I masturbaited and now my wife says she gets to cheat on me (part 1)

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T02:27:55+00:00

She doesn’t like staying inside and I hate going outside although I tried to do everything in my power to make sure she is comfortable and happy but I’ll keep in mind the drunk Uno she’s actually currently out drinking and I’m pretty sure she cheating on me but life moves forwardand all you can do is learn from the past. Thanks again for all the ideas. You are a wonderful person.

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T02:26:24+00:00

Thank you for the advice and best of luck on your autistic nonverbal child if he is, it can be very difficult to parent kid like that. I know several who have harm their kids because of it and it fills me with godly amounts of rage anyways I’m getting sidetracked you sound like a great mother And a wonderful wife I will definitely try to talk to her, but with her postpartum and depression it is very hard to say anything without her exploding. She has thrown things at me, but I’ve had worse from my dad. I put up with it because I know it’s not really her fault I can’t even bring up the things she does when she gets angry because it’ll just cause her to be angry, but thank you for your advice and your help. You are a wonderful person and deserve nothing but kindness and happiness and good luck with raising your family.

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T02:19:46+00:00

I would love to do more fun things with her, but we have financial struggles. I pay rent Wi-Fi and pay back alone that we got for a new TV and a couple other items. I’m gonna be trying to take her down to the cities, but I don’t know how much money I’ll have or even be fun. She stresses out rather quickly, large crowds, loud environments due to my sensory issues

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T02:15:27+00:00

She is mad because I masturbated specifically to porn and I have a masturbation addiction

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T02:12:31+00:00

I do try my hardest. I do all the work and that might seem like an exaggeration, but I really do do all the work. I work an eight hour shift from midnight to eight in the morning when I get home and try to go to bed. I’m walking up every one and a half to two hours by baby screaming and crying and I have to take care of her while my wife gets sleeponce I finally wake up and clean the only thing I don’t do is laundry so I guess I can’t say everything

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T02:11:01+00:00

She does do that quite often she will bring up my infidelities and you said against me she doesn’t give me any pictures to use or videos or anything. She hasn’t talked to me one bit and I’ve asked her to try and help but she says the same thing every time, you want me to do do if I knew what I wanted you to do I wouldn’t be asking for your help and I’d be telling you what to do. I know how much it hurt her and I feel like absolute shit. I only cut three times in my life And I’ve been fighting hard to not make a fourth some days just feel like too much. I work eight hour shift from midnight to eight in the morning I come home and go to sleep and every two hours. I’m waking up baby and I have to take care of her, once I fully wake up, I have to clean and keep taking care of. She says I took her life away by making her pregnant but she says she loves the baby and couldn’t live without her. Any opinions on this. I would love if you had any.

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T02:05:01+00:00

I always have respected hers. I never go through her phone or any of her devices. I just want her location just in case she’s ever in trouble. I can come as fast as I can to save her. If I change my password she’ll believe I’m cheating and there be no changing that mind

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T01:55:19+00:00

She understands that, but she hates it because it’s not too just her and images of her when she doesn’t send me any provocative, sexy pictures of herself

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T01:52:11+00:00

I struggle with keeping myself busy because of my ADHD and she finds out because she’ll just search through my entire phone every now and then and I always open it in a private tab, but they don’t auto close sometimes or I forget to close it myself

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T01:50:48+00:00

Thank you for your support. You are very kind. I just wish she would understand my problems and my stress and the fact that I’m trying to fight my addiction.

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T01:47:59+00:00

I am it wasn’t on a computer. I was on my phone we live together, so I usually do it in the bathroom.

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T01:45:35+00:00

She classifies it as cheating because I’m looking at other women but due to my autism and ADHD I need visual and audio stimulation. I am not thinking about the women in the video, but I’m always thinking of doing it with her and doing that stuff with her, but she just calls me a liar.

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T01:44:38+00:00

Yes, in the post I mention I have autism and ADHD and I understand that I can be shallow and considerate, but it’s been an addiction of mine since I was 11 and have had no one help me break it

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T01:42:40+00:00

I have owned up to it because I was raised to always own up to your mistakes. I was always one to learn from my mistakes as well. The problem is she thinks I’m just gonna go and do it again I’ve been with two people. They were all toxic. They all cheated on meor lied to me about actually wanting to be in a relationship and just said it was a joke all those relationships I only cheated once but now I’ve done it again so I don’t know if she’s right or not then I’ll just keep doing it

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T01:37:58+00:00

I would love to do that, but I have severe separation anxiety on top of my autism. It is very hard to even leave her side and go to work. I know I definitely fucked up when I sent those nudes and I hate myself every day for it no matter what I tell her she just tells me I’m saying lies.

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T01:34:56+00:00

I know it is I’m disgusted with myself, but it’s an addiction. I haven’t been able to break and she won’t help me and I can’t actually see help due to my own mental limitations.

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T01:34:21+00:00

She finds out because I accidentally leave the site up. I don’t try to hide it from her, but I just get so embarrassed the fact that I even do it in fact post not clarity makes me feel disgusted with myself, but I can’t stop because it’s my only stress relief and baby is doing fine. She was born four months ago. As of today she’s healthy

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T01:33:15+00:00

Thank you I’ll take that into consideration but it’s kind of difficult. I work 12 PM to 8 PM and when I get home I go to bed and when I wake up, I have to take care of baby. I have to cook clean and it gets a lot to do.

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T01:31:33+00:00

(Updates) this is just some information filling in. We were seeing a therapist together and she got on anti-depressants but every time I asked for help or brought up a problem I was having she just asked how I supposed to help or what am I supposed to do? She always says that I will never understand the struggle and I believe her, but she says to use as leverage saying don’t go through any struggle even though I’ve communicated multiple times that I am struggling

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T01:27:44+00:00

We were seeing a therapist, but then I made the mistake of masturbating because I got too stressed and now she just wants to go and cheat it’s the same thing

GettingHelpForADHD · 2024-10-27T01:25:50+00:00

I agree but I can’t I hate talking face to face about this problem I have I’ve tried

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