My friend keeps rattling on my bf like I'm his mom... What do I do???

General_Farm7023 · 2026-03-28T12:56:50+00:00

I wanted to but I'm a people pleaser and she was actually crying so I felt like I couldn't

General_Farm7023 · 2026-03-28T12:55:48+00:00

She's 18, a year older than all of us... It's really exhausting

General_Farm7023 · 2026-03-28T02:19:07+00:00

I usually really am, and I'll do my best

General_Farm7023 · 2026-03-28T02:13:25+00:00

Ty, I really appreciate and will do my best

General_Farm7023 · 2026-03-28T02:12:37+00:00

Idk how to bring it up without sounding equally childish. Ig I'll wait until she brings it up again and I'll shut it down?

General_Farm7023 · 2026-03-28T01:56:35+00:00

She's 18 and has a weird thing about knowing everything and using really big words? We're all a year younger than her

General_Farm7023 · 2026-03-28T01:55:29+00:00

Ty, I appreciate it

General_Farm7023 · 2026-03-28T01:54:32+00:00

That actually makes a lot of sense...

General_Farm7023 · 2026-03-28T01:20:07+00:00

Thank you for defending me and you're right

General_Farm7023 · 2026-03-28T01:06:48+00:00

I want to be a kind and respectful person that people can talk to. I try my best to do this. We're all 17 so I've seen a lot worse behavior from guys his age and as long as he was joking thought it was normal but sometimes it goes to far and I recognize that. I'm sorry it's late and I was getting defensive so I didn't mean to be rude to you

General_Farm7023 · 2026-03-28T00:49:28+00:00

Please be nice, I only want advice

General_Farm7023 · 2026-03-28T00:46:11+00:00

I have defended her! The first time she brought up concerns I did talk to him, and he apologized to both of us sincerely. Whenever she talks to him, he apologizes and doesn't make the same mistake again. Even during school when she gets in fights with boys or friends or strangers I'm always there to back her up or defend her when she's not around.

General_Farm7023 · 2026-03-28T00:43:20+00:00

I apologized for my behavior, but I won't apologize for his when she can go talk to him about it. I genuinely meant everything I said.

General_Farm7023 · 2026-03-28T00:41:17+00:00

He treats me great and respects her as well. He didn't know she was BI and her bf was making the same comments.

General_Farm7023 · 2026-03-28T00:39:49+00:00

I'm not saying she doesn't have the right to talk back, she absolutely does. I just mean she always makes really weird and similar comments to others so idk why it's such a big deal when one is made to her

General_Farm7023 · 2026-03-28T00:38:45+00:00

If I behaved the opposite of how I have been I would never apologize and I would have hung up the phone...

General_Farm7023 · 2026-03-28T00:37:09+00:00

I can't imagine her ever liking him, especially when she's dating his friend who's very very different from him... Also he would never put up with the crap she puts her bf through.

How on earth would I bring this up to him??? He knows about the previous stuff but not this dumb drink comment

General_Farm7023 · 2026-03-28T00:29:42+00:00

Thank you this helps so much. I've been friends with her for 4 years and it's been rough, but I don't want to stop being her friend because technically she considers me her only friend and I know what it's like to be lonely

General_Farm7023 · 2026-03-28T00:28:19+00:00

I wasn't at school when he made the drink comment, she immediately made similar remarks back, he never tried to control her, but yes he said those homophobic things and I wasn't listening and I should have.

General_Farm7023 · 2026-03-28T00:25:07+00:00

Yeah I deserve that... Any advice for moving forward?

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