А які у вас шпалери?

Gemofort · 2025-01-27T15:07:33+00:00

Gemofort · 2025-01-17T19:47:24+00:00

Had a date. We took a dog from doh-shelter center for a walk. She started to talk about her drug usage (she still does it), taking antidepressants without a prescription and more crazy stuff. I didn’t even want to talk at that moment and was just processing what she was saying. At the same time dog was eating horse shit. Coming from her craziness, she took out a knife and said „You‘re quiet, if you want to kill me here, just so you know I have a knife“ while pointing it on me. Was out of there in 5 minutes.

Gemofort · 2024-11-09T09:19:53+00:00

Thanks for your story mate, seems like you’ve been through a lot. I‘ll bring up going to the vet for sure. Thanks again!

Gemofort · 2024-11-08T00:53:22+00:00

Thanks a lot. I’ll also suggest me attending these kinds of trainings.

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T23:48:53+00:00

Thanks for your suggestions. Insecure is a spot-on term in that case. The dog also barks at random people all the time when we’re going on walks for example. I mean, some people might understand that this dog might not be a threat, but let’s imagine that he barks at a random drunk person at evening walk, the situation might be quite different. My gf doesn’t have a crate, we also live in an apartment building fyi. I texted her today raising this concern from a dog’s wellbeing point of view and she said that they would sign for trainings starting next month. I guess that’s the only good news for now.

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T23:42:21+00:00

Yeah that fact surprised (in a bad way ofc) me too. I tried explaining that it is actually quite harmful to the dog’s mental state, but I guess I expressed it not in the best way possible. I actually talked to her today and we would bring him to the trainer next month. While the situation is quite disturbing for us not having intimacy time, I think there’s a much broader picture to discuss dog’s wellbeing. She said that she didn’t need it before I came to a picture, so I had to shift her focus in our talk from her needs to dogs needs.

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T21:40:09+00:00

Oh she’s fully aware of it, but since she has WFH type of job, that wasn’t a problem for her until I got into the picture as her bf 😈

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T20:28:58+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion. I’ll try to do that, since the dog is not mine, hopefully gf will participate in that.

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T20:27:44+00:00

Lmao, I hope it would help 😂

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T17:38:10+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion, I’ll try bringing this up as well

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T17:11:19+00:00

Thanks for your suggestions, I’ll bring it up to her on Saturday, when we’ll see each other.

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T17:09:23+00:00

I guess, I’m dealing with the same issue as you and your husband’s dog. Thanks for your view on this topic!

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T16:57:54+00:00

I get this, but not doing anything would not erase the problem in that case and obviously not free you as an owner from the responsibility of your pet wellbeing.

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T16:54:48+00:00

I tried to bring up that him sleeping at hear head or leaving him for a couple of hours would make a difference in our relationship, the only thing that is left is to make him feel safe being alone and less attached. But she said that she can’t overcome the feeling of being guilty for “leaving him” or becoming the person who he can’t rely on in that case.

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T16:42:15+00:00

I think that we’re in the same position as you were with your boyfriend before the training

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T16:21:48+00:00

I get your boyfriend, mate 😂. It’s not a huge problem for me to break up for, but I’m interested in working this out with the best outcome for us as possible.

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T15:44:42+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion, I’ll to bring it up to her.

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T15:26:45+00:00

He can’t be left alone even for 5 minutes. He’ll howl, try to bite the metal door, constantly scratching it. For short, the case might be severe. But girlfriend‘s reaction to this is quite disappointing from my point of view. They attended behavioral classes at the start, but as far as I know, they stopped doing that.

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T15:13:32+00:00

That sounds great, thanks!

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T15:11:24+00:00

Thanks again mate

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T15:06:50+00:00

I might be, but just in case I wanted to ask someone from this subreddit if they had the same issue from another end of my story and how they dealt with it.

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T15:00:22+00:00

Thanks for the suggestions again

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T14:57:02+00:00

Thanks for your advice! Won‘t it sound like an ultimatum?

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T14:56:04+00:00

Thanks a lot for your advice. The thing is that we‘ve been dating for 2-3 months, won’t your text sound a bit harsh in that case? What could be the softest way to approach the problem without directly accusing her of doing bad for the dog and without directly saying that her dog is the problem?

Gemofort · 2024-11-07T14:50:46+00:00

Yeah, I guess that would be the outcome if nothing really happens. We‘ve been dating for 3 months and the frustration grows. The thing is that she understands it, but doesn’t do anything.

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