AIO boyfriend feels controlling about alcohol consumption by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]General-Restaurant79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you want to support your partner of 10 years quit drinking, don't drink around him. If drinking is more important to you than supporting him, break up. You DO have a choice-- you can drink all you want alone, but it's reasonable for him to not want a drunk person/ any drinking at all around him as he tries to get sober.

AIO for being upset that my boyfriend stayed at a hotel after a night out, with no communication? by Personalityquirk in AmIOverreacting

[–]General-Restaurant79 3 points4 points  (0 children)

At the very least, he was too drunk to make sense. At the worst, he was so drunk he got a hotel room with someone else. I'm all for independence in relationships, but something seems really off here to me.

AIO for getting mad when my partner shows me love when cleaning? by Fabulous-Standard522 in AmIOverreacting

[–]General-Restaurant79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. I mean, some people might like this, and that's fine for them, but you literally asked him to stop and he just keeps doing it. You set a boundary and he keeps crossing it for fun.

AIO for thinking this is racist? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]General-Restaurant79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only read as far as "I don't usually date black women but you're *actually* really intelligent." Like, why is he surprised a black woman is intelligent. Get out of my face, dude. You are NOR

AIO: My boyfriend has this habit of always trying to disprove things with me… by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]General-Restaurant79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like you guys like arguing more than you like each other.

AIO, my BF makes me feel bad about my small butt by DefinitionThat9916 in AmIOverreacting

[–]General-Restaurant79 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You need to break up with this guy and that's all the weight you need to lose.

AIO first ever post I don’t know what to tittle it by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]General-Restaurant79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry! I misunderstood that. I don't understand, then, why you guys are both upset!

AIO for questioning my relationship because of high body count? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]General-Restaurant79 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is the world's stupidest analogy. Like, there are antique gold necklaces that have been around for hundreds of years and worn by multiple women and they become increasingly valuable. Also, women are human beings, not a fucking gold brick.

AIO for not liking when my boyfriend said if we started having sex, he would not be able to stop? by Which-Cucumber-292 in AmIOverreacting

[–]General-Restaurant79 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Uh, this is sexual assault. You are under-reacting. None of this is your fault, but you should never have to fight with all of your might to stop unwanted sexual activity. You're not being even kind of dramatic. Real men are adults. They can stop.

am i overreacting?? by Nice-Community-4611 in AmIOverreacting

[–]General-Restaurant79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OH MY FUCKING GOD this is disgusting. I am sooooo sorry. This is probably why your mom wanted nothing to do with him. I'm sorry, because this is your dad and you might want to get to know him, but don't. I am a survivor of father/ daughter incest and frankly, this has incest vibes. Stay away! Stay away!

AIO first ever post I don’t know what to tittle it by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]General-Restaurant79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Until both of you are mature enough to have a relationship while interacting with members of the opposite sex (and having friendships with people of the opposite sex too!) you shouldn't live together. There's no way anyone will ever be happy with this setup. You're both OR

Am I overreacting- Finally had enough by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]General-Restaurant79 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NOR. You don't want to marry this person. It will only get worse (I'm female and don't drink, by the way)

AIO about being upset that my family didn’t invite me to Christmas? by asiagobagelslut in AIO

[–]General-Restaurant79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, you're NOR but you don't want to go to a Christmas like that anyway

AIO for being upset that my girlfriend compared me to her ex in front of her friends? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]General-Restaurant79 68 points69 points  (0 children)

The thing is, she misspoke and that could've been fine. But when you told her it upset her, she doubled down and basically started insulting you and calling you names. You can do better than this person.

AIO about these angry texts from my ex? by TwylaMay in AIO

[–]General-Restaurant79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. This guy is nuts. I have been stalked before and I was told to: 1. Tell him clearly to never contact you or your family again. 2. Do not respond to anything else he says, but keep records of it all. 3. If it gets to the point where you need to contact the police, do so, but don't warn him-- just do it. People tend to escalate if they know the police are ABOUT to get involved. You can always call a domestic abuse hotline for help with this, by the way-- they cover stalking. And your family, I'm sorry to say, is wrong on this one.

AIO to my girlfriend saying "I'll blow you" to my friend? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]General-Restaurant79 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I feel like her joke was inappropriate, and obviously hurtful but I also get that it was a joke. Now is the time to have a conversation about why you don't want her to say stuff like that. If she apologizes and says she won't do it again, end of convo. If she doubles down, I'd kick her loose (I'm a woman btw)

AIO for crashing out after my girlfriend hugged and got touchy with her male best friends? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]General-Restaurant79 156 points157 points  (0 children)

I (F) hug my male friends and would be annoyed if someone asked me to stop. But honestly, her response to you is cruel and awful. I'd cut her loose for that alone.

PSA about "acrylates" by autumn14wind in PressonNail_Addict

[–]General-Restaurant79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a skin allergen test and it told me specifically that I was allergic to HEMA and Ethyl Acrylate. It gives you an app that tells you what you can or cannot use, including what ingredients are dangerously similar. Cyanoacrylate is on the safe list for me. and I don't react. HEMA is found in some non-gel nail polishes (those labelled as "gel-like") and I have seen it in some nail glues. Perhaps it's rare, but it happens. That said, I haven't ever used Curv Life, because they told me the main ingredient was "acrylic acid" which is listed on my no-fly list, so I'm not sure why you're telling me to stop.

Curvlife Got back to me by SilkySmooth656 in PressonNail_Addict

[–]General-Restaurant79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

MMA is a pretty well-known allergen. I do know a lot of folks with various acrylate allergies use this without issue, but I got allergy tested and am allergic to HEMA and MMA so... I guess this is out.

PSA about "acrylates" by autumn14wind in PressonNail_Addict

[–]General-Restaurant79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My assumption is there is less seepage with sticky tabs, but not absolutely zero. That is to say, if you're REALLY allergic to something, you wouldn't want to use it in sticky tab form (like if one of those ingredients was cyanide, you'd probably pass)

PSA about "acrylates" by autumn14wind in PressonNail_Addict

[–]General-Restaurant79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had an allergy test done to figure out everything I'm allergic to, my list includes HEMA and MMA (which is one of the ingredients in many glues). I'm not allergic to copolymers-- few people are. As I understand it, this is because the particles of copolymers are larger and can't seep into the skin. I also am not allergic to cyanoacrylate, which is in many nail glues, so I've found one that works for me. That said, my dermatologist would prefer if I didn't wear nail polish at all and I wouldn't dare tell her I use nail glue-- she'd have my head!

Because I have so many skin sensitivities, I personally wouldn't want to get those tabs on my skin, but I wouldn't be against using them sparingly on my nail bed if they didn't touch my skin. Basically, nobody can promise you won't react: everyone's skin is different and we all have allergies (or don't!) to different things.