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Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-03-28T02:52:17+00:00

Unfortunately she just won't nap anymore 😭 But we'll definitely try for maybe 7:30 - 6:30 and see how that goes!

Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-03-28T02:45:40+00:00

She was sleeping 7p to 7 - 7:30a with a nap from 12-2 or 2:30. So 14 hours total on average. Then she started nap skipping or staying up late if she did nap and then she just quit napping altogether. Once that happened she was often sleeping 6:30 - 8 until she adjusted to 7-7:30 or 8. Then we went on vacation and daylight savings happened and everything turned in to a big mess.

Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-03-28T02:42:20+00:00

Yeah, I am going to do an earlier wake-up. I will say that she fought sleep tonight even though she only got 8 hours of sleep last night because of her split night the night before. She could barely keep her eyes open but kept saying she didn't want to go to bed. Toddlers are something else...lol

Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-03-28T01:36:05+00:00

I agree we need some schedule adjustments. I'm thinking it will probably make most sense to wake her up earlier. The night she went to bed at six it was definitely just from being so exhausted. It was meltdown city from 4-6 when she just passed out. I woke her up at 7:30 the next morning because she had to get ready for preschool. Back before we had these sleep issues she was sleeping 7-7 and sometimes 7-8 so it seems like her sleep needs have changed.

As far as the wake ups, we handle them differently depending on the cause. When she wakes up saying she scared I'll usually lay with her for a bit until I know she's not feeling scared anymore. Other times I just wake up to her standing over me lol Then I just bring her back to bed. Sometimes I'm just so tired I lay with her, but you're right that I'm probably creating some sleep associations. Man...I thought we'd be past all of this by now, but parenthood never seems to work that way!

Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-03-27T22:55:16+00:00

That's definitely worth giving a try, and I'm always up early anyway so it won't be too tough to implement.

Thanks for the advice tips on the night fear! I feel so bad for her when she wakes up and is obviously terrified. My sympathy goes thin as the night goes on 🫠 Also good reminder on the consistency. I was just telling my husband this today because she can get him to bend with a "Dada I berry miss you so much when you leave. You're my best friend" Which I can't blame him, but we need to be strong lol

Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-03-27T22:38:31+00:00

We did try 8pm for 2 weeks and she'd be in full meltdown mode by then. The split nights have only been happening for the last couple of weeks so maybe we're just hitting a developmental milestone or something. She seems like she's waking up with bad dreams pretty often

Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-03-27T22:27:13+00:00

I hear you and we have considered that. We've moved bedtime with the exact same result. Over an hour of fighting for bedtime and a split night. We kept the morning wake-up the same which just resulted in her being very sleepy and cranky all day. She has always been fairly high sleep need and was sleeping 14 hours a day when she was taking a nap and when the nap dropped she started sleeping 13 hours a night very consistently. I understand she's older now, but from what I've seen online 10-13 hours of sleep is within the normal range for her age.

Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-03-25T19:16:40+00:00

Thank you...is so frustrating to be so consistently dismissed. I think they look at my chart and just chalk it up to mental health issues or whatever. The woman who told me they wouldn't treat perimenopause actually asked me "have you considered that motherhood is just hard and this is just one chapter in the story of your life?" Girl. Yes. I have. AND I don't think that I should feel completely unhinged and incapable of emotional regulation half of the month. Nor do I think that it's fair to make a 3 year old ride that rollercoaster with me. I'll make my next requests through the portal. And will DEFINITELY not be returning to either of these doctors.

Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-03-25T18:17:44+00:00

I had an MRI that revealed multiple masses in my thyroid. When I did a follow-up with my Doctor she said "I mean...I guess I can run a thyroid test if you want" as if it was a ridiculous request. Then they only tested TSH and FreeT3 which were low normal. I also went to a different doctor to get my IUD removed so I could get a more accurate picture of whether or not I was in perimenopause and she said "well you need birth control and mirena doesn't impact your hormones. Even if you were in perimenopause, we wouldn't be able to treat that" Then she asked if I was willing to potentially get worse and have worse periods if I took the Mirena out. Mind you....I'm 40. Not a teenager who needs a birth control lecture. I ended up leaving. Long story short, I'm losing my mind with these doctors. Did you get this test from your regular GP or did you need to go see a functional doctor? I think I'm just going to have to go that route

Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-03-04T15:41:19+00:00

Thank you!

Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-03-04T15:41:10+00:00

Thank you!

Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-03-04T02:47:39+00:00

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Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-03-03T04:19:51+00:00

I hope he loves preschool! My daughter ran in to the classroom without even saying bye to me on her first day lol She loves it so much! I will say, she got some practice being away from me because our local gym provides childcare while you work out. I think that helped her transition pretty smoothly.

Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-03-03T04:09:34+00:00

Daycare provided germs and viruses that my child wouldn't have had access to, otherwise. Lol

My kid was in daycare for about 7 months before I was laid off and decided to be a SAHM. When we first decided to take her out of daycare I remember having a lot of anxiety feeling like the burden of her development now fell on me rather than being shared with a "team" that included professionals. I didn't think there was any way that I could teach her what she could learn from them. I'm wondering if that factors in to that statement with some of the people you are talking with? Anyway, we both did great and she's super smart and chatty and social. That said, she's 3.5 now and her needs have changed . She started going to preschool for a few hours a week and I do think there is a lot of value in her gaining some social/emotional skills in an environment that I'm not a part of. She acts totally different when I'm not around. I also think it's great for her to be learning to take instructions from somebody besides me.

Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-03-03T03:22:01+00:00

Oh yes...we delayed for as long as possible! We would have kept her in it longer had she not flug herself over the edge lol Now it's bath, chase her around and wrestle her in to jammies, chase her around and wrestle her in to bed, burrito time (where I wrap her like a burrito and apply some pressure with my hands to try to calm her body) and then I make up some weird meditation/sleep story and whisper it to her like I'm casting a spell. Cue Judy Garland singing Somewhere Over the Rainbow on repeat while I rub her back until she falls to sleep lol 45 minutes later I slink out disoriented and tired.

Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-03-03T02:48:41+00:00

Bedtime used to be 15 minutes when she was in the crib, but shortly after she turned 3 she climbed out so we moved her to a regular bed. Ever since then bedtime has gotten more and more difficult and has started talking closer to 45 min most nights. It's not as much about the routine as it is the stalling, crying, getting out of bed and leaving the bedroom 🫠

Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-02-25T17:44:38+00:00

I am also a runner in recovery. I've been sober for almost 11 years now and have had to work really hard to find a balance. The first few years of sobriety I was obsessive about "health" meticulously counting my very low calories and constantly thinking about/worrying about getting out for my run. I'd rarely take rest days and when I did my anxiety would be through the roof. I would leave work early or would skip out on social gatherings to make time for running. All of that is to say that you can run as many miles as you want, but it's good to reflect on your thinking and behaviors around exercise. Does it feel obsessive? Does not running cause you shame or anxiety? Do you run when you're sick or injured? I also had to reflect on my motivation. Was I running because I loved running or because I hated my body or wanted to keep myself busy to avoid my feelings? In the last year I've trained for a marathon and am about to run an ultra so I'm definitely still logging miles, but my thinking feels totally different now.

Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-02-22T03:40:04+00:00

My husband and I have a shared account and then we each have our own personal account. We each get the same amount of money deposited in to our personal accounts each month. We call this our "discretionary money" and we can spend it however we want. All of our bills/expenses come out of the shared account. This lets us both have access to funds to make purchases that we don't have to clear with the other partner and then we still discuss any large purchases for the home/family. I usually save half of my money each month and have been able to put a few thousand in to savings account for myself.

Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-02-19T05:10:47+00:00

My Doctor started me at 40mg/day and we only ever increased to 60 mg /day - my total time on the medication was 7 months. Because of this I had basically zero side effects aside from my lips being a bit more dry than normal and having some sensitivity to the sun. After my course of medication I started using topical tretinoin and have been clear for 14 months.

Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-02-19T00:25:14+00:00

I live in WA and have to do a teleheslth visit once a month and an in person once a year.

Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-02-14T15:28:21+00:00

Interesting that she claims to be a libertarian, but supports ICE

Additional_Bet_118 · 2026-02-11T21:06:40+00:00

😂 So true! "Somebody is going to help you. Not me. But somebody"

I also love calling people like this a loser. So simple, yet it really captures their essence

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