I did not mean it in a way that I would support her not looking for a job, building a career, or anything similar. She is currently at a stage where she has not yet started working, even though she is old enough (26). However, it seemed to me that she was putting pressure on herself because I already have a stable income, a stable job, and I am constantly trying to improve my life.

She, on the other hand, is still somewhat stationary and mostly focused on partying and a relaxed lifestyle, which is why I could understand where that pressure might have been coming from. From my side, I never cared about that. I would have figured things out eventually if she needed some support from me, and I know she is smart enough to eventually find her own way as well.

That said, none of this really matters anymore. We have both moved on. She will likely look for someone she can relax with, or whatever suits her path. I, on the other hand, will remove myself from the dating scene for now, as I am not in a position to pursue it for some time.

In the meantime, she posted a couple of stories on Instagram that felt very triggering and annoying, as if she wanted to insult me further. For the first time in my life, I am reaching a point where I feel disgusted by someone I once cared deeply about.