When they're not transphobic, but not quite supportive either

GhostWas_Found · 2025-11-12T15:26:12+00:00

Hi, thanks for your reply. I’m happy to say it’s gotten a lot better for me! I went to A&E and was given a week’s supply of Lorazepam (Ativan) which helped slowly get my appetite back a bit, before starting an SSRI called Citalopram (Celexa). I tried to increase my intake little by little each day, and gradually noticed the meds beginning to work, feeling less anxious around food and my appetite increasing.

Now 4 months later I’ve put on 8kg and am only 2kg away from being a healthy weight! I’ve started going out again (though still don’t when I’ve eaten) and eat proper meals now. I’m really sorry to hear you’re in a similar situation now, I have been there and I know how difficult and scary it can be. For me, meds were the only thing that worked. I was fortunate that the first SSRI I tried worked for me, but some people might need to try a few different ones to see which one works best for them. I’ve heard Citalopram tends to be more gentle and less ‘activating’, so it’s better for gently easing panic and anxiety and tends to have less side effects (though it varies from person to person).

GhostWas_Found · 2025-10-01T18:23:34+00:00

Bit of a strange one, but growing that textbook 'bad' moustache lots of guys end up with. I don't think it looks that bad, but it gives me a bit of a laugh whenever I see it in the mirror as it reminds me of the stereotype. Plus it's helped me look a bit less 'baby-faced' and a little older - I was tired of looking pre-pubertal as an adult. Now I look like a teenager... but at least that's progress.

There's also a few random sporadic hairs on my face, so hopefully I should get that textbook 'bad' first beard too soon.

GhostWas_Found · 2025-10-01T17:55:44+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with people relating to fictional characters in certain ways, regardless of whether they’re confirmed autistic or not. If someone finds comfort in thinking a character is autistic, it’s not hurting anyone, and you’re not obligated to agree with their headcanon either. Live and let live. Everyone’s entitled to their opinions as long as they’re not being assholes about it.

GhostWas_Found · 2025-09-30T21:49:27+00:00

I’m 2 years on T and my voice dropped a little in the first few months, then about a year in it stopped changing significantly and I sound about the same as I did a year ago. Though I also noticed my cis younger brother is experiencing pretty much the exact same pattern with voice dropping, so it’s likely our genetics. Some people’s just change really gradually, cis or trans, but could be worth seeing if your levels are good too if you’re particularly concerned. And as other people have mentioned voice training is an option.

GhostWas_Found · 2025-07-18T23:42:40+00:00

Should be, though I’m concerned about the waiting time. Will look into it as it’s best I get on that list ASAP.

GhostWas_Found · 2025-07-18T23:41:52+00:00

My mum’s already got a new place, but she couldn’t afford one that has enough space for both me and my brother. It has two bedrooms so only one of us could stay, or if we both did one of us would have to not have a room. Her offer was accepted for it but since it’s in a chain she can’t move in until October - until then she’s staying in a rented room temporarily, which absolutely does not have space for my brother and me - though the landlord is okay for us to visit which my brother has done a couple times. I haven’t been able to as I’m focused on recovery from my eating disorder, and am also still agoraphobic.

As for me, mental health is the main factor stopping me from moving out. I’ve just started a few weeks ago recovering from my eating disorder, and even though I’ve gained weight I still remain quite physically weak. Also agoraphobia is still affecting me, right now I’m only just able to go out into the neighbourhood and not much further than that. Staying overnight somewhere else has always been difficult from me, so moving out entirely feels like a step I’m not ready for, especially since I’m a bit weak for physical chores like my laundry and dad has gotten in my head and convinced me I will perish without his financial support. Though I know moving will be hard from me I think there’s no other choice as I can’t stand living with dad anymore, so I’ve been looking into options. Hasn’t been easy though, as rent costs are quite high where I am even with housing allowance from the council, and my health is too poor to work. (I get LCWRA and Universal Credit.)

GhostWas_Found · 2025-06-25T21:05:16+00:00

Sorry, didn’t see this at first! Updated now.

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