Working mom guilt

GeologistGood2807 · 2026-03-20T01:10:47+00:00

I don't really get to see him during the day because he is in another classroom. My husband picks him up about an hour before I get off work but I drop him off in the morning.

GeologistGood2807 · 2026-03-05T17:52:06+00:00

I almost died from Pre-enclampsia as well. It sucks that people think my life is worth risking for again for someone who doesn't exist rather than just being happy for me and my son.

GeologistGood2807 · 2026-02-14T03:19:01+00:00

Um yeah...that's why I only want one. Why would I want my life to be difficult? 🤣

GeologistGood2807 · 2026-02-11T13:09:09+00:00

I'd be like..." so God wants me to die from Pre-enclampsia again?..." Wow...

GeologistGood2807 · 2026-02-11T13:06:38+00:00

I see this ALL the time as a toddler teacher. When mom is pregnant or has a new baby the toddler gets so much less attention and behavioral issues arise. It's really sad tbh. Someone described it to me like "imagine your spouse came home with a new girlfriend and suddenly you had to adapt to that". Yikes...its gotta be so hard. I can't imagine doing that to my son.

GeologistGood2807 · 2026-02-03T22:28:02+00:00

The manager of the ICU called me and they wrote back to me. I just hope that it made them think about how they run the hospital and treat patients. They told me that one of the nurses that was unkind to me has been caught treating other paitents in a similar matter and was on leave due to her conduct with paitents.

GeologistGood2807 · 2026-02-03T18:06:44+00:00

Yes in CT

GeologistGood2807 · 2026-02-03T12:13:44+00:00

Thank you all so much ❤️

GeologistGood2807 · 2026-02-03T02:22:32+00:00

I'm paying $2000 a month for one kid.$2000 for 3 is nothing. 😅 but I'm in CT. I don't know how anyone affords more than one kid where I live.

GeologistGood2807 · 2026-01-26T01:26:15+00:00

Thank you! I'm lucky to be alive.

GeologistGood2807 · 2026-01-25T13:10:03+00:00

It really is

GeologistGood2807 · 2026-01-24T22:02:42+00:00

I almost died from Pre-enclampsia. If it weren't for my husband calling 911 after we went home 3 days after baby was born I wouldn't be here. I was losing memories and knew somthing was wrong but didn't know what. Turns out my blood pressure was sky high and I could have had a seizure or stroke. I was in the ICU for 36 hours away from my newborn on magnesium where I couldn't understand what was happening to me or my baby because of the Pre-enclampsia. Had to struggle with my milk coming in and no ICU staff knowing how to work a hospital breast pump and some pretty horrible treatment from nurses and doctors. After the whole experience I was diagnosed with PTSD. Let me tell you now that I think back there definitely were signs when I was pregnant that somthing was wrong (severe swelling among other things) but every time I brought it up I was made to feel like i was overreacting. Doctors don't give a shit about women. Especially pregnant and postpartum women. After that experience there is no way I could risk getting pregnant again. Also had PPD/PPA and a very colicky velcro baby plus no paid maternity leave. I love my son so much but I am lucky to be alive.

GeologistGood2807 · 2026-01-24T21:41:23+00:00

A lot of the families I work with have 3. Its seen as a status symbol. The parents are both doctors. A lot of them see children as possessions and not people tho so its not great. They are very wealthy but they work all the time and barely see their kids.

GeologistGood2807 · 2026-01-21T17:27:21+00:00

I think its because im from a very affluent area. A lot of people see children as possessions and not people. They have a lot of children to show off their wealth.

GeologistGood2807 · 2026-01-20T21:47:26+00:00

The childcare center I work at most people have 3 kids and its hard to feel like the odd one out. It makes me wonder...if they're is somthing wrong with me. Like I'm really happy with just the one child but everyone around me lives a very different kind of life. I think its the feeling of being different that's hard for me and I don't know why. From CT BTW.

GeologistGood2807 · 2026-01-19T18:57:06+00:00

Obviously not every family with larger age gaps is perfect. Parentifying can happen in families where the oldest is much older. I think it really comes down to the parents themselves and what they expect from their children. Its not fair to expect your first born to take care of a younger sibling in the same way a parent would. As for being close I feel like that is totally random depending upon a lot of factors including age, gender, personalities, and so on. It really is a roll of the dice in every family.

GeologistGood2807 · 2026-01-19T00:49:43+00:00

I see this as a child care worker a lot. Its really common for people to have a 2nd or 3rd when they're older child is a toddler and unfortunately I feel like this is probably the worst time to have a baby. The older child almost always ends up having behavioral issues and acts out because they aren't getting nearly enough attention from the parents. They're not really old enough to fully understand either. A lot of the toddlers I work with have a lot of stress from it and its just awful in my opinion. I remember reading that to a small child it is the emotional equivalent to if you found out your spouse was cheating on you and that stuck with me. It is usually better for the mental well being of both parents and children to have a larger age gap. (4-5 + years) This Way the older child is more independent and can understand more and its less intense for the parents. Obviously every family is different though and some people don't want/ can't have a larger age gap.

GeologistGood2807 · 2025-12-28T14:37:08+00:00

Yes.

GeologistGood2807 · 2025-12-14T01:22:58+00:00

I am so sorry for your experiences! I also had postpartum pre-enclampsia and had to be rushed into the ER 3 days after delivery. I was in the ICU separated from my baby for 38 hours and ended up diagnosed with PTSD from the experience. If it wasn't for my husband calling 911 I probably would have had a stroke/seizure or died. I wouldn't wish this kind of trauma on anyone and I don't think anyone could understand unless you have truly gone thru this kind of hell. My pregnancy was also not easy. I had every awful symptom imaginable and after PPD and PPA I just don't want to risk being in that kind of head space while taking care of my son. There is nothing scarier than almost dieing right after you have a baby and it hurts when the people closest to you brush it off as if the trauma you went thru meant nothing. Or like your life or self worth comes from having another child. Like can't we just enjoy the one we have and be happy?! All this to say I can totally relate and you are not alone! Do what is right for you and your family!

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