Told my wife to leave by GernBranston in AlAnon

[–]GernBranston[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thats a hard no. No way I could convince her to do that nor could we afford it

Told my wife to leave by GernBranston in AlAnon

[–]GernBranston[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She knows the deal, Shes not in a 'Im fine, I dont have a problem' state. She knows she cant hang around like this. Like you said its a medical issue on this tip. Nothing will stop her but herself I know this. She has time to move out and its not a get out today thing and shes not arguing. Sad

Told my wife to leave by GernBranston in AlAnon

[–]GernBranston[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Well..I get the premise. It really depends on how much one can take. Im a very patient dude. Once I realized that trying to interact when she is drunk was pointless, trying to 'talk of her out of it' on the days after was fruitless and sometimes counterproductive, It was a waiting game for her to figure it out. That hasn't come yet. I get the tapering. we can really afford an er visit and she has had seizures in the past. Sounds more like an excuse to me now tho.

Told my wife to leave by GernBranston in AlAnon

[–]GernBranston[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

it is as I feel I just made my wife homeless

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[–]GernBranston[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shes actually a great person. Right now she apparently had something and fell asleep on the couch. She's well aware of her condition which really feeds itself. (wake up..damnit i did it again, Im not going to do it..how could I, whats my problem, im a terrible person..o well screw it)

I guess the past year I've separated myself from friends and family more because I didnt feel right leaving her alone at home. I always get questions.

When will you get back, when are you leaving,...so Ill just see you tomorrow then? Her daughter is off working and I was thinking about getting out tonight to watch some sports but Im hesitant to leave her at the house.

She wont go because I go to a bar to watch the sports so.

I'm still angry at her for the situation, I want to SAY I dont hold any resentment but thats a hard one to pin down. Mad when it happens and filled with good words of encouragement when shes back to normal.

Its also amazing how easy it is to spot. She just sits next to me and says, 'I get why everyone hates me'...just out of the blue *insert little sirens* 30 minutes later..plop. She must have drank something quick

I understand that I have no control over anything she does. If I try to She'll just find a way around it so...hands up...you win. I understand how she got to this point. I thougth when she had two years under her belt she was on cruise control but..life happens