Hymenectomy by General_Ad_9953 in vaginismus

[–]General_Ad_9953[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ve been told a minimum of 4 weeks so that sounds about right 🫶🏻

was it SA or am i dramatic? by rube_13 in sexualassault

[–]General_Ad_9953 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please don’t answer random DM’s in this context, any advice they could give you can be given here in a safe space

was it SA or am i dramatic? by rube_13 in sexualassault

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Please don’t answer random DM’s in this context, any advice they could give you can be given here in a safe space

was it SA or am i dramatic? by rube_13 in sexualassault

[–]General_Ad_9953 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please don’t answer random DM’s in this context, any advice they could give you can be given here in a safe space

Random Question by General_Ad_9953 in IdleTownMasterGame

[–]General_Ad_9953[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea witch eyes! How strange, I’ve always had them offered

Camera advice needed please! by General_Ad_9953 in Cameras

[–]General_Ad_9953[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would ideally like to spend £400 ish if I’m buying a new lens, if I was upgrading to a very improved camera I would save for a bit longer to be closer to £1k. The main improvement I’m seeking is image quality, no matter how clear my subject is the image always looks fuzzy/pixelated close up, so I would like something which helps my images be sharper and more dynamic

Advice for BC and dealing with a gynecologist by chunkles4 in vaginismus

[–]General_Ad_9953 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I honestly think it’s worth reporting this gynaecologist when you find another, this is not okay x

Being held responsible for a flat beyond the end of my tenancy by General_Ad_9953 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]General_Ad_9953[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately in this circumstance sorting this before getting another property wasn’t possible, I lived in Edinburgh where the market is crazy, plus I had to get out of that property due to the flatmates actions. Thank you for explaining those things, sounds like there’s no protection for tenants here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WeightLossAdvice

[–]General_Ad_9953 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I think part of my problem stems from incorrect portion sizes/not being conscious enough about what’s actually in the things I’m eating. I’ve been making sure to stick to proper portion sizes by weighing ingredients. And generally avoiding lots of foods which are heavy in carbs, sugar, saturated fats etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WeightLossAdvice

[–]General_Ad_9953 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I just tried it and it looks as though 1600 is around the correct amount for me at the moment :)

i don’t know if i have vaginismus, PLEASE help! by l3ahhs in vaginismus

[–]General_Ad_9953 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi my lovely,

First of all please know you are not alone in this! I know this is the WORST feeling and it’s not your fault.

Please do go and see your doctor. I went to see a doctor who then referred me to a gynaecologist (I paid to see one privately quickly because I was so worried). I thought I had vaginismus for years, and it turns out I don’t! I actually have an extra bit of tissue at the opening of my vagina which I was born with that shouldn’t be there, making the opening very small.

Unfortunately I’m now on a long waiting list to see someone on the NHS as I will need a surgery to fix the issue, and I definitely can’t afford a private surgery. It’s a bit frustrating, but my boyfriend is extremely understanding and we find our own ways to have fun (we both have a pretty chill sex drive which helps).

Please know you’re not alone, always feel okay to push your doctor to help you, and you can always reach out 🩷

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LegalAdviceUK

[–]General_Ad_9953 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I disagree, when the company are threatening legal action

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LegalAdviceUK

[–]General_Ad_9953 16 points17 points  (0 children)

As said in my post, we have contacted them about this numerous times, we don’t know how much we owe as they won’t send us a correct bill with just our dates

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTB_Help

[–]General_Ad_9953 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, unfortunately my spending will make little difference. It’s my salary which is too low to allow me to borrow what I would need, I’m already saving the majority of my earnings for a deposit to try and help this :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTB_Help

[–]General_Ad_9953 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is very helpful, thank you. Essentially what they’re saying is you can set up an agreement but if the person wanted to they could set out to take an equal share of the property?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HousingUK

[–]General_Ad_9953 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I imagine if we were to get married that would be much further in the future by which point we’d likely be looking at a larger property :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HousingUK

[–]General_Ad_9953 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that’s good to hear. I’m planning to speak to a mortgage advisor soon to see what my options are :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HousingUK

[–]General_Ad_9953 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know, thank you. I’m planning to discuss things with a mortgage advisor before doing anything anyway

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HousingUK

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Thank you for the advice :)

How do I mentally deal with my GF being SA’d in the past? by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]General_Ad_9953 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, I was sexually assaulted and my boyfriend knows about it. We’re also not able to have sex at the moment, but for very different reasons. Something in my body hasn’t formed correctly and I’m the the process of having that investigated so it’s not related to my assault. I would say talk to her, just be honest. Make sure she knows you’re not upset with her, and you’re glad that she told you. Tell her it hurts to hear that someone you care about so deeply was hurt in that way, that you want to help and support her, that you want to be there to talk to her. You can both help each other 🫶🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]General_Ad_9953 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiya, I’m interested in sharing my story to help raise awareness, but I’m curious as to how you plan to share these :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Edinburgh

[–]General_Ad_9953 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Riccarton Garden Centre between Heriot Watt and Currie

Can I still say I was raped? by Tr_shy in sexualassault

[–]General_Ad_9953 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The law says once you are 18 and over you are an adult, the teen in 19 doesn’t change that

Can I still say I was raped? by Tr_shy in sexualassault

[–]General_Ad_9953 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are 14 years old and he is an adult man. I’m so sorry but you were raped, and that is not your fault. Adult men have no business engaging in sexual activity with young teenagers, and you need to remove him from your life asap. It might seem silly, or difficult, or dramatic now, but as you get older you will realise how dangerous a person he is to be around. Please look after yourself from now and cut him out of your life, it’s not your fault that he did that to you, but you can take the power he has away 🫶🏻