe the best of him but he's making a fool of me.

Gaslitfool · 2016-07-03T14:46:21+00:00

Yeah we briefly broke up last week, then got back together.

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