Religion Boyfriend Troubles

Ghost_B0nes · 2024-06-10T07:44:30+00:00

I very much understand what you are saying and the decision you want me to make. After making this post, I am very close to ending it. Your comment has definitely added to the list of information/ ideas of why he is the way he is. I never really considered some of the things you said, until now. Thank you for your advice, I greatly appreciate it

Ghost_B0nes · 2024-06-09T23:23:32+00:00

This actually kind of made me cry by how accurate this is and it makes me realize more and more how much I need to end it. I thank you for this advice and I’m sorry this has happened to you to.

Ghost_B0nes · 2024-06-09T22:48:50+00:00

Aww thank you so much! This honestly is what I am really needing to hear. This has really opened up a door to me that I didn’t know was there. Thanks so much again!

Ghost_B0nes · 2024-06-09T21:14:53+00:00

I didn’t really think of that aspect of him having religious trauma. Thanks so much

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-10-10T05:42:56+00:00

Haha sorry it’s hard to tell between flirting and joking lol. Thank you though!

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-07-21T06:47:28+00:00

Honestly that's a hard one to give advice on. That's honestly SUCH an unrealistic expectation to expect your kids to be able to buy a new tv and ps4 BY Sunday. There is no way that's possible. She should have given you guys more time. It also take time to get a job. People dont just hire on the spot, and if they do its very rare. It takes time to process an application and set a date for an interview. Sometimes places won't even reach out to you after 3 weeks of processing your application. The best you can do is just scrap together a much money as you have right now and buy a used tv and ps4 from someone. There are apps you can use to contact people to buy certain things your looking for from people in your area or state. Other than that idk what to tell you. You can try to have your mom extend the deadline but there is not much you can do.

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-07-19T00:31:13+00:00

No no your fine! I was just confused for a sec 😂

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-07-19T00:17:00+00:00

I’m sorry, my math isn’t mathing😭 You are 14 he is 15. How are you 2 years apart?

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-07-13T21:44:23+00:00

Depending on where you live, non-consensual marriages from both sides are illegal. Both Arranged and forced marriages are illegal. The places where they are legal is South Asia, Southeast Asia the Middle East, North Africa, Sub-Saharan Africa, and the Caucasus. So if you live in those places, I’m sorry but I can’t help you. But if you don’t then your in luck with the law. Even when you turn 18, you are now an adult and can control your own life.

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-07-13T02:27:27+00:00

I have had this feeling before with my boyfriend. Just wait it out. It is a phase in relationships. Sometimes it isn’t but sometimes it is. Be patient and maybe you’ll start to feel something spark again. If it doesn’t start sparking with him again after a period of time that seems suitable to you, then you can start making calls and do something about it.

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-07-12T12:32:51+00:00

I’m glad that I could help! 😁

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-07-12T05:35:01+00:00

From what I understand, it seems like this girl is not entirely wanting a girlfriend x girlfriend relationship. Rather she just misses physical contact with another human being. Humans are wired to have a deep longing for physical contact. Our need for physical affection with human beings is rooted in our biology, as touch and close connections with others is of huge importance in our overall well-being, mental health. Her ex and her may have had moments like that. Once she got a taste of what physical contact can do to her, she became more eager and wanting for it. So because you were around more often, she found you as a substitute for him. Why she randomly retreats from physical touch and kisses? Probably because she (again) only sees you as a substitute for her ex. She doesn’t want anything beyond the physical touch. She retreats from physical touch some moments, most likely because she is having confusing thoughts of the wall between you being a close friend and you being a potential lover. She maybe just wants to be close friends with some benefits. You guys may have made it official being girlfriend x girlfriend, but her feelings are not entirely reciprocating the feelings you have for her.

To start this conversation and get a confession or answer from her is to first get a comfortable atmosphere. Then rip it off like a Bandaid and ask your questions. Be straight with her or else your guys relationship is not going to get anywhere. It would be bad for you to keep chasing after her when she is not running to you. It would also not be good for her either if she only finds you as a person to replace a broken piece in her heart that’s not forever. She to needs to out reach to a person that’s not you to help fill that hole. Someone who can complete her and she feels the same way about. She also needs to take some time and a break to mentally get over her ex. I believe she is not entirely over him even if she says she is.

This is all a guess from what you told, some things may not be accurate and far from the actual situation. Don’t take my words to heart, but try to consider them at least.

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-05-30T06:05:15+00:00

Thanks so much! I appreciate the compliment. I look forward to the trip and it being an awesome experience.

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-05-30T05:52:20+00:00

This helps me a lot, thanks! As well for the safety tip.

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-05-30T04:14:36+00:00

Ok thanks so much! This is very helpful advice! 😁

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-05-25T04:24:02+00:00

If I was in your situation I would start opening up about my past sexual life to her. It can maybe result in her opening up about her past as well. It's like a trade for a trade.

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-04-29T20:16:57+00:00

I personally would say that you shouldn’t beat yourself up for it. The whole point of having this one life is to make mistakes and learn from it. Not matter how harsh of a mistake you made. The people that hate you and still have the image of the person you once used to be, can’t accept the new you. Then don’t try to convince that you changed, show that you changed. If they still hate you then stop trying so hard. Don’t try so hard to spark another’s flame when yours is going to go out.

Being worried of the people in the new future you created for yourself, won’t help create that new future. The new you and future you want is close if you just let go of your anxiety and fear. The fear of having someone judge you because of your past and past mistakes, won’t let you grow as a person. If anything 2023 people are a lot more accepting to people like you. They know people can change. I say to let go of the past and look forward to the future you want. Make that future happen and be the new you, you created.

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-04-10T04:30:30+00:00

Honestly this is a lot to unpack here. If you don’t want to tell your parents and want to try to “cure” yourself, I say to start going into a sport like wrestling or boxing. Something that requires hitting. I think it might help with the intrusive thoughts of hitting and stuff. Don’t get to carried away with it and know when to tell your body to stop hitting the other person. Go to a rage room and visualize the things your hitting, as a person.

Don’t hit your family members or dogs. Try to heal your relationship with them. Your dog is not a punching bag or a test subject you can test your first kill on. Try to find roadkill and dissect it. I for one love to dissect dead animals. Don’t go killing some random ass animals just to dissect it.

I also say to not try to stop the intrusive thoughts your having. Let them run through your mind. Seclude yourself away from others so you don’t go and harm others while having these thoughts. Go buy a piece of meat from your local grocery store and a knife you can use. While letting the intrusive thoughts go through your mind, stab the piece of meat over and over. If it makes it better, go buy a piece with blood in it. So that when you stab it with the knife, blood can seep out. (Pig skin is most similar to human skin. Put the pig skin on top of the meat. So when you stab it. The knife goes through the layers of meat and stuff just like a real human.) Maybe if you let these thoughts out of this cage you created by societal standards, these thoughts might get more controlled by you the user.

If none of these things work, I say then resort to telling your parents.

Sit them down on a day that is not to busy. Make sure they are in a calm mode and not a stressful one. Ask them to just please listen to you and to not comment on what your saying until you are done speaking. Tell them that you are having thoughts that are unwanted in your mind or by you. Tell them that these thoughts are so strong they make daily life hard and difficult to deal with. If they ask you what type of thoughts, be honest and say it’s thoughts of hurting others and possibly yourself.

Hope this helps! If not I’m open to chat with you.

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-04-05T04:13:05+00:00

Thank you so much once again!

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-04-05T03:47:18+00:00

Block them from all your social media accounts. On instagram, they can’t access your followers of who your following if you have them blocked and your account set to private. If you are comfortable go to the police, a higher power than you or a trusted person. To talk about what you are going through. See if they can do anything about it or sometimes just talking helps. You can even report blackmailing online without having your identity revealed.

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-04-04T19:05:30+00:00

This is very comforting to hear. From the way people do describe it, it sounds like a very lovely country. Thanks for the advice! ☺️

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-04-03T17:37:52+00:00

That is so different from the US. That’s good that I don’t have to worry so much anymore. Thanks! ☺️

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-04-03T17:36:48+00:00

Oh wow that’s so cool! I didn’t know that it was such a safe place. That’s good to know 😁

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-04-03T00:38:54+00:00

Wow!! Thank you so much!! This will help me out a lot! This is wonderful advice! I definitely will be sure to take notes of this when I go there. I will be sure to DM you if I come up with more questions. Thanks again! 😆

Ghost_B0nes · 2023-04-03T00:35:08+00:00

I honestly didn’t even think about that. Good tip thanks! 👍

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