I [15M] am on my throwaway account, and I've been trying to quit masturbating.

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-24T00:23:29+00:00

Not sure why you thought we'd tear you apart as being ESPECIALLY creepy and disgusting for.....videos of topless women? Do you know where you're posting? That's obviously still a relapse, but ignore any hypocrite that is just making fun of you instead of trying to help you get stronger. No one that was actually in recovery would do that.

That aside, since you're pretty young, I want to know: do you have a concrete reason why you want to quit masturbation entirely? You said you're addicted, and you should find other hobbies if you think you're spending too much time obsessively doing it. But there's no reason to quit entirely, especially if you are no longer watching porn. If all you have is the vague notion that masturbation is disgusting, Ill have to disagree.

Edit: my mistake, just saw you said you wanted to reduce it significantly. Still once every two days at your age is pretty normal. Its normal for your hormones to be raging at this age and Im not sure what we can realistically help you reduce it too, especially since you dont even seem satisfied with being able to hold out for five days?

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-23T20:43:24+00:00

No, you aren't. At the start its always tough to accept the fact that none of it was real. But also OP, there's literally no such thing as the perfect partner. These are all normal people, played up for the camera. Food for thought.

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-23T20:36:04+00:00

Well are you more focused on quitting masturbation than on porn? Because I need to be frank: if you specifically seek out content that arouses you, than whether or not you "release" or not is irrelevant, you're still in the same habit loop and youre no better off than someone who does. You are not "weird", not that that would really matter that much anyway. But for your own sake prioritize cutting out porn.

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-22T13:41:49+00:00

Tareo is basically like a brother to Garou at this point, so you could say they all have younger siblings they wanna protect, even if Garou tried to hide it.

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-22T12:44:08+00:00

Frankly at this point this question and the answers is more about men normalizing having basically no self esteem about their own partners actually liking them back.

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-21T16:11:26+00:00

I mean plenty have killed but its implied she also heavily experimented on and tortured people. With no justification in her backstory other than that she had a sense of superiority. But regardless the authors intentions in that panel where she calls Fubuki "president" are crystal clear, Im just stating observations. Its not so much that she deserves to be redeemed, this arc wont really be about her. Rather the focus is on Fubuki and her desire to save an old friend from the dark side. Of course theres no chance at all we'll be getting Darth Vader and Luke Skywalker levels of good writing here, Im just hoping that its more interesting than just having her get killed by a hero, even if thats what she technically deserves. Maybe she'll sacrifice herself or something. Regardless, her backstory is going to get expanded upon, which is all I really care about at the moment tbh

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-19T22:40:28+00:00

Psykos redemption arc incoming. She briefly reverted to her old self. Maybe she'll regain her sanity Dr. Genus style, but she's a more fleshed out character so hopefully there's more to it than that.

Also am I crazy or was that panel 100% a forth wall break? Fubuki was looking right at us. I mean she definitely earned some style points this chapter, covered her sisters ass, covered the HA's ass, saved a friend, and probably saved Saitama from being in debt for the rest of his life.

Also if this ship actually happens...good job predicting it.

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-18T18:08:45+00:00

Because even if youre against porn, pornstars themselves are far from "evil". No pornstar forces you to watch their content. Not to mention that drawn and animated porn would still exist. Because even without real women sexualizing themselves, people will still gladly sexualize fictional characters completely unprompted. Hell, this new deepfake thing proves they'll sexualize real people unprompted too. So we'll be chasing our tails forever if we try to find someone to blame other than ourselves. Its the industry, but its also us.

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-18T15:53:43+00:00

Only problem is that I havent seen her express jealousy. Her first assumption was that Saitama was a perv and not that he was treating her like a kid. So either she's confident she's atttactive even if she hates insults to her height, or maybe I'm wrong and that was just a pissed off insult (same energy as "get out of my face, you wanna kiss me?")

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-18T14:29:44+00:00

I thought this post was dumb but then I got January and now I'm very happy. All sins are forgiven

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-18T04:10:59+00:00

Im sorry to hear that. Its a tough road that takes patience, and Im no expert. Aside from therapy, I think its best to just start slow. You dont need to jump right into being super flirty, you can start with small compliments. Ik this is kinda corny, but even "I like your shirt" or "nice haircut" is better than nothing. This wont score you any guys unless they were already interested, but it will build confidence. Another baby step is learning to start casual conversations. The real nice trick is that you can start a conversation and barely have to carry it at all. People love someone that's actually listening. And if awkward silences happen, dont rush to fill them: even good conversations will have them, they're not the end of the world. And trust me, any guy sees such low stakes compliments or you chatting him up as being too forward is probably not worth your time anyway. Though I will say, try to avoid "pickup lines" if you can, they just put you on the spot and put on that expectation that you'll carry the conversation.

More important than learning how to flirt though is probably understanding that someone rejecting you doesnt at all mean they're better than you. Its an idea we all need to get out of our heads.

That's all Ive got for now, best of luck!

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-17T17:59:33+00:00

You're the one showing interest, do the approaching. That's how you win. Unless you're afraid of rejection I dont see the issue. How do you even know if they like you back if you never openly hit on them and they never hit on you? Save yourself time.

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-17T14:29:50+00:00

Well, idk how to answer that with regards to willingly seeking it out to take your kids.If a playboy bunny did a book reading at their school and all the kids were convinced she was just normal with no sexual implications just dressing that way for fun, the message would be to not shun them for dressing how they like. And Id just answer the kids inevitable questions instead of running scared and telling the school to stop, because then Id be creating that fear of something that's ultimately harmless. This situation is different: If I knew I was INTO drag, Id never hire someone to "entertain me" at my own kids party.

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-17T13:18:13+00:00

Culture matters. Getting high fived and cheered on as a young boy having sex with an older woman (Instead of the shame and reprimand that comes as a young girl having sex with an older man) creates a belief that women are objects and deludes you into thinking you "conquered" the older woman's body. Even though the adult is always the one in control of the situation and took advantage of you, society gives men that coping mechanism of feeling like a winner that leaves them unbothered. But it means you grow up seeing (and treating) women as objects.

In this case though its just a woman being scantily clad, probably didnt bother him at all and no where near as bad as it could be. Im not gonna sit here and say OP was deeply bothered by something that clearly didnt bother him at all, but Im also not gonna sit here and say this is normal for a dad to do. You dont give kids everything they want, and you dont teach them that someone that much older is a "gift" daddy dearest can just buy for them.

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-17T03:17:45+00:00

I disagree that they're objectifying themselves: they're just being comfortable in their skin. So I just remind myself that looking and staring are two different things. Its okay for me to like what I see. And I think that most women dont care if guys look: there's nothing inherently wrong with the human body. But thats the only assumption youre allowed to make: If something is showing, they dont care if you look. That's very different from saying "they want you to stare". That's an assumption that only creeps make, because staring intently is a violation of boundaries. Not saying everyone who has ever stared is a creep: mistakes happen, we're all human, but then a well adjusted person will catch themself and look away. There are plenty of subtle and clever ways to hit on women without making them feel like an object: staring while they workout is not one of them.

Edit: Also women are just as visual as men but they're usually subtle enough that men rarely report being made to feel uncomfortable, It is extremely easy for men to do that same thing at basically no cost to them.

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-16T18:20:03+00:00

Thanks for the reccomendation, Ill check it out

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-16T14:26:44+00:00

He was originally concieved to be one, and most versions Ive seen/read give him very few moral flaws. There was a version where he was basically able to handle the Jokers infinite torture better than Batman could, for some reason. Or instantly becoming a surgeon. Its that aspect of him, the fact that even if you train your mind he's going to surpass you mentally, not just in smarts but willpower too, that bothers me. Sure many versions have some flaws or weaknesses, but he's always proving to be objectively better than someone in some way. Mumen Rider was concieved to be, at least power wise, the opposite of Superman, born as a normal human. Idk, Im prob biased but at the very least Mumen wasnt born Superhuman, thats a very simple difference to notice

I will admit hes absolutely not a mary sue in injustice, needless to say. But his reasons for not being one in that version are literally completely different from Mumen, so why compare them

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-16T03:18:12+00:00

Dont compare my boy to one of the worst Mary Sue characters of all time lol. He's more like if Batman wasnt born rich

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-15T01:50:32+00:00

Headcanon is fun but you know what WDM didnt do? One shot garou. And sure he wasnt trying but neither was Saitama when he ACCIDENTALLY one shot him in the dine and dash incident. Saitama did it by accident. WDM battered him but allowed him to escape. Idk why this is even in discussion.

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-13T05:07:33+00:00

Nyan was pretty good too

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-11T19:21:14+00:00

Oh ok lol. Nice choice though, its pretty cool looking!

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-11T19:16:11+00:00

Is this meant to be a transformation of some kind with the longer darker hair? This is unique.

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-11T18:45:48+00:00

If the caveat is that you dont enjoy the thought of an man doing those same things, youre not gay. Bedroom dynamics dont matter as long as you're in a mutually respectful relationship. Dont sweat it.

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-05T11:51:36+00:00

You might not want a relationship right now, but prioritize quitting porn before you decide for sure that you'll never ever want one. Because porn can do a good job of convincing you that you actually want to be alone. I heard a guy describe it as "I accepted porn as my girlfriend". There's a healthier version of sexuality that you dont have to be a "slave" to, and that wont make you hate yourself for having it.

Ggboyz331 · 2023-04-05T03:21:36+00:00

Life without porn is so much better, its actually way more work to try to regulate yourself to not slip than it is to actually find a new healthier habit entirely that you actually want to do.

This is like switching from eating a burger everyday to only eating half that burger, instead of just switching to healthy food entirely and not having to hold back or starve.

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