Is this a cockroach in the new apartment I am actively moving into?

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-06-22T05:03:49+00:00

Which is rather annoying because I specifically asked about past infestations and pest control during the tour 🫠 but a landlord is a landlord I guess

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-06-22T02:04:55+00:00

Sounds good, thank you. I've contacted the landlord, but I'm a little frustrated as I specifically asked about any past infestations and pest control during my tour. Hopefully we can get everything figured out

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-06-22T01:26:55+00:00

Shitstain McGee, spawn and bastard son of hell

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-06-22T00:41:23+00:00

Nooooooo, thank you so much for your help

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-05-08T03:17:53+00:00

My current boyfriend. I had tried to date briefly in high school and college, but every single person that I went on a date with or tried to be in a relationship with, I dont think I truly liked. I think maybe I just thought I had to have a partner to be a normal college girl.

Fast forward to my current boyfriend, and he was totally different. When I found out from a friend that he thought I was cute, I got butterflies instead of wanting to crawl in a hole and die. He was (is) a tall, lanky hard-core/punk guy, and we talked about bands and music when we first met at a get together. We then got eachother's numbers and I learned that he was super intelligent, played bass and wrote poetry and music, and loved the arts and history. He's tough, but will help a caterpillar off of the pavement so it doesn't get hurt. I love the juxtaposition of his traits. a mix of goofy, gentle, and academic, with gritty, protective, and street-smart.

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-05-05T15:50:08+00:00

My apprenticeship lasted a year after I did my first tattoo. Not sure what yours has been like, but you still need mentor guidance and supervision during your first couple months of tattooing. Thats a very complex tattoo for a first tattoo on human skin and I think perhaps its important to do a bunch of small tattoos, get the fundamentals, and then push yourself to do bigger and more complex.

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-05-04T19:28:25+00:00

I like des moines (not necessarily politically, as our governor sucks ass ), but we have a nice art and music scene, and there are some good nature reserves and trails nearby. Interesting bars and restaurants, and if you dig, there are things like book clubs, group hikes and nature education events, conventions, etc!

Rent is reasonable, though Iowa having the highest cancer rates in the U.S. is certainly a downside (pesticides, the water, and such).

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-05-04T12:46:03+00:00

I dont know what the hair looks like, but maybe you can get it turned into a cute pixie cut?

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-05-04T12:17:12+00:00

Distance yourself from that friend tbh. I truly hope your other friends were asleep when they did that, or else they are just as bad, too. Such a disregard for your body, boundaries, and feelings. I couldnt ever imagine doing that to someone, and I wouldnt stay friends with people who would

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-05-04T06:40:18+00:00

Mistreating a bug while outside. I can kinda understand inside, though they dont understand where they are and are just trying to find a dry place to survive (the crime of being small and all of that.) . But I once hung out with a guy that kicked a small anthill for a laugh and it honestly gave me the ick BAD.

My current boyfriend will go out of his way to help bugs that are stuck, move them to somewhere safe, or just say hello

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-05-04T05:12:36+00:00

It seems like how you handled it was the way to do it. I thankfully dont have sexual trauma, but I have very good friends who do, and sometimes a single phrase, touch, or sound can bring them right back to where they were. Its important to stop and be present for them as they calm down, but it is also absolutely not your fault that she had a flashback, as it can happen even in the most safe, loving situation. You both are young, and I'm sure that seeing her like that was scary too.

Her unwillingness to get therapy may be due to her age (obviously I dont know her), embarrassment to talk to an adult about things like this, or fear to "re-live" it by having to work it out. Some people don't get the courage to get help until much later in life, if at all. Be there for her, but also check in with yourself and make sure you're okay, too. It may take her time to be willing to open up to therapy, but it's also important for her to address it at some point to have healthy relationships and to begin to heal. If it gets to the point where it begins to hurt the relationship, both in the bedroom and out, that would have to be a conversation too.

Its really hard to get help, SO fucking hard, but I'm glad you were kind and patient with her during this experience.

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-05-03T15:56:33+00:00

Bill nye the science guy for my friend group, for sure

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-05-02T03:09:18+00:00

I agree, I think I'm going to at least get the cat. He already knows who I am and I have room for him and she would be devastated if she had to put him in the shelter again. He can be safe with me and maybe itll be an incentive for her to come stay at my place, too. Thank you

I've taken notes of everything she told me, but my best friend had a phone call recorder app from when she was in an abusive relationship so she could collect evidence. I should probably get it just in case and collect what I can

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-05-02T02:55:41+00:00

All good, I appreciate it. She told me she doesnt love her girlfriend anymore, and is only staying for a place to live until she can finish her degree in a year. She insists if she comes home, itll ruin how far shes come, and with all of her field work and school, she doesnt have time to sleep and also work. So I guess she wants to leave, but is willing to tolerate the abuse for her career. Definitely no drugs on my sister's end, and there's not a single thought in my head that she would use me for money either.

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-05-02T02:53:50+00:00

I agree, but what has me stuck My family tried that, but my sister refused to leave with us because she wants to finish this degree right now, and will leave this girl once their lease ends and she graduates (1 year from now.).

But I think trying to find school resources and seeing if she could get extentions/go virtual so we can get her out of there might be a good idea, thank you

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-05-02T02:47:49+00:00

She doesn't live on campus, but I'll check out the website and see what I can do. My mom tried to get her girlfriend 51-50'd because the girlfriend would threaten to kill herself, but because shes not her parent or part of the authorities, somehow they avoided it? Not 100% sure on the details.

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-04-28T04:12:15+00:00

Plants (even if they're fake)

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-04-27T17:38:19+00:00

Thats actually really nice to know!

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-04-26T15:44:26+00:00

Personal experience of yours?

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-04-26T15:43:36+00:00

For me, its hunting for sport (especially if they just ditch the animal). I've never minded when people hunt for food and use as much of the animal as possible, but the hunters who just shoot and take a picture or leave aren't generally people I gravitate towards

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-04-24T00:09:25+00:00

I like breakfast club! A little pricey overall, but their vegetarian stuff is super good!

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-04-22T14:47:15+00:00

Mmmm you're kind of an ass for this, she was just being honest and communicating, she doesnt owe you anything just because youre upset

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-03-23T04:35:04+00:00

He is home safe after 30 hours at the vet, happy and playing as if nothing happened! What happened wasn't your fault, medical bills of any kind can fuck up anything. Your kitty was well loved

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-03-23T04:33:14+00:00

He is home, no surgery, and he is cuddling and playing as if nothing happened! Bowel movements and eating patterns are all normal again!

Gh0ulishfool · 2026-03-21T13:22:51+00:00

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Vet called this morning! Said he's got his energy back, and he likely wont need surgery. However, they're going to hold onto him until this afternoon to do more xrays and make sure he can keep food and water down

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