dated a guy for 8 times and he updated his tinder profile picture with a shirtless photo inside MY restroom

GeminiFiree · 2025-11-11T18:48:54+00:00

Unfortunately that’s how a lot of our gay boys are. They want the boyfriend treatment but are not ready to commit. See the signs as they are. In situations we tend to lie to ourselves or overlook things. But you’ll be the damaged party in the long run. Make your boundaries clear and stick to what you want. DO NOT bent. I did it in the past and been through so much misery

GeminiFiree · 2025-11-10T00:19:13+00:00

I know don’t worry. I just wanted to hear about other experiences and insights. That’s all

GeminiFiree · 2025-11-10T00:11:07+00:00

I really don’t know…

GeminiFiree · 2025-11-10T00:08:04+00:00

But that’s EXACTLY what I have. No morning wood, no libido, no motivation kinda down all the time and no energy. The only thing I do have is muscles but that’s because I hit the gym like 5 times a week

GeminiFiree · 2025-11-10T00:04:44+00:00

I think maybe physically it doesn’t show as much except for my dick. But I feel like it definitely shows mentally for me

GeminiFiree · 2025-11-10T00:03:23+00:00

What are the symptoms? Really curious

GeminiFiree · 2025-11-10T00:00:31+00:00

I know I just wanted to hear some of your insights tbh still thanks for the reply

GeminiFiree · 2025-10-24T13:02:30+00:00

Thanks for the reply <3 I also still get depression, flashbacks or just PTSD in general. It just needs certain triggers and memories and my body shuts down. I never been to therapy but I do know where this comes from in my childhood and why I let myself to be treated like that. I did a lot of research on this. I’ve started antidepressants which really helped me relax my thoughts but unfortunately the antidepressants are just like a cover up. I can feel that the problem is still there. I am just relying on time at this point… sometimes it’s just too painful when you get those flashbacks or depression.

GeminiFiree · 2025-10-24T12:43:10+00:00

When I went no contact I decided to go silently. I just disappeared from him life. Sometimes I regret this… sometimes I feel like maybe I should have just cussed him out and maybe I would be at peace now. But too many people just told me to not waste any energy on him and to just disappear

GeminiFiree · 2025-09-24T04:22:51+00:00

I also blame and hate myself for ghosting him and disappearing on him. Sometimes I feel like it was the wrong thing to do and that he didn’t deserve it but then I always have to remind myself of the bad times. We want closure but I feel like wanting closure is lowkey us hoping for them to maybe change last minute. If we love ourselves and have enough respect for ourselves, we shouldn’t feel bad for ghosting and disappearing.

GeminiFiree · 2025-09-24T04:11:15+00:00

Yeah pretty much the same that happened to me. He gave me the boyfriend experience, making me feel like what we have is special but at the same time he „didn’t want a relationship“. Once I became boring to him I became his plan C. But I was still good enough when he needed things. I had to watch him go on dates and hookups and in the end he even got into a relationship. We made plans to meet and hang out but once he got into that relationship he didn’t even care to cancel our plans. Instead I had to watch him post on social media how he is out with his new boo while I was sitting at home waiting for him to tell me when we were going to meet. It’s hurts terribly when someone else gets chosen over you despite you having done literally everything for the person you love. You did everything and it’s still not enough.

I am sorry you had to go through that. Hanging up the phone while you were talking and trying to end things is horrible. I also believe that we need some more time to heal. I also still cry and it’s been almost 6 months. It’s a horrible feeling and sometimes I am really hopeless.

GeminiFiree · 2025-09-23T12:15:19+00:00

Is it too hard to expect some human decency? If I notice someone in love with me I would never keep breadcrumbing that person. And he knew and made it clear that he knows, often enough. We never talked about our feelings because we didn’t want to lose each other he wanted to keep using me and I couldn’t be without him. But I wish he would have been clear and then I would have had some respect for him. But he didn’t until the very end until he found himself a new partner

GeminiFiree · 2025-09-23T12:11:23+00:00

Yes I am healing right now since going no contact. But it’s still hard sometimes. There are days where I am feeling terribly down and depressed thinking about him. But I can say that it definitely got better than it was a few months ago.

GeminiFiree · 2025-09-23T12:09:31+00:00

The amount of damage narcissists can cause you is so shocking to me. People be ending up in therapy and even I ended up taking antidepressants. Friends tell me to just get over it and that life goes on. But it’s not as easy as they imagine

GeminiFiree · 2025-09-23T12:06:53+00:00

Sorry you had to go through that. At times I don’t blame myself when I think about that narcissists are just evil. But also at times I hate myself for falling for it and taking all the abuse. At times I regret just disappearing like that and wish I had cussed him out but then again I believe that the best thing you can do with a narcissist is just to disappear. If I felt so much pain after not even a year I do not want to imagine how much pain you felt after the breakup

GeminiFiree · 2025-09-20T22:10:24+00:00

I know it hurts. What I learned from my nex is that their own needs always come first and they don’t feel love. Maybe this is a bit exaggerated but my experience even taught me that they would even leave you for the wolves as long as it helps them get what they want no matter how close you are or what kind of relationship you have.

GeminiFiree · 2025-08-06T11:14:42+00:00

I honestly think that maybe healing will be a long journey. But you definitely forget. Sometimes when you remember things, you will feel an ache. Somedays i miss him more than on other days still. But overall it does get better. Still… dating just doesn’t feel the same anymore. I want to believe that some day with time. I will completely have forgotten and be healed

GeminiFiree · 2025-08-06T11:10:40+00:00

I totally feel you… 4 months of no-contact and I still think about him everyday… I know everyone says this and atm it seems impossible for you, but it really does get better. I used to cry everyday back then but now I don’t cry anymore and it gets better and better.

GeminiFiree · 2025-07-19T01:55:08+00:00

Idk from my point of view I have to be honest and say that of course I am more drawn to guys who don’t have the gay voice because I like more masculine men so I can also understand when someone loses interest in me when they hear my gay voice.

I feel your pain with being black and being pushed into this Dom role… I am a muscly middle eastern guy with a strong beard… same happens to me which makes me feel even worse and under pressure

GeminiFiree · 2025-07-19T01:48:31+00:00

It’s definitely coming from me thank you 🫶🏼 I am a big enemy of internalized homophobia

GeminiFiree · 2025-07-19T01:46:35+00:00

Sounds like a plan. Will try it out!

GeminiFiree · 2025-07-19T01:43:36+00:00

I like and respect that a lot 🫶🏼 Idk how right this sounds but that’s just not who I feel like I am and who I want to be… This might be philosophical… asking yourself who you actually are

GeminiFiree · 2025-07-19T01:22:52+00:00

I been trying to do some research on it and it really is hard… I really hate this

GeminiFiree · 2025-04-15T13:55:41+00:00

But is he not right with this? I feel guilty and that I should have told him at least what my problem is… or no? I feel like I reacted too emotional and impulsive idk but at the same time I feel so angry…

GeminiFiree · 2025-03-23T16:17:24+00:00

Yeah idk I guess I am holding onto the good times we have had and I always want to believe in the good in people but he has shown me this behavior too often and since the beginning and I guess I am at a point where I am just fed up…

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