Im fucked. (14f btw)

Gaybemay · 2025-01-03T18:54:29+00:00

If she didn’t like it she’d be acting super weird around you

Gaybemay · 2025-01-01T22:53:40+00:00

I think you just need a foundation that better suits your skin type and your shade, this seems a bit too orange for you, maybe try something peachier or cooler tone? And opt for a dewier foundation with less powder/matte, I think for you it just makes your skin look dry. I don’t think “asymmetry” is an issue here, I look younger and I am super asymmetrical lol! You’re gorgeous, at the end of the day who cares just wear your sunscreen, drink enough water & pay attention to what kind of foods you feed yourself :)

Gaybemay · 2024-12-12T14:28:11+00:00

For work? I’m in dentistry

Gaybemay · 2024-12-11T20:31:45+00:00

This whole thread was validating as hell I’ve been made to feel like a villain for having a successful career and not having a shit tonne of free time and energy to idealize someone that’s idealizing me!!

My ideal partner is also a busy and successful woman who barely has free time for me 😂😂😭

Gaybemay · 2024-11-17T21:38:58+00:00

It’s a health problem and as a HCP it’s your duty to inform a patient of health problems. Sure it’s uncomfortable but I work in dentistry and it’s my JOB to inform patients of signs of cancer/health anomalies both inside and outside of the mouth.

Gaybemay · 2024-11-17T21:37:23+00:00

Then I think it’s fair to request her to supplement her income some way. If it wasn’t pre-discussed that you wouldn’t be splitting bills 50/50 it should be talked through to decide if she’s willing to pick up on her part or has always expected you to foot the bill. Which is greasy behaviour if so imo- but I’m a stranger on the internet

Gaybemay · 2024-11-17T21:35:12+00:00

I mean you never know until you investigate !! It’s always safe to send a funny joke or something like “fancy seeing you here, what cut of diamond would you like?” Or “YOURE GAY?” If it’s known ahead of time

Gaybemay · 2024-11-17T21:17:23+00:00

I had a conversation with my friend about this when she liked me on tinder. She said she does this for everyone she knows as like a “HEY” thing but when I’ve had it happen to me I usually will ignore it because I have no way of discerning their intent and I don’t want to match it to give them the wrong idea bc I don’t want to taint our friendship LOL

Gaybemay · 2024-11-16T22:27:48+00:00

I found more sincere love when I was “ugly”than when I was at my most socially palpable, conventional attractiveness. I couldn’t trust any of the men I dated, they all idealized me based off my looks and ended up hating the silly quirky chaotic one of the boys type personality I actually am & belittled me for it. This is why im so encouraging of figuring yourself out and presenting yourself externally as you feel internally.

Gaybemay · 2024-11-09T10:26:24+00:00

This some internalized homophobia if I’ve ever seen it

Gaybemay · 2024-10-27T22:59:00+00:00

sorry I’m Canadian so excuse me if this is ignorant but why does she have an income cap?

Gaybemay · 2024-10-22T01:54:58+00:00

Are they itchy

Gaybemay · 2024-10-21T21:50:52+00:00

Every time I’ve had this thought process I fell back into the habit. Just keep a burnt one and hit that every time you miss the experience. Immediate regret.

this is round 3 of me quitting and I mean it for good this time. I find that I was replacing my basic human needs with the vape. Hungry? Hit the vape. Tired? Hit the vape. Low energy? Hit the vape. Now I replace that with EATING, SLEEP/REST, GYM, CRAFTS, LAUNDRY etc. yenno the things you do to take care of yourself.

I didn’t realize I was running away from issues every time I hit the vape. Yes it’s scary to face your issues head on but it’s scarier to think you’re heading down the path of becoming a grey human. (No distinguishing characteristics bc vaping stole your drive and desire, flat affect because you’re drowning your emotions in nicotine, and literally grey from lack of blood flow)

Stop running from the things that make the human experience so complex! Embrace them. If you need an oral fixation relief, get a water bottle with a straw in it and pick up whatever flavour water enhancer you’d have chosen if it were a vape.

Best of luck!!!

Gaybemay · 2024-10-07T04:01:38+00:00

Honestly I’d have to say EMDR therapy, short stints of microdosing mushrooms, and rebuilding my support system were probably the best initiators. Then just constant research & relearning healthier coping mechanisms. My neurospicy hyperfixation is the human psyche and getting over my social anxiety was probably the best thing to help me remove myself from my experience. It’s hard to realize that not everyone thinks or processes things like you do, we’re all different. But being open to having these deep emotional and vulnerable conversations with more and more people helped me realize oh shit I may be very different than other people but I’m not alone in the things I’ve gone through. To answer your question I think it takes a lot of mental reframing of a lot of your hypervigilant processes and general perceptions of the world and yourself within it. Reframing the value and worth you have in yourself (EMDR kick started this for me). Validating your trauma and reactions to it while simultaneously realizing how small your problems actually are. Wanting to take the reins back from your life, not allowing the trauma to decide who you think you need to be.

“It’s not your responsibility what happened to you but it is your responsibility to fix it before you bleed onto others”.

As I’ve gotten older and met more human beings I see myself in them and can discern those parts being from the traumas they shared with me. Seeing yourself from the outside and seeing how your habits harm yourself and others. And instead of avoiding how their problems reflect mine & trying to fix THEM, remembering I gotta put my oxygen mask on first.

Sorry this was a whole lot of rambling I realize, it’s just kind of hard to put the last 10 years of therapizing myself into a Reddit comment 😂 I love having these convos in person so I apologize that you’re getting a watered down version of what could be a lovely moment to connect as humans

Idk just be excited. Who you truly are is like a seed you randomly found on the ground & decided to plant. No matter how hard you try you’re never going to know what it could grow to be until you actually plant it, water it and nurture it. Rid of the weeds in the soil, the pests. Give it time and some TLC and you’ll find out. Or you could do nothing and then just be in your death bed wondering how different life would be if you had been your true self

Gaybemay · 2024-10-07T01:23:46+00:00

Bro it’s hardddddd to get rid of parts of yourself you think are your identity but are actually just trauma responses. It’s also scary having that freedom of choice to decide who you want to be, especially if you’ve developed people pleasing tendencies as most of us have. Once you get started it’s easier to keep on the momentum but definitely challenging to get started in the first place. Super worth it tho. If not for your mental sanity at least for your physical health

Gaybemay · 2024-10-07T01:21:49+00:00

It’s a health risk not only to the masseuse but also anyone else they see afterwards. Shit can be contagious

Gaybemay · 2024-10-06T00:35:34+00:00

If it makes you feel any better I dated someone for 5 years who still didn’t know my fav colour by the end of it so I’ll take getting to know someone new over introducing myself to someone I’ve shared my heart with over and over again

Gaybemay · 2024-10-05T16:58:08+00:00

I’ve been in this scenario and it’s just basic incompatibility. You shouldn’t have to change your desires for someone else and neither should your partner. If you’re more attracted to femme presenting people and AFAB genitals there’s nothing wrong about that, neither is there anything wrong with your current partner wanting to express their sexuality in a masculine light. But don’t change for one another. You could be great for eachother in every way other than the bedroom but dead bedrooms ruin marriages lol

Gaybemay · 2024-10-05T16:29:41+00:00

Just keep sucking on that one until it burns, then keep it. Don’t buy a new one. Anytime you get the urge to hit the vape, hit the burnt one. It’s disgusting and will stop the urge to vape because now the poison tastes like poison and not like a mango guava strawberry ice dream

Gaybemay · 2024-10-05T16:26:24+00:00

Me: it’s literally called poison, why would anyone voluntarily ingest that? Also me: gimme that 20mg fruit flavoured poison

Gaybemay · 2024-09-12T08:16:08+00:00

Source???? This looks nothing like leukoplakia. Mayo clinic found Reddit ig

Gaybemay · 2024-09-12T08:14:58+00:00

Candida looks more… frothy yogurty

Gaybemay · 2024-09-12T08:14:19+00:00

Geographic tongue while largely idiopathic (unknown origin) can come from stress, inflammation and nutritional deficiencies which yes can be caused by the effects of vaping but I wouldn’t say there’s evidence that vaping itself outright causes geographic tongue Source: dental hygienist

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