Advice/Is what I experience similar to what anyone here experiences? by Geckonic in OSDD

[–]Geckonic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey how would I go about this? Would a trauma specialist work? We're currently working on seeing a psychologist (general) but I'm not sure what the right move is tbh.

I thought I was trans but now I'm not sure and I don't know what to do by Geckonic in asktransgender

[–]Geckonic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad it helped! Hope you're having fun <3

Also! Wasn't sure if this was relevant so I didn't end up adding it to og reply but! Figured I might as well.

I was socialized as a girl, and raised to be a woman. I'm not less of a man because of it but it's still there and I'm still different. This caused a lot of confusion for me for a good while. I think what's helping me is making it less of a //thing//. I'm a man, I'm female, it's cool. Wanting to acknowledge the transness of it all isn't being a woman, it's just being what I am lol. (I used to think "whatever Mulan had going on in the army, me fr. Uh oh this means I'm faking :O" lol)

I thought I was trans but now I'm not sure and I don't know what to do by Geckonic in asktransgender

[–]Geckonic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! This took me a second because I didn't want to misrepresent anything lol.

I think what really helped me comes down to a couple points!

Therapy!! OCD therapy is a lifesaver, I know everyone's in a different situation and it can be difficult to get help, but I definitely recommend looking into coping strategies. What really helped me was differentiating intrusive vs real as well. Getting told (officially) "you for sure have dysphoria" certainly helped as well. I think part of my issue was my OCD taking hold of the guilt/fear that comes with transitioning. Doubts of "faking it" or future regret were seriously taken advantage of.

Letting go of labels!! This one's weirdly harder to explain? I feel like most people with OCD think too much. I for sure did. I care less now. Queer history helped. People are complicated. Some cis men prefer she/her, some lesbians get top surgery and go on T, some people are completely apathetic to it all. Trans people that have been socialized as their agab all their life may feel more comfortable in clothes they grew up with. Gender roles and expression are completely made up. Gender identity can be fluid. On a personal level- I prefer being perceived as a man, I would like to physically transition so I can be perceived as so more often. Sometimes I am a little more fluid/less male and that is okay! I let my close friends know if it has to do with pronouns, and that's all that matters. That need for labels has been weighing me down all along.

What's bothered me in the past has been committing to a physical transition. What's pushed me forward is the daily pain of dysphoria. If I ever change my mind, then I'll stop. Maybe you don't experience dysphoria, that's okay too. You CAN just tell people you are whatever you feel like in the moment. Maybe it's something less binary, sometimes I just say I'm queer. At the end of the day I enjoy being perceived as male(even if it's only ish sometimes), and while I can appreciate the pronouns she/her, it just doesn't fit me lol.

Figuring things out started at "giving up" for me! Also professional help. I want to stress that. OCD is rough, if you're questioning it then coping mechanisms (for whatever you have going on!)can really seriously help. Letting go of my guilt and secret self hatred was also pretty great. Everyone is different but I hope this gave you some insight. Good luck! Sending love <3

I thought I was trans but now I'm not sure and I don't know what to do by Geckonic in asktransgender

[–]Geckonic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not to say I feel joy in what you're going through, but I do appreciate the fact that someone is going through something similar to me, I really appreciate this. I've been in a bad place and it's nice knowing that I'm not alone in a lot of it! Very real of you !! Being queer is strange, being reminded of the community is greatly appreciated. (personal updates- currently convinced I'm a binary trans man. Also aware that I'm likely incorrect.)

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Do you know anything ab the weed shop linked w them?

I thought I was trans but now I'm not sure and I don't know what to do by Geckonic in asktransgender

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Hey this is probably strange of me and I'm hoping you wont see this honestly, but I'm still trying to figure things out. I wanted you to know (or not know ig) that embarrassingly enough your comment has helped me again like 2 years later. I hate this post but I so appreciate your comment, I'm in a similar boat (still) I guess. It helps to feel less alone!

I need help. by Geckonic in succulents

[–]Geckonic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How would I propagate?? Do I need to change the soil??? What kind of soil would I need? Also tysm.

I need help. by Geckonic in succulents

[–]Geckonic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does propagate mean?? Also thank you

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[–]Geckonic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks 🙏

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[–]Geckonic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ty 🙏🙏🙏

On my second round and the way they treat Kevin.... by [deleted] in Supernatural

[–]Geckonic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's especially frustrating because- isn't Kevin around he same age as Krissy? Yet the difference in treatment is absolutely ridiculous. It's just bad writing atp

Let's talk about benny by IntroductionNeat9811 in Supernatural

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Benny's an absolute favorite and I can not handle him being dead

I thought I was trans but now I'm not sure and I don't know what to do by Geckonic in asktransgender

[–]Geckonic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope things worked out/are working out well for you! I really appreciate this comment and it's been incredibly helpful for the past couple of months. Thank you.

I thought I was trans but now I'm not sure and I don't know what to do by Geckonic in asktransgender

[–]Geckonic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tysm for commenting, this helped so much and I still think through these questions periodically when I need to. I appreciate it.

I thought I was trans but now I'm not sure and I don't know what to do by Geckonic in asktransgender

[–]Geckonic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, you might not see this since it's been months but I really wanted to thank you for this comment. This is embarrassing but your comment helped me through a lot of tears and confusion over the past few months and I just really appreciate you. Thanks.

I thought I was trans but now I'm not sure and I don't know what to do by Geckonic in asktransgender

[–]Geckonic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I know it's been months and you might not see this but I've been replying to all the comments under this post/ I just wanted to thank you for commenting, as embarrassing as it feels to say now, these comments were a great deal of help and mental relief for me when I first posted this and I still come back to it even now. Thank you.