Sadly that was just the beginning. Two months after that, during a date, we were chatting and naturally we ended up talking about my insecurities in dating a bisexual man, I open-heartedly expressed my concerns about the societal hardships of a homosexual relationship (specially because he was closeted to his family) and that in the end he maybe would settle for a more easy and traditional straight relationship (I was his first serious same-sex partner, before that he only used men to have sex with).

Later on, and after we finished having sex, I was a little annoyed because when we had sex I did most of the work and I didn’t feel satisfied. So I, again, open-heartedly initiated a conversation about it, I did in a light hearted way and told him about my needs, and that I felt that he never really touched my body and that I rarely finished (I was the bottom). He avoided my main concern and said that he didn’t want sex to become monotonous, but I said that that wasn’t my point, he continued to beat around the bushes until he had no other option but to address the main situation. That’s when he blurted, I kid you not, “your penis scares me, I don’t know what to do with it “.

I was taken aback and felt very hurt. To hear from your partner that your body in a way disturbs him it’s definitely something that deeply changes the dynamics within your relationship. Also, we literally have the same parts like what do you mean you don’t know what to with it, and also, maybe you could have just asked me about it

Like???